When are you officially "single" ?

[Tayken]

Yes Tayken I agree, however, I didn't mean the legal definition or what would apply in court. I actually meant that in one's personal behavior, being loyally committed is a personal choice or state of mind.

If society defines the Rules of Law and doesn't expect people to meet expectations of the emotional/moral requirements of marriage the "institute" itself is of little value.

Today, being loyal and committed doesn't win you any favour in the court or the negotiation process. Many people think it does still but, in society it really has no impact. In fact, we are now a society that expects and anticipates the failure of relationships rather than a society that see's value in it and works to support relationships (marriage).

Being "committed" is a personal choice but, expecting the other person you are in a relationship can always change their mind. They may have sworn an oath to marriage, signed a document but, all that really boils down to really a party (wedding) if one (or both) of the who people change their opinion.

I am surprised that Ashley Madison doesn't advertise the facts of extramarital affairs and the non-issue it is for the courts and having some fun won't impact your divorce if you get caught.

Good Luck!
Tayken

 

[mumster1964]

now if law could just keep up with society......if its no big deal then why spousal support? why not just keep what ever is yours and call it a day?

of course children still need support but the rest of the hogwash should be done away with regardless of the circumstances.

 

[Tayken]

now if law could just keep up with society......if its no big deal then why spousal support? why not just keep what ever is yours and call it a day?

Spousal support is gender neutral and has nothing to do with the adult relationship but the financial relationship. (See my previous post.)

of course children still need support but the rest of the hogwash should be done away with regardless of the circumstances.

There are no hard set rules on "spousal support" and they can only be ordered or agreed upon. Ultimately, if you disagree with spousal support the only answer to the debate is a full trial on the matter.

Don't disagree that better Rules not "guide lines" need to be put in place regarding spousal support similar to CS. The challenge is that the arguments made for and against it are dynamic to the individual circumstances. SS is not an automatic determination... Something that needs to be fixed in the FLR and Divorce Act.

Good Luck!
Tayken

 

[atlanticcanadian]

I was divorced the day I filed back and went to single the day I officially received my divorce certificate. Married 21 years, with him for 23 years. Love it. I say divorced on my tax records though.