what is reasonable time to wait for a response
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NBDad
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It the issue is time sensitive you should already know when you need an answer by. I'm an IT geek, so I try and use the rule of 80-20. (Basic IT concept where your system should never be running over 80% capacity more than 20% of the time.)
I find it works well for communications and timelines as well. Whatever the cutoff time you really need, subtract 20%.
Or in my case divide it in half and then subtract 20. But my ex is nucking futs.
I find it works well for communications and timelines as well. Whatever the cutoff time you really need, subtract 20%.
Or in my case divide it in half and then subtract 20. But my ex is nucking futs.
If you are having difficulty getting answers, it might be a good idea to ask your ex to reply by a certain date. Give the ex a reasonable amount of time, like a week to reply. For example, "Please reply by Saturday October 13th." It is also best to always correspond via email rather than texts. If the issue is time sensitive and a week is not reasonable then it might be a good idea to state that clearly in the email and ask for a reply asap.
I think logic would dictate, to me anyhow, if it is a serious matter to pick up the phone and call if you are so concerned about getting an answer right away.
I'm surprised you don't not already have a plan of action for emergency situations especially if all communication is to be done in writing.
I'm surprised you don't not already have a plan of action for emergency situations especially if all communication is to be done in writing.
tugofwar
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I have tried everything! A week and still no response even after a follow up quick text to ask if they can provide me with a answer (a simple yes no get back to you whould do just fine)
I try to keep all communications via email but then apparently they do not check their emails often (ok business is linked to the same email address) my messages went into spam, they were not able to make it thru the whole message etc etc etc. Oh and would like to speak in person as emails are informal...lol
I text them when I need to relay information asap or need a quick answer but now text messages are not being returned etc. Im tired of waiting days or even a week for responses. I usually give them a set time cut off to reply and if I send another email, text they freak out and ask me to stop harassing them! Im at a no win situation......
Nothing in our order states how we should communicate... I don't like making calls unless it is absolutely important or an emergency.
I try to keep all communications via email but then apparently they do not check their emails often (ok business is linked to the same email address) my messages went into spam, they were not able to make it thru the whole message etc etc etc. Oh and would like to speak in person as emails are informal...lol
I text them when I need to relay information asap or need a quick answer but now text messages are not being returned etc. Im tired of waiting days or even a week for responses. I usually give them a set time cut off to reply and if I send another email, text they freak out and ask me to stop harassing them! Im at a no win situation......
Nothing in our order states how we should communicate... I don't like making calls unless it is absolutely important or an emergency.
tugofwar
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How do you handle an ex who thinks meeting in a neutral place to discuss issues works? In the past this has not worked out to be beneficial in any ways and always ends up not even discussing things directly relating to our child. And in the past I have accepted to their request to sit Down and they ignore it. I don't feel comfortable and not sure what can be accomplished by these meetings other than to record etc the conversation. Emails work only when both parties use it.
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you can try it and as soon as the topic strays then remind them what you are suppose to be talking about and if they wish to talk about other things then you will leave. If they persist then get up and walk out.
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