what docs to give to Ex for disclosure

[ddol1]

keeping this simple, been told several things but I look here for opinions of this who know what should be done.

Since my financials do go all the way back to the date of marriage, the disability funds that were saved for retirement and not to the house, cars, vacations having been paid out all the way to the first year of marriage
>1 - The lawyer does want a copy of everything right to the beginning if it envolves what happened over the years (yes because of my medical ups and downs my ex did have joint access to all my accounts to manage when I was not able.... over the years it became our way and was never questioned - untill just a couple of years ago when I got sick and now upon discovery only much after the fact. It explained her allusiveness to disclose what was really going on during this time.

>2 - I have gathered all the financial documents (after she refused to diclose anything), but which should I give her a copy of at this point? I just do not want to make problems where I do not have to by giving more than necessary. These days I just do not know what if anything anymore????

 

[May_May]

Why aren't you giving it to her lawyer as opposed to directly to her ?

RRSPs, Pension, Mortgage, Deed, Credit Cards, Line of Credit, Bonds, Bank account info and balances, three recent paystubs, 3 years worth of T4's/income tax statements, current bills (lease, hydro, water, electrical, phone) and I'm not sure what else...

 

[ddol1]

Hi May_May, I not allowed and regardless I have no plans now or in the next decade or..... perhaps 3! to do anything direct with her. What I find myself in is a scheduled break with my lawyer out of the office for the next two ot three weeks. I did ask nicely at our last sit down on Thursday afternoon and then, again, as pleasant reminder in the email he asked me to send to both himself and his assistant Friday morning.

I admit that my arrest issue sidetracked the focus of our meeting which was to settle the completion of the 13.1 which I admit I had so many question marks from about the mid point on. I had asked him or his assistant to well give me a simple bullet point list for dummies (that would be me!! - humour in there .... just in case) of what he needed from me in order of priority and if he could "detail" the list just enough to me to "reconfigure" how I put my financial info together so he can enter one line answers in that 13.1 form:

I did a pretty good job at gathering the documents and the paper trails with each issue in its seperate folder (27 main folders in all). I can't work on the fly and at $275 an hour for his time I strongly feel that what we did was not an effective use of his billable hours and in the end we barely made any headway on the 13.1!!!!! (first hour was the details to my being removed from the home and the legal status of that and the second was realizing that what I had and my ability to - it was a waste of an hour.

I didn't get the return answer to what he needs/wants which was a tad disappointing but he was pressed for time Friday. I do have two whole weeks to get things reorganized so we can get the support part filed on his return without "sitting at his desk for 10 hours".

I am on the gabby side again so I stop here - I did figure that if I was coping I would do extra copies (for her if she will have to get one from me - I would hand it to my lawyer on his return).

I am going to put one more question out there in a few minutes about the "discovery"