What did you do with your ring?

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Just out of curiousity I am wondering what people choose to do with their engagement/wedding rings?

When did you stop wearing them?
Did you save them?
For yourself?
Your kids
Did you sell them?
toss them off a bridge ?
Did you make another peice of jewelery with them?

Just basically curious.. i have been thinking alot about how marriage starts with a big ceremony and yet a divorce is just all paperwork and nothing symbolic to mark the end of the relationship. Like a funeral:rolleyes:

I noticed in the jewish faith they have something called a Ghet which is a basically a jewish divorce. Sounded really interesting and I am looking at other ideas of getting closure and toying with different ideas. Would be interested in what other people have done.

Jenny
 
YoYo

YoYo

Well, from personal experience, while going through a potential seperation/divorce ... mine comes on and off sometimes like a yoyo! ;)

Hubby
 
I'm keeping my ring, I will give it to one of my daughters down the road.

When my divorce is finally over, (I've been at it for 3 years) I'm going to celebrate. Throw a big party. Including a bond fire where I will burn all the lawyer letters and "ugly" affidavits. I'll just keep the necessary court orders. A friend of mine had a party when her divorce was final. She called it her "I Will Survive" Party. I think I will call mine, "Finally Moving On".
 
my ring

my ring

Well, back in the day my ex wanted it very badly <think to give to his newest girl, as she still has it> but what I did as I was not working and it was xmas I sold him my ring it was a full carrot, for 400 bucks worked for me to get te kids gifts that yr
 
hubby - maybe you need a nice string for that yo yo - i mean ring ;-) just kidding. I hope it all works out with the reconcilation or the separation - whichever way it goes.

Grace --I LOVE your idea with your party and bonfire. That rocks:cool: Hopefully it wont drag on too much longer for you- I've read your posts and can't believe you are still at this after all this time. From a selfish point of view it is good to benefit from all you've learned in this time period:D

Mom2two-- I can't believe the gf would WANT the ring from him -ewwwww. I know I wouldn't want a symbol of a bf's love to another woman -- no matter how nice! a full carrot for 400 bucks wow:eek:
 
ya, NO kidding,

ya, NO kidding,

ya, no kidding I actualy, wonder Where the ring came from to begin with after the sneeky sale, as I dont think she even knew that I did wear the ring first, but for me, hey what the heak, I didnt want that anymore, 400 bucks was much yummier to me at the time, so I figured it was a win for me for sure
 
I stopped wearing my ring shortly after separation. I knew in my heart that there would be no reconciliation between us. I took my ring to a jewellers and had it restyled. It gave me some closure as well as a new ring to wear :-)
 
Jenny,

Great idea about the string and turning the ring into a true yo-yo ... hmm, wonder is spouse would not mind me giving it to one of the kids! ;)

Hubby
 
You could take the ring and turn it into something new, like another piece of jewelry. It might be better just to pawn the ring off entirely if it brings back bad memories.
 
Zeppgirl,

When I look at my ring, I remember the love we shared, the trying times, the fun times, the challenges and it just brings tears to my eyes.

The Word is that "Love never fails" and I'm holding onto that truth till my dying breath!

Hubby

Heck, now I gotta go get a kleenex to wipe my eyes!
 
Julie,

The memories one experiences is a matter of ... choice. I prefer to remember her for all the good and fun she brought into my life and most importantly for being a great mom and my best friend. The ring is just a symbol of a great journey we had promised to begin and share with one another , seems I will end the journey without her, I'm saddened but have come to accept her decsion ...

I've come to learn much about love in the past 6 months than I have in my entire life ... my last request was to learn about letting go ... I know not how He will teach me this lesson, only that in His time he will reveal what I need to know.

Hubby
 
My sister pawned her ring. She didn't get much for it as her husband was a cheapo. Still it was better than hanging on to it and the bad memories it contained.
 
I think

I think

Im going to tie my ring to a balloon and let go of it, and let it float away just like my marriage did. Let go of the ring and let go of the past.
SHJ
 
How did you toss it? just threw it out. I want to get rid of the ring but want something ceremonial , like springheeled jack with his balloon. Or having a long walk, listening to music that means something to me and then letting it go over a bridge or something. I don't know. Still haven't done much with it.
 
nope no ceremony - that's what got me into this mess in the first place. I didn't want to put anymore energy of what was something I had hope it would be.
 
When we first separated, I couldn't bring myself to take mine off (I'm pretty sure he had his off before he ever told me he was leaving). When I finally realized there was no hope of a reconcilliation, it broke my heart to take them off. I put them in a box along with all the other momentos of our life together and placed the box out of sight (out of mind). I had no idea what I would ever do with the contents of the box. Seeing them only brought me to tears but, I couldn't even consider getting rid of them.

Months later (14 to be exact), I was cleaning out my storage area and came across the box. I felt.....nothing. Whatever feelings that had once been attached to those rings were long gone. I do still have my engagement ring as it was once my Mothers (tucked safely away in my jewelry box). We didn't have any children together (although he was a step-father to my 3) so I didn't concern myself with saving the wedding band. I sold the wedding band to a local pawn shop just before Christmas last year. The gentleman at the pawn shop was a little leary of buying the ring. I told him either he bought it or it was headed for the bottom of the lake ;)

I found the whole experience to be very liberating.
 
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