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I received a vm from my ex last night.
Hi it's me

I hope you are not screening your calls.

I have something very important to talk to you about. I hope you call me back.
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Yup I was screening my calls and no I didn't call her back.

This morning I sent her an email saying

If you have something really important to talk about it should be sent via email.



Thanks
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Here response

This can't be sent in email
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I replied saying then it's not that important and I don't need to know.

I have a feeling she is pregnant. I received a Similac "Welcome to the club" package at the house last week. I gave it to her the next morning when she dropped off the kids. A couple of other strange requests as well.

If it is that I don't see how it is important.
 
Probably wise.
Good for you.

I receive similar requests from my ex. "I've left you this message, and you need to call me right now." (with no details).

I always followup with an email,
"Received a voice-mail from you, but you didn't say what it pertained to. So I'm checking in with you, about what it was about?"

Shows I'm responding. It has *never* been an emergency, when she demands a "phone call".
 
And her response

No it's plenty important like I said it can't discussed in an email so maybe I was wrong in thinking we could talk about it. You have no problem talking to me when it's important to you I see how it is.

Sent from my iPhone
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And I'm done with this, I'm not responding and will continue to not answer her calls.

She is going to see me at some point and corner me to tell me. I'm not playing a game.

The only thing I ever talk to her about is the kids and if it's important always via email.
 
FB_ said:
...I have a feeling she is pregnant....

If it is that I don't see how it is important.
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Well, do you share children with her, yourself?

If so, in some respects it would be important to know she's pregnant.

Yeah, ok... Maybe here is some drama in there and it's not an emergency that you know...

But if you have kids together, and they will soon have a little brother or sister, that's important for your kids. And therefore important for you to know.

I agree however, that the whole 'we have to talk' is a little over the top. Attention seeking to be sure.
 
My guess would be that she wants to change CS due to expecting and does not want it in writting but that just a guess. IMO.

Ex's never seem to go away! Good luck!
 
FB_ said:
And her response



And I'm done with this, I'm not responding and will continue to not answer her calls.

She is going to see me at some point and corner me to tell me. I'm not playing a game.

The only thing I ever talk to her about is the kids and if it's important always via email.
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Good call. Just walk away. She'll email you the info if it's really that important for you to know.
 
good_mom said:
My guess would be that she wants to change CS due to expecting and does not want it in writting but that just a guess. IMO.

Ex's never seem to go away! Good luck!
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This is my guess.

Is this considered a material change in circumstances?
 
FB_ said:
Is this considered a material change in circumstances?
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That certainly is a change in material circumstance.
However, assuming it is not you she is pregnant by, your CS obligations are not affected by how many children he has. Only by how many children she has by you.
 
wretchedotis said:
That certainly is a change in material circumstance.
However, assuming it is not you she is pregnant by, your CS obligations are not affected by how many children he has. Only by how many children she has by you.
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I'm thinking she's going to tell me she can't drive the kids to school on her days...since she will be on Mat leave...

I pay off-set and her income will no doubt go down.

Again I'm totally speculating...Best to wait to hear what she actually needs to say...
 
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FB_ said:
I'm thinking she's going to tell me she can't drive the kids to school on her days...since she will be on Mat leave...

I pay off-set and her income will no doubt go down.

Again I'm totally speculating...Best to wait to hear what she actually needs to say...
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If that was the case, would that be intentional underemployment?
 
FB_ said:
I'm thinking she's going to tell me she can't drive the kids to school on her days...since she will be on Mat leave...
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In conjunction with her choice to move out of the child's primary area, to move to another city, if I recall correctly?
 
dad2bandm said:
In conjunction with her choice to move out of the child's primary area, to move to another city, if I recall correctly?
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Correct.

I have maintained that it is her intention, and have confirmation of this plan from a third party (hearsay), to eventually get the kids registered at school in her new city.

That is why she was so angry when I gave our separation agreement to the school where it outlined that the children are to remain in that school.
 
She's just being dramatic. It could be anything. Speculating at this point is just a waste of your time and energy.

Unless she's trying to plot illegal activity with you, there is nothing that can't be communicated in an email.

If it is a pregnancy, then make her take you to court to change the CS, and try to have her imputed to her normal income because having children is a choice that should be made with taking her current financial obligations into consideration. Rent doesn't go down while people are on mat leave. Nor should CS. And if she can't drive the children to school, offer to take them full time during the school year during her mat leave. Your agreement about them staying in the current school shouldn't change.
 
Rioe said:
If it is a pregnancy, then make her take you to court to change the CS, and try to have her imputed to her normal income because having children is a choice that should be made with taking her current financial obligations into consideration...
...Your agreement about them staying in the current school shouldn't change.
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Very much in agreement with this.
 
Rioe said:
She's just being dramatic. It could be anything. Speculating at this point is just a waste of your time and energy.

Unless she's trying to plot illegal activity with you, there is nothing that can't be communicated in an email.

If it is a pregnancy, then make her take you to court to change the CS, and try to have her imputed to her normal income because having children is a choice that should be made with taking her current financial obligations into consideration. Rent doesn't go down while people are on mat leave. Nor should CS. And if she can't drive the children to school, offer to take them full time during the school year during her mat leave. Your agreement about them staying in the current school shouldn't change.
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^^^^ Rioe is very smart.

There is case law to this point... If you need someone to research it FB_ just post a new message thread to my attention and I will find loads of it for you.

Good Luck!
Tayken
 
I think you are playing this wrong FB.

You sound bitter (I know your story so I understand) however you now have everything you want.

Speak to her, record the conversation if you need to.

In quebec you can lose shared custody of the kids for not having good minimal communications.

Knowledge is power, let her talk to you and spill her beans - don't respond just say I see.
 
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