VIDEO: Interview with Carey Linde - MUST SEE

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I am not sure that anyone saw it but I felt need to make sure those who did not see it have a chance to know about it and watch it.

Carey Linde Interview - Part 1

Carey Linde Interview - Part 2

Carey Linde Interview - Part 3

I think it very interesting interview. There is a lot of interesting topics covered. You can have more details about Carey Linde on his web site. I read all his materials back in 2011. I even tried to use it in court (not sure it make any difference as there is some issue by submitting articles to court) but I remember I choked when I was reading that in court.

Visit is a term we use when we set a person apart in some fundamental way from others at the same location. A visitor is a guest in the home, and without thinking about it, every time we use this term to denote the time our children spend with their father, we're endorsing a destructive idea. We're telling the children that after the divorce, their association with their father must be transformed into something less than a normal parent-child relationship. So, rather than reassure children that they have not lost a parent as a result of the divorce, we give them the message that the father is devalued. He's no longer essential in their eyes. He's no longer a parent, in the same sense as he was before the divorce. When we restrict their contact with their father to every other weekend, then we remove the relationship from a natural daily interaction and we transplant it to the artificial turf of the weekends that are crowded with entertainment and gifts, for when his children become guests, it follows that the father must now be a host. He must entertain the guest, and, of course, this is what many divorced fathers do. In fact, so many fathers do it that the phrase, "Disneyland Dad," is commonly used to describe the altered relationship.

Divorced fathers become recreational directors. The research shows that
homework and chores are no longer their concern. Conflict is minimized. Fun
time is maximized. But, eventually, the visiting relationship wears thin. Everyone senses that something has been lost. The father-child relationship is no long as rich. It is no longer as comfortable. It is no longer as gratifying as before the divorce. Two weeks worth of living do not compress easily into two days. And, this is one reason why so many divorced fathers who dearly love their children and work hard to support them during the marriage, gradually drift out of their lives.” 15
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Full paper A CASE FOR FATHERS AND CO-PARENTING by Carey Linde if you are into reading this kind of materials.

WD

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I am wondering what would Taken said regarding that interview ;). Good thing I have an opportunity to discuss it just not on the forum...
 
I only watched the first 5 or 6 minutes of first video for now and, for me, it already it raised an interesting question.

Re: The hypocritical lawyer who argued that her Father client should be awarded more than his EOW access and thirty minutes later argued another case in favour of her client Mother that the EOW the NCP got was more than enough access.

I wonder if putting this type of lawyer on the stand and producing case law that they argue both sides of the coin would be a wise strategy?

Would the lawyer just state that they were only representing their clients wants/requests/demands, to the best of their ability?

If so, I guess that's just more proof that (this type of) lawyer really doesn't give a sh!t about the best interests of the child.

Either way....

Huge thank you to WD for all the links you provided. I will be reading and watching over and over in the next few months.
 
Thanks for this material....interesting read
The points on page 23 under the heading Gatekeeper of the attached pdf is interesting and you don't have to be a genius to figure why those mothers are denying the fathers the visit
 
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I think it very interesting interview. I even tried to use it in court (not sure it make any difference as there is some issue by submitting articles to court) choked when I was reading that in court.

WD

PS:
I am wondering what would Taken said regarding that interview ;). Good thing I have an opportunity to discuss it just not on the forum...
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Thank you so much for posting this WorkingDad, this is unbelievably inspiring and practical to many of us here on the forum, and beyond.

I truly would like to hear what Tayken has to say on this. Mess, Hammer Dad, Hadenough, involveddad75, Rioe, and others, what's your feedback?

Let's get the discussion going on this!
 
Enjoying the article. Made it to page 27 with some skimming involved. Really nothing surprising though. This is the one that I always find surprising. Still collecting dust
Parliamentary Joint Committees - SJCA - ARCHIVE (36-1) - Reports and Government Responses

Its a long read but you can go through and I believe it is a reputable source. People will argue most other articles and studies but this one is pretty conclusive. Not much has changed though since it was written.
 
I'm flattered my opinion was solicited, but unlike Tayken I simply don't have time to read, watch and analyze this sort of thing.

However, from what I did skim, I bet he was a very good lawyer for his clients, and that he probably billed them accordingly. However, unless he becomes a judge, a politician or a law professor, I doubt his personal integrity is going to bring much-needed change to family law.
 
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