Under Table Income

[Brampton33]

I am sure this thread already exists, but I had a hard time finding one similar using the search. We have joint custody and 50/50 parenting and court proceedings completed.

My ex, throughout the separation, has proven herself to be a self-absorbed schemer. Purposefully delayed the court proceedings and graduated parenting plan to reach 50/50 to optimize extent of Table CS. Very obvious to everyone and did not hide it at all.

Our CS is now offset, much to the chagrin of my ex. So my ex has started working at her family business on weekends, while pawning the kids off to spend weekends with grandparents. I would estimate she likely racks in an extra $1000/month or $12k per year.....but all paid cash in hand.

Is there anything I can do when it comes to financial exchange to call her out on her extra income?

 

[kate331]

Although I know it's beneficial for children to spend time with their grandparents, they aren't their parents. If your available as a parent on the weekends she is working, then I'd ask for that parenting time.

Not the answering you asked for but something to consider.

 

[respondent]

If she was making extra 100k a year, then hiring private detective and making a motion could be justified, but for 12K a year is ain't worth it. You can still ask her to provide sworn disclosure about her all employments. What could however happen she'll tell she works at their relatives for free or nearly free

 

[Bogdan]

Agree with respondent -- it's not worth it.

I am dealing with a very similar issue albeit with a larger $$ amount ... I've accepted that I will never see the offset, and my ex will fight tooth and nail for this.

Same with the grand parents issue ( I also have the same issue lol) ... from my understanding Right of First refusal is discouraged for High Conflict anyways. Ignore it. Reframe it as a win ... it's just less time that your ex is spending with your kids which is only further solidifying you as the better parent.

 

[terryfyde]

Although I know it's beneficial for children to spend time with their grandparents, they aren't their parents. If your available as a parent on the weekends she is working, then I'd ask for that parenting time.

Agree with respondent -- it's not worth it.
Same with the grand parents issue ( I also have the same issue lol) ... from my understanding Right of First refusal is discouraged for High Conflict anyways. Ignore it. Reframe it as a win ... it's just less time that your ex is spending with your kids which is only further solidifying you as the better parent.

Asking with hand held out like asking for change. Not entitled to it and not recommended with any high conflict pairing as it would be used by one party cause a stir with the other.

If she was making extra 100k a year, then hiring private detective and making a motion could be justified, but for 12K a year is ain't worth it. You can still ask her to provide sworn disclosure about her all employments. What could however happen she'll tell she works at their relatives for free or nearly free

Agree with respondent -- it's not worth it.
I am dealing with a very similar issue albeit with a larger $$ amount ... I've accepted that I will never see the offset, and my ex will fight tooth and nail for this.

It is her parents giving her money, no PI is going to be able to prove that one. "I was just visiting my parents at their work"

Poster KCC has knowledge of how to ask for financial records and might reveal those details.

 

[Tayken]

Agree with respondent -- it's not worth it.

I am dealing with a very similar issue albeit with a larger $$ amount ... I've accepted that I will never see the offset, and my ex will fight tooth and nail for this.

Same with the grand parents issue ( I also have the same issue lol) ... from my understanding Right of First refusal is discouraged for High Conflict anyways. Ignore it. Reframe it as a win ... it's just less time that your ex is spending with your kids which is only further solidifying you as the better parent.

BINGO! I agree with the bolt point above 100%. Grandparents will never replace a parent.