Tayken
Well-known member
Paco, that quote above is all one sentence. Before proceeding to "defend" yourself really contemplate what you have written above.
1. I have offered advice based on statements (direct quotes I add) to your own words. How those words can possibly harm you, your position and more importantly your relationship with your children. It is simply not a judging you, it is leveraging your own statements and providing a different perspective.
2. Review what OrleansLawyer has written above. Really consider it. Seriously consider it. Try to answer his questions... If not on this forum at least to yourself!
3. "when you have to fight with a system" - You are not fighting a system. Until you realize this you will find no "success" in what you are trying to achieve on your file. You are not "fighting" with anyone but yourself possibly. Do consider that.
4. "continuously trying to isolate them from me, creating a status quo by abuse and deceit" - As you are the only person that truly knows what is occuring on your file it is hard to respond to statements like this. What you need to understand is that it is all in how you approach the situation. Have you ever considered that the one who is isolating themselves in this situation is you? Your conduct, anger and anxieties may in fact be the reason you are where you are. Please consider OrleansLawyer's comment about seeking a therapist out.
5. Your life is not a Beastie Boys video and you don't have to "fight for (your) rights as an equal paaaaaaaaaarrrrrrreeeeeeeennnnntttttt!" By "fighting" you may very well be demonstrating to the court that you are not capable of being an 'equal parent'.
6. Equal parents don't fight each other to parent. They cooperate and collaborate. They don't attack and "fight"...
So, you fired a professional you hired to assist you? One that is educated and has experience in Family Law? Do you think that was a good idea considering the feedback you are getting from very senior respondents on this forum?
I don't believe your tactics of aggression that you are demonstrating here are going to bring you any closure in your matter.
"I hesitate not to pronounce, that every person who is their own lawyer, has a fool for a client."
Consider this case law before proceeding on trying to alledge that the other parent doesn't communicate.
CanLII - 2011 ONSC 4305 (CanLII)
It isn't complicated really. Most people "believe" that they need to communicate daily with the other parent to successfully have joint custody and equal residency of children. In fact, you don't need much communication if your children do not have any special needs. The most successful situations are when the parents communicate as little as possible and in a parallel style of equal parenting.
I would disagree based on my limited interactions with you on this forum. You don't take feedback well. Your communication style is very aggressive in nature and you play the role of a "systemic victim" in your responses. It doesn't surprise me that the other party brought the matter to court and that you have subsequently "fired" your lawyer...
You fire professionals when they disagree with you... You think the "system" is against you...
Really think hard about your conduct and how you respond to this message. Take your time really thinking this all over...
Good Luck!
Tayken
