Transportation

Im not sure what i need to do in regards to transportation.
couldnt tell u..anymore....
penalty sysytem?
believe i have seprated the travel and transportation...?
What do people do with their transportation costs for visitation and access or summer care? or even transportation of their child etc when they ahev them? why isnt there some kind of standard? is there?

I think maybe I will just do a yearly/monthly breakdown of car/mileage costs thats basic care...and use this as an example?
i am my sons taxi driver...not theirs...or should i be and suck it up?
and ur right...
i can only let him if i dont stand up for myself
thats why i thought a penalty system would serve here...?
that maybe he would stop if there was documentation and a charge for it over family wizard? he cant fudge he didnt show up and cant fudge he "forgot the winter coat"...can he? family wizard has the visitation sked, the emials, the info etc...so its all there.
so if he starts playing games...its there. so why shoudlnt there be a charge for playing games?

or if his family doesnt show up on the agreed time ...then they forfeit? instead of me driving around the city tracking people down? or drive my son over becuase they decided that I would, at a new time and place?

Child activities: are sorted out...i pay 1600/he pays his protion of 75%=max 1200 GARNISHED per year. now my son can be registered in whatever fits and he is interested in. i think thats reasonable amount per year.

French education: over and above section 7 activities, ex wants control over french and has final decision on french. im obligated to transport. he can register his son or pay someone whatever. he has to consult me. (Im not sure how this will go or if he will try to make my life hell). I have agreed and will regret it, Im sure.

The receipts are uploaded and submitted as they are made and paid by me to the family wizard website.
Hands washed of that.... (Except taxes and breaks?) another thread to search..

Child support i recieve is 407.00 per month. no activities no daycare nothing else. It was based his word at that time on the interm order (im stupid). Im lucky they garnsihed at all and i had the forsight to sign the enrollment for maintenance. no spousal and no settlement for house, furniture etc. i left with my sons crib.
i just signed that away I believe.
Private school, I am paying the whole lot. I agreed to that. (The details are the same he changed his mind once ethe bill came to be paid)

My ex actually lived in the same city. He has moved 2 times. HE moved. I didnt. The visitation t/th is obsolete and doesnt cover anything.
I found out further info on salary etc shortly after, he had misinformed court and moved assets and property out of his name...etc...

At one point the recalcualtion service accepted the info he provided listing his move even when he was living in the province. It wasnt true...but it put a stop to recalculation and no court order was done nor able once he moved out of the province. He provided them his letter of offer and the start date of the postion not realizing that the position would be handled from his residence and office location within the province. recalcualtion was not concerned with the details only that he was no longer within their province.

u see where it goes....

I tried to informed myself and tried over the years to collect outstanding section 7 daycare/expenses etc. I settled on the nice round figure of 5,000. for him not paying for years.... off hand the total claimed by me was 42,000.
thats everything retro child support, daycare and activities...
5, 000 settled that.

I consider myself lucky to get 407.00 from 9 yrs ago.
I have demanding over the years for financial disclosure, reciepts etc. and judge has asked him to supply in case confences again almost every year. the judge almost actually got angry at him last august.

Lots of foot dragging, or providing it in french and asking for items to be translated etc. lots of letters back and forth between counsel.

His income is over the guidelines and wants the moving costs deducted, the travel costs deducted, car expenses and mileage deducted...
Recently, he is wanting also claim his expenses for his son that he spends with him and is demanding to review my expenses. not sure if i will bother...why should i? but thought to be prepared and not offer it up....
ipad: Issue that he provided an ipad and is forcing me to maintian his sons daily contact from 6-8pm every day. I say forced...becuase he can contact anytime all day everyday already. Basically wants me home every night and tripped out a few days ago becuase I went to the dentist (515p) with my son and arrived home at 7p. which he was aware of and started to threaten legal action becuase i was keeping his son away from him. (finger circles head). It didnt matter that he had spoken 3 times to his son that day...I also stated that to court when we discussed facetime/skype etc. anytime...but putting specific times everyday...isnt realistic and it will cause grief. it has BUT COST for apps? for kid downloading stuff and charging my cc? charges for that? shared epxense? or constant monitoring? grounding of son? no electrnics except talking to his dad
and how about chatting online and giving his dad my passwords and info?
Suddenly he has my email again etc...or my son walking around the house while im sitting in my ginch? its a nightmare. (another thread)
Anyway..family wizard and an agreement in place is the only hope i have.

And he is claiming undue hardship, or trying to but not a chance in hell with his income and assets (i did some research).

The only reciepts he was able to provide was his companies expense report for moving, which u can see is paid fully by the company with the company card, and states that in the contract promotion letter (which I have Half of, as his lawyer had to disclose that).
He has admitted that he has NOT paid any travel to visit his son for the last 8 yrs plus..his company has. thats why he doesnt have receipts...but wants it deducted anyway...and no retroactive.

He doesnt have receipts for car mileage etc, nor travel reciepts etickets.
any eticket and reciept for travel shows his companys card, company discount, purchased by the company. I have travel knowledge and able to read ailrline fare structures and have consulted a travel agent who can back it up. I have spoken at length with his HR and they are on an honor system.

I dont know which way to turn or look at this thing anymore.
Im in circles and in the hamster wheel.
I think if there is any final agreement in my hand in the next few weeks...I will be ECSTATIC. I am willing to accept about anything.
 
Honestly... I can't even follow what you are saying... you need to stop with these long winded posts and make it simple for people to follow so they can help you.

In 5 sentences for less explain what your issue is with transportation? Use bullet points if you have to.

Break it out like this...


  • His annual income
  • His current CS per month
  • Your annual income (for section 7 reasons)
  • Approximate distance from your place to his
  • When are his parenting days
  • When are his families visitation days


Start there... just a couple sentences... don't go on and on... answer the simple bullet points above and help us understand so we can help you.
 
His annaul income: 152,000 (agreed 129,000)

Current CS: 407.00 (to be updated 1072)

My annual income: 37,900

I live in Manitoba, He lives in Quebec

His parenting days every 4 weeks from Thursday 3p to Monday 830am/ with 28 flex days to add on if he desires no more then 7 days/holidays one day extended/excluding vacations

His family's days are one sunday a month from 2-7p/ and an evening during the month at their discretion
 
I agree that your posts are very difficult to follow. Let me see if I can extract your difficulties.

Problem - Your ex makes lots of money but is self-employed and concealing income. CS in your agreement is under what he ought to be paying.

Solution - Take him to court to have the CS updated to his current income. If his financial disclosure seems fishy, ask that a more appropriate income be imputed to him. Provide the judge with any proof (organized proof!) you have of his true income.

Problem - Your ex moved far away, and gets the CS reduced due to his travel costs. He then fabricates costs that he doesn't incur.

Solution - Take him to court and have the judge firm up the travel obligations. Bring proof that he isn't incurring what he says he is, and ask that the travel cost reductions be eliminated. Or bring proof that average travel costs from his location to yours for four days would be X amount (shouldn't be hard for a travel agent to calculate!) and ask that this amount only be deducted, and no more than that.

Problem - Your ex wants you available at home for two hours every evening in case he might call.

Solution - Unless it's in your agreement, ignore his phone calls except on one night a week or whatever you think is reasonable. How old is your child? He can answer the phone himself or not, as he wishes. If it is in your agreement, take him to court to have it changed to something more reasonable. Provide proof for the judge that this demand prevents the child from doing typical evening activities.

Problem - Your ex tells you what to do, which apparently involves a lot of driving.

Solution - You have final decision-making, after consultation. Make those final decisions instead of caving in, if what your ex wants is not in your son's best interests. You don't need to drive all over town at his whim unless you feel it is something important for your kid. Your ex wants a particular daycare across town and you want your parents to look after your son? Presto, you've consulted him, his desire is not feasible and so your parents are your final choice.

Problem - Your ex has final say about French education, and uses it to inconvenience you.

Solution - Grin and bear it. If it's truly unreasonable, like enrolling him in a school across town instead of a similar one in your neighbourhood, take him to court and ask that the judge put limits. But it may not feel so annoying once you put your foot down about all the other things you CAN affect.

Problem - Your ex won't pay his fair section 7 share for things like private school.

Solution - Enroll in public school. Or take him to court to have the school fees done through FRO.

Problem - Your ex makes you do a bunch of driving whenever his family wants to see the child.

Solution - You drop off the child once a month, for the beginning of your ex's parenting time, and do one pick up at the end. He can then involve his family as much or as little as he wishes. Otherwise, just keep the ex's family informed of the child's activities, and if they choose to attend any, it is up to them.

Problem - Your ex doesn't return the clothes you send with the child for his monthly parenting time.

Solution - Send only the clothes your kid is about to outgrow anyway. Buy cheap clothes to send for those few days. Value Village is your friend.


I've missed a few issues, I'm sure of it, but you get the picture. Instead of being overwhelmed by the whole situation and jumbling it all together, identify each piece of it and figure out what to do individually.
 
Typically I would suggest that you split transportation 50/50. Your ex can arrange to pick up the kids at the beginning of his access time should he want to see the kids and you pick up at the end of his access time. This will avoid all the arguing and the costs will be split.

Also, just a FYI as we were told either parent is not obligated to take the kids to extra curricular's f they so choose not to on their access time or it has not been agreed to on that parents access time.

Depending on the distance and amount of driving he can request a reduction off Child Support should he be responsible for all the transportation.
 
I have not kept up to date on original poster's situation, but why are you traversing across the country if your ex keeps relocating? Is there a reason for these moves?

There are 4 different provinces so far if I recall correctly?
 
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