The Perils of Social Media

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This is a sad story of such a beautiful young lady....hope the group anonymous follows through with it...someone needs to stop this bullying madness

Source: Rehtaeh Parson suicide: Anonymous threatens to out boys involved in rape | Canada | News | National Post

Another reason for people to educate their kids about the other side of social media sites. Teenagers are quick to splash all their business online for all to see, and don't realize that once it's out there, you don't own it anymore

The same goes for sexting, no matter how cute you think that guy is or how he resembles Justin Bieber, it's not a valid reason to be sending him provocative pictures of yourself that will only end up doing the rounds with his friends.....mothers really need to drive this home with their daughters, instead of trying to be their friends.

Also, some of these teenagers will probably want to run for some important Govt job in the future, and those pictures might come back and hunt them
 
this is so sad, police are so quick to charge DV even when they know its false, yet here pictures have been circulated and proper investigation could have certainly let to the origins hence uncovering the perpetrators but the cops chose to refrain. thats just beyond comprehension
 
Well...if the cops aren't going to do their jobs, the group 'Anonymous' will, and am sure the world will love them more for it ;)
And these little pricks will get the message then that there is zero tolerance for abuse, sexual assualt, molesting, circulating compromising situation pictures et al

At the same time, like I said prior, young teenage girls need to wake up and smell the roses. They need to be able to distinguish between what is reality and fiction. Just because you think a teenage boy is cute and you have a crush on him, doesn't mean he is not going to hurt you.
 
Certainly took the local police a long time to investigate the complaint. And that made those kids feel like they got away with it, that gave them the confidence to taunt her.

It is very sad, a young life destroyed. Social media may have made it more visible, but the initial incident and taunting afterwards could have happened in the days before social media for certain.
 
A similar thing happened to the son or daughter of the Ottawa Sens assitant coach 2 years ago....facebook bullying of the teenager, which led to suicide.

Even after the sad occurence, the nitwits felt the need to go on the condolence page that was setup for the teen, and defaced it by taking the head off and replacing it with someone else's head :rolleyes:

Like I said before, everyone is against capital punishment until it hits close to home. Public flogging for graffiti or public disturbance like they have in Singapore and other places doesn't seem to bad after all (Case of the American that Clinton pleaded for years back)

There needs to be a serious deterrant in place for people
 
Are you sure about the bullying in the Ottawa Sens case? Her cousin was in a group with my daughter. I know about another event - details that did not make it to mainstream media.

I commend the Nova Scotia mom for coming forward. Given the details available, you can understand how this snowballed - how social media makes strangers looking for a thrill, peers with an axe to grind, whoever... witness to a shameful event.

If we are the focus of an attack, we can imagine the worst (especially a typically self-conscious teenager) - we are totally unaware of the support or potential support that is out there. I can only imagine the emotional pain that young woman experienced before making that horrible choice.

I absolutely hate that this is happening. We need to give kids perspective - whether they are an audience, a victim or a wannabe attacker.

I like the "You are Not Alone" commercial - seen on CTV. If a teen knows that that some "sh*ts" do not actually speak for the majority, it is easier to cope, rise above attempts to exclude, ridicule, etc.

Also, other people are more likely to question what did happen - not just what was alleged.

That's where there is the greatest leverage - the so called bystanders stepping up.

A teen was beat up earlier this week in Ottawa. She is fighting back with the support of her parents and the media. One of the attackers has already expressed remorse in an interview.

It starts with human nature; social media has changed the dynamic - very bad outcomes at times. There are ways to minimize potential damage, keep things cohesive, positive. I hope.
 
There needs to be most serious accountability for teenagers who carry on this way. I don't think they should be allowed to hide behind the young offender's act. If you're old enough to behave like a barbarian, you're old enough to be treated like one.

Anonymous did a lot of work on a rape case in the states that had received almost no press and was being pretty much covered up by the school involved, until Anonymous starting d0xing and releasing names, and staging protests. They worked their butts off to get people to pay attention to what was going on.

They're not perfect, but at least they care when the authorities would rather ignore the problem.

We need a Guy Fawkes smiley on here :D
 
Abeona said:
There needs to be most serious accountability for teenagers who carry on this way. I don't think they should be allowed to hide behind the young offender's act. If you're old enough to behave like a barbarian, you're old enough to be treated like one.
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I agree, it also behoves parents to educate their kids about online activities. Nobody thinks it's going to happen to them until it does. Again I keep going back to the daughters, always quick to put up provocative pictures of themselves...where are the parents when they are doing this, too busy friending their own kids? It's obvious why the girls do it, to get attention (what they hope is the right one)

Yes people should be allowed to wear what they want and post what they want, but unfortunately we don't live in that Utopian world.

Unfortunately the law is what it is, and until they turn 18, they are just that...minors.
 
oink said:
I agree, it also behoves parents to educate their kids about online activities. Nobody thinks it's going to happen to them until it does. Again I keep going back to the daughters, always quick to put up provocative pictures of themselves...where are the parents when they are doing this, too busy friending their own kids? It's obvious why the girls do it, to get attention (what they hope is the right one)

Yes people should be allowed to wear what they want and post what they want, but unfortunately we don't live in that Utopian world.

Unfortunately the law is what it is, and until they turn 18, they are just that...minors.
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My kids mother and I both see everything my kids post on FB. I don't ignore any of it. I check out who they are friending, and how secure their pictures are (friends or friends of friends only).

And they know that. And they behave accordingly.
 
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My kids mother and I both see everything my kids post on FB. I don't ignore any of it. I check out who they are friending, and how secure their pictures are (friends or friends of friends only).

And they know that. And they behave accordingly.
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I think that's awesome Downtrodden. However, I don't think we know the capabilities that these sites have and neither do the children.

Quite frankly, social media is a scary thing. What is scarier is the fact that the children are being taught how to use these instruments. Just last week I had discovered that my ten year old had created a you tube account and had been making videos and posting them. I THOUGHT I was a vigilant mother.:(

I honestly fear for her safety. She is incredibly book smart, but extremely gullible and I can say that she would be the 'kid' who would fall for a boyfriend sexting her and convincing her to send photos.

So, until I can find her a stainless steel bubble I will continue to fret and learn as much as I can so I can try to keep her as safe as possible. Seems like no one else cares.
 
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I think that's awesome Downtrodden. However, I don't think we know the capabilities that these sites have and neither do the children.

Quite frankly, social media is a scary thing. What is scarier is the fact that the children are being taught how to use these instruments. Just last week I had discovered that my ten year old had created a you tube account and had been making videos and posting them. I THOUGHT I was a vigilant mother.:(

I honestly fear for her safety. She is incredibly book smart, but extremely gullible and I can say that she would be the 'kid' who would fall for a boyfriend sexting her and convincing her to send photos.

So, until I can find her a stainless steel bubble I will continue to fret and learn as much as I can so I can try to keep her as safe as possible. Seems like no one else cares.
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Of course it depends on the child. My youngest doesn't use it much, my middle daughter is 17 and does use FB a fair amount. We have a good relationship, and I know what she is doing. My son doesn't use it at all.

For a ten year old, I would insist that you be able to look over her should any time at all.
 
DowntroddenDad said:
my middle daughter is 17 and does use FB a fair amount. We have a good relationship, and I know what she is doing.
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Really...you stand by those words that you "know what she is doing", or what she wants you to think she is doing?

I hope you are right mate ;)
 
oink said:
Really...you stand by those words that you "know what she is doing", or what she wants you to think she is doing?

I hope you are right mate ;)
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I hope so too. I do spend one on one time with her, and she is fairly open about her interest in boys, and what is going on in her life. I am going to be taking her shopping for a prom dress soon.....
 
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I hope so too. I do spend one on one time with her, and she is fairly open about her interest in boys, and what is going on in her life. I am going to be taking her shopping for a prom dress soon.....
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You know the saying...when you have a boy, you only have to worry about one willy, but when you have a girl......
 
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