DowntroddenDad
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I didn't go onto FRO willingly, our agreement stated we wouldn't go there unless I went into arrears. I thought I had wangled a concession out of my ex on that point, but two weeks after the SA was signed my ex contacted them anyway, and they will enforce a signed SA, even though I hadn't even filed for divorce yet.
Just before the end of June, my ex's relationship with our son broke down. He had been enrolled at an alternative school, and wasn't technically a full time student and he turned 19 in February, but I paid CS anyway since I wanted him to continue to focus on studies and not work full time until he finished high school.
Anyway she called me in June and said, "He can't stay here, its you or a shelter". I had never refused him and had encouraged him to consider moving in with me a number of times. I have a 2 bedroom for that purpose. He always wanted to be in the same place as his sisters.
So I moved him in. I informed my ex via email that I would seek to end support. I called my agent at FRO, and she told me to fill in a form and send it to them. I kept paying the regular amount, and hoped it would go quickly.
Long story short, I called before the end of August to see whether I would still need to pay the full amount for September. They informed me that my ex had not replied to the letter they sent but had verbally not disputed it. As a result the case was sent to senior management for review.
I called yesterday, got a call back today. Management have reviewed my case and determined that my support should be lowered and that it should be retroactive to July 1(first full month). Therefore I should have a major credit with FRO. They will confirm with a letter that will go out today.
So it would seem FRO can get it right, and this was a lot cheaper than court, or even a stern letter from a lawyer.
I'd feel sorry for my ex if she hadn't made out like a bandit during the NFP.
Just before the end of June, my ex's relationship with our son broke down. He had been enrolled at an alternative school, and wasn't technically a full time student and he turned 19 in February, but I paid CS anyway since I wanted him to continue to focus on studies and not work full time until he finished high school.
Anyway she called me in June and said, "He can't stay here, its you or a shelter". I had never refused him and had encouraged him to consider moving in with me a number of times. I have a 2 bedroom for that purpose. He always wanted to be in the same place as his sisters.
So I moved him in. I informed my ex via email that I would seek to end support. I called my agent at FRO, and she told me to fill in a form and send it to them. I kept paying the regular amount, and hoped it would go quickly.
Long story short, I called before the end of August to see whether I would still need to pay the full amount for September. They informed me that my ex had not replied to the letter they sent but had verbally not disputed it. As a result the case was sent to senior management for review.
I called yesterday, got a call back today. Management have reviewed my case and determined that my support should be lowered and that it should be retroactive to July 1(first full month). Therefore I should have a major credit with FRO. They will confirm with a letter that will go out today.
So it would seem FRO can get it right, and this was a lot cheaper than court, or even a stern letter from a lawyer.
I'd feel sorry for my ex if she hadn't made out like a bandit during the NFP.