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After two bouts of litigation in two different jurasdictions, this time around my esteemed ex-wife settled the day trial was to commence.

I was successfuly able to wrangle a paralell parenting arrangement out of her - with final say on specific subjects laying with me, and others laying with her.

This has been my goal the entire time - to have a legitmate voice on matters of our mutual sons upbringing, and not be regulated to the sidelines as a mere observer to his life.

I want to thank each and every one of you who helped me both emotionally and technically with the ins/outs of the legal process.

I would also like to take this opportunity to say that with perserverence and dedication it IS possible to reach a tenable agreement on the issues. Don't give up on the fight, or your children.
 
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This is fantastic news!!! Very happy for you and your children, hopefully things moving forward will be a little easier!
 
wretchedotis said:
After two bouts of litigation in two different jurasdictions, this time around my esteemed ex-wife settled the day trial was to commence.

I was successfuly able to wrangle a paralell parenting arrangement out of her - with final say on specific subjects laying with me, and others laying with her.

This has been my goal the entire time - to have a legitmate voice on matters of our mutual sons upbringing, and not be regulated to the sidelines as a mere observer to his life.

I want to thank each and every one of you who helped me both emotionally and technically with the ins/outs of the legal process.

I would also like to take this opportunity to say that with perserverence and dedication it IS possible to reach a tenable agreement on the issues. Don't give up on the fight, or your children.
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Congrats!!!
did you get to use what you asked me to send you recently?
 
Well done. Excellent news! Happy for you and your son and very glad your ex saw sense, even if it was at the last minute. I hope things just keep looking up for you.
 
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After two bouts of litigation in two different jurasdictions, this time around my esteemed ex-wife settled the day trial was to commence.

I was successfuly able to wrangle a paralell parenting arrangement out of her - with final say on specific subjects laying with me, and others laying with her.

This has been my goal the entire time - to have a legitmate voice on matters of our mutual sons upbringing, and not be regulated to the sidelines as a mere observer to his life.

I want to thank each and every one of you who helped me both emotionally and technically with the ins/outs of the legal process.

I would also like to take this opportunity to say that with perserverence and dedication it IS possible to reach a tenable agreement on the issues. Don't give up on the fight, or your children.
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We can now add WO to the list of parents who have benefited from doing the right thing, understanding case law, understanding the "best interests" of children and doing what is right.

Congratulations. Hopefully the existing case law constantly shared by others on this site regarding Parallel Parenting, what defines Parallel Parenting and when it should be implemented was helpful.

Hopefully the agreement reached is marked *final* so it takes a material change in circumstance to reopen litigation.

Good Luck!
Tayken
 
Congrats. The fight is exhausting. I do believe the "other side" hopes that we will just give up. But good for you for persisting in your child's interests.
 
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Congrats!! Hope you are feeling less wretched!!!
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a little less wretched - but the whole experience has sucked, and I'm not naive enough to believe that this will be the last time we go to court. Seems she thrives on conflict - even now some 5 years later...

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I'm going on 4 years "in" - Pretty sure I haven't seen the last of Court. I now believe the ex just really misses me lol and doesn't realize it so he keeps me engaged, knowing that he can/will only ever see me in a Court of one kind or another. It really is brutal, going thru shit like this. For now, bask in your huge leap "ahead" and know that you had and have a lot of guts to stay on course. I hate court issues, but my ex leaves me no choice. I never did have a "custody/access" issue. To that, I can't relate. It has got to be excruciating!
 
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I'm going on 4 years "in" - Pretty sure I haven't seen the last of Court. I now believe the ex just really misses me lol and doesn't realize it so he keeps me engaged, knowing that he can/will only ever see me in a Court of one kind or another. It really is brutal, going thru shit like this. For now, bask in your huge leap "ahead" and know that you had and have a lot of guts to stay on course. I hate court issues, but my ex leaves me no choice. I never did have a "custody/access" issue. To that, I can't relate. It has got to be excruciating!
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Funny you say 'ex just really misses me'.
We had opportunity to sit together and speak during breaks for lunch and whatnot.
We really don't talk at all anymore - as her (not so new anymore) husband takes real issue with us being alone together. But the first question she asked me was (relating to a brief period of time after we broke up) "why did you stop calling me? It was like you suddenly flipped a swirch and started ignoring me".

To which I answered "I tried very hard for a very long time to 'talk' about everything with you. We watched a movie at your new apartment one night, and it got late so you suggested I should go home and that she would invite me back to watch the rest of it soon".

Well, I waitied for that invitation - and it never came. So I stopped calling.

But to me (tell me if I'm wrong) she wanted my affection - and when it stopped she was upset about it. Oh well, don't leave the man you love is my response.

Nevermind - yes I still have issues about it all...LOL
 
Good for you and hope you don't have more litigation ahead. Wishing you peace, happiness and good times with the family.
 
WO: *sigh* Hard to say... Maybe some things left unsaid. Ha, new (or not so new husband) not very secure, is he?
 
a very neutral and poilte response, hadenough. Who knows what goes through the mind of others? I sure don't. Al I know for sure is that this whole process didn't need to be as adversarial as it was. But then again the whole system of court and law is very much 'adversarial' in reality.

It would be nice f it was possible to change it to a 'co-operative' angle instead. At least where Family Law is concerned.

I read the posts on this forum from new (and some old) members (myself not necessarily excluded) and can only see the venom of the immediate emotions therein. I wish there was some other avenue than LAWYERS to mitigate that.

Every child involved would be so much better off.
 
Yes, if only... A lot of time and money wasted fighting. Life is about so much more. Still waiting (hoping) for mine to "start." I haven't looked at any of my early posts. They are probably pretty similar to what they are now, although I think I've learned quite a bit. I've still got venom in me. I don't know what to do with it. Some days are better than others. Me and ex not talking is a very wise decision.

I don't have anything to say to him. It shouldn't be that way though for anyone. But there's the way it ought to be, and there's the way it is. Just have to be grateful if the kid(s) are happy and healthy :)
 
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