Spousal support if he moves in with me

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nmhanlon

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My dad is ill, I mean he shouldn't be working, he has COPD and Emphazyma (sp) and he looks way older than he should.
I am bringing him to live with me. My mother is still hounding him for spousal, she only works part time driving a bus but the courts won't make her look for something full time, and she lives on her friends couch.
If he moves in with me, does he still have to pay her, he will only be receiving ei for a while after moving in, then it will be my husband and I taking care of him.
Thanks so much in advance
 
If my ex were to move in with his sister or other relative he would indeed have to pay spousal support. It is hardly relevant.

If you were wise you would stay out of the SS issue. It is a matter between your parents. Your father can go to court and file for a reduction in SS due to change of circumstances. He will have to do that, not you.

Your father could apply for his old age pension a/o disability. If he is incapable of working he shouldn't be claiming EI anyhow. You could then look into claiming him as a dependant adult (I believe it would require medical certification) at tax time.
 
EI provides sickness benefits short term. If this is long term he should apply for ODSP (in Ontario) and if it seems to be permanent, CPP.

This should be sorted out with medical verification. He should then file with the courts to change any order for spousal.

It is unclear from your post if there actually is an order for spousal. If the ex is just "hounding" then I would ignore it.
 
there is an order in place, he however is too sick to work.
I would much rather him be with me, and me take care of him at this time of his life. If he gets healthier and is able to return to work, fine. For now this is my job as his child to make sure he's well taken care of ....
My mother is a literal blood sucker. She's always taught me to rip people off, and to milk the system. In fact she's the one who ruined my credit when I was 17.

That aside. I will let them hash it out, as it may be, but he will be in my care when it happens.
Thanks for all the responses :)
 
have you checked with social services to see if there is help available for him in your home? I am not sure but revenue Canada may give some sort of credits to help you get your place ready for him to move in. Also check with the heart and lung association to see if they have any resources for you.

At least you have proven that one can rise above the way their parents are/were. Your mother doesn't sound like a very nice person.
 
Thank you I will check out those resources. I have 3 kids in this house plus my husband, he's military, and a master corporal so he makes good money, to the point where I don't have to work even. My dad won't cost us much more in food given his health that's for sure. I just think it would help him to be close to his only grandchildren and away from being alone and forced to work. He could freelance mechanical work here easily enough at my home.
 
nmhanlon said:
Thank you I will check out those resources. I have 3 kids in this house plus my husband, he's military, and a master corporal so he makes good money, to the point where I don't have to work even. My dad won't cost us much more in food given his health that's for sure. I just think it would help him to be close to his only grandchildren and away from being alone and forced to work. He could freelance mechanical work here easily enough at my home.
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aww nice. Looks like you have it all in hand. You are doing a wonderful thing taking your father in.

Just check for what things can benefit him and help you with his care.
 
I hope your home is designated as "non smoking" and, if your COPD father is a smoker, you will encourage smoking cessation.
 
What I would do I I were you:
-Get a medical proof that he should or should not/cannot work.

I am not sure if a judge would award spousal support based on the fact he is being supported by his children.

In other cases a child receiving support from a wealthy parent can sometimes get dinged with support.
 
Many people with COPD do in fact work. The medical documentation (from a specialist) would have to be a very concise diagnosis and specifically state that he was unable to work whatsoever, in any capacity.
 
I SAW THIS LAST NIGHT..... and I stewed over what the not so difficult decision was - and it came down to parents and what values they have and how they instill them into their children. That in the end it is not what you can do for ourselves but others, a stranger that can use "a hand up" your child that needs to know they are loved for just who they are. What I read here really hit home for not the positive aspects of what see as unconditional love but for a person who may never had the role model when she was a little girl and how true we often become the product of our parents.

And here how easy it can be to manipulate the one's we love..... and the emotions that just poured out to read the true feelings of what is obviously a great hearted individual who was "strong enough" to break such a destructive cycle and become a person that is so much bigger and stronger -- a person that any loving parent would be proud. For this I can only say to this person, "Thank you for giving hope to at least one other person today that there still remains a chance........."
 
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