severly alienated child

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There is a single parent whose ex lives in another province and seems to be a deadbeat parent. I know that parent fought for custody but since didn't win, apparently wasn't much involved besides CS. Now there seems to be PAS going on. The kid who is 6 or 7 is thought that the NCP kicked him out of the house, deprived him of food etc....which is not true. The kid hates the NCS so much that says the worst things.

Would you call CAS on this case?
 
CAS won't do a damn thing. Also... It's really not that easy to comment on people who aren't here on the forum, speaking for themselves.
 
hadenough said:
CAS won't do a damn thing. Also... It's really not that easy to comment on people who aren't here on the forum, speaking for themselves.
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Arent all the members here with 1 sided stories? And why wouldnt the cas do nothing about it if a child is thought to hate his parent and saying it publicly?
 
iceberg said:
Arent all the members here with 1 sided stories? And why wouldnt the cas do nothing about it if a child is thought to hate his parent and saying it publicly?
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yes it is one sided stories on here but you are asking a question where you are not even one of the two involved.

If the parent in question has proof then call CAS and see what they say.
 
I would suggest that the parent read the book divorce poison.

Also document the statements they are saying. once they have several documented statements (I'm guess they are from Facebook or email).
then they can show how a child 6 or 7 is making statements they should know anything about. Then can then take that to CAS, or court to seek a change.
 
All I know fir a fact that this child has been told million lies about his father. When the father from another province tried to establish video contact, the mother coached the child to avoid it. He even says he wants to kill his dad.

Now, I dont give a rat"s ass about this alienating bitch of a mother nor the deadbeat bitch of a father but the fact is the father did not kick the kid out nor deprive him of food. In fact they had a costly court battle about the kid. I remember years ago when his father said to her, while she was visiting relatives here, dont ever come back and i want my the child back.
So it just hurts me seeing this kid growing up brainwashed with lies about his father. The kid is the only victim here.

BTW, once the father visited or sent gifts to his son, and he was so happy but the mother got afraid he might wish to visit his dad and took action.
 
Given your own legal woes, it's thoughtful of you to have sympathy, but you should focus on the obstacles and hurdles that you must overcome and not whoever these people are. It seems you are adding an extra burden of worry onto yourself, in doing so. Just my observation.
 
its obvious you do not like either parent so where are you finding out your information from??

Like Hadenough said, focus on your own legal shit for right now. Let the father and mother of that child work it out themselves.
 
Oh you are right its none of my business and Im not worrying about it but if you scroll up my question is clear.

I just see this kid as a victim. They say PAS is a mental illness. So what crossed my mind was, is there a way the mother stops this? The kid is only 6 or 7 so it can be fixed. I could have asked cas or someone else but I put the question here to see what would other people do.
 
I met with my lawyer Friday and he told me of a case he has where the mother trumped up charges against the father. (My lawyer's firm focuses on men's rights. I didn't realize this at the time when I retained him.) Child protection services has investigated and cleared the father. Three separate psychologist reports recommend father not be denied access to children. Lawyer and father have even offered gradual access. Mother still refuses father access. My lawyer mentioned that when it comes to child custody Alberta is archaic compared to Ontario. The investigating 3rd party are private companies - not part of the provincial government (as I had thought).

Depending upon what province your friends live in, the access/custody process could perhaps be fueling the PAS.
 
The dad is not involved at all. I doubt he is trying to get any access. The point is this kid is being poisoned by his mom by making a monster of his father.
 
iceberg said:
BTW, once the father visited or sent gifts to his son, and he was so happy but the mother got afraid he might wish to visit his dad and took action.
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So, he has had some contact but very minimum. Why has the father not gone to court to address this? Why has he let this gone for so long?

It is obvious you are clearly affected by this case, and perhaps can see some similarities between your case and his.

But should you contact the CAS? I do not think they will do anything because it is not a child protection issue per se. Yes, I agree it is emotional harm but they will not intervene unless there is clear evidence of the child having behaviourial problems at school that may be related to what is happeninig at home. If the child is not exhibiting any such problems (which would be surprising) given the extreme situation "you describe," then there is no reason for them to step in.
 
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iceberg said:
The dad is not involved at all. I doubt he is trying to get any access. The point is this kid is being poisoned by his mom by making a monster of his father.
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you really do not know what is truly going on between those people so its best to stay out of it. Has either asked for your help?? How do you know them??
 
arabian said:
(My lawyer's firm focuses on men's rights. I didn't realize this at the time when I retained him.) .
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That must have been awkward, working with the enemy? :D

I have had to deal with opposite in mediation and with my first lawyer....they weren't even subliminal about it. I had to bite my tongue numerous times, and keep a decorum :rolleyes:

If these people are acting like this as lawyers, I'll hate to think of how they will act as police officers, university lecturer/professor or even a judge that had to make a rational ethical decision, but let their personal vendetta and agenda cloud their judgement
 
More do you how much the child himself is adding to the story, the fact that the child would publized may indicated an attemp to actually get his parents attention. Who knows really and I do not beleived as been outsider without evidence that you are in position to call CAS.

You might just make the matter worst.
 
So, he has had some contact but very minimum. Why has the father not gone to court to address this? Why has he let this gone for so long?

Cuz he is a deadbeat IMO

It is obvious you are clearly affected by this case, and perhaps can see some similarities between your case and his.

yes

But should you contact the CAS? I do not think they will do anything because it is not a child protection issue per se. Yes, I agree it is emotional harm but they will not intervene unless there is clear evidence of the child having behaviourial problems at school that may be related to what is happeninig at home. If the child is not exhibiting any such problems (which would be surprising) given the extreme situation "you describe," then there is no reason for them to step in.

Isn't that their job to investigate? IDK how the kid behaves in school but from what I have seen the kid could use some therapy. Not saying it is because of his father, many kids misbehave,, but the only fact I know this kid is thought to hate his father based mostly on lies.

And, many behavior problems rise up when kids are a bit older

Don't quote me on this but I believe in preschool a professional had to step up due to kid's misbehaving or something
 
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