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I am now self-repping. I do not have money for a lawyer in any event. Tried to get legal aid; but, they have not responded. Considering my employment income at this moment and where I do not qualify for other community supports, I doubt I will quality legal aid.

I have two questions:
1. Will my legal information need to be notarized/sworn?
2. If so, how do I do that?
3. My case hasn 't been set down for trial as the Court has requested more information from him so I assume they will request new information from me.
4. This question is for other people that have self-represented, how do I organize in Court to prove my statements.

I have already agreed to what my ex wants and I don't even know why we are going to Court. EEK
 
Find it strange too

Find it strange too

Considering I am agreeing to take less than even his lawyer put through considering his new income; but, they are insistent on going to Court and they want me to pay costs.

I don't want to go but agree to less than they are offering. WTF?
 
Threatening costs is standard. If you've accepted the offer and are being reasonable it's very unlikely you would ever be responsible for any costs. In fact it would seem likely the court proceedings will not go any further than a case conference or settlement conference.

Without more information, it simply sounds like your ex is out for "vengeance" and wants their "day in court" and to "make you pay". All of which are sentiments that are utterly useless in the dry, fact and evidence driven process in court.

Stick to the evidence and the prove your position and it sounds like there's an option of YOU asking for costs, as you had already accepted their offer and had no wish to litigate.
 
He submitted an application

He submitted an application

I dismissed my lawyer because he seems to want to fight causing me big time legal fees. I have moved on and am EXTREMELY happy single. I don't want big time spousal support either.

I have to go in self rep. I don't want to fight, argue or anything else. I just want what is just and fair for both of us to get on with our lives. It didn't work out. Bottom line. It is them that insists on fighting using legal means.

This situation I got myself in is ridiculous and childish and a waste of the court's time and it could be used better for children support or for children in need of protection.

I am sure some people on here may find my position laughable but it is how I feel.
 
We can give you a lot of help but you need to answer our questions.

Your ex must have made a formal offer. You should have responded to that offer, formally accepted. Is this the case? Do you have a record of your response (copy of your letter back?) Were there any limits on his offer, like "this is valid for 30 days?"

Has your ex filed an application with the courts, and have you been served, yes or no?

If he has filed, what is he seeking? Is it the same as the previous offer? How is it different? Is what he is seeking reasonable to you?

Going by what you have written, you would respond by stating that you already agreed to his terms and the court action is completely unnecessary. You attach as proof his letter of offer (which has to be the same as what he is seeking in court) and a copy of your acceptance.

That he would be initiating a law suit the way you describe it is pretty absurd. It would be thrown out of court and his lawyer would know that, no matter how much the lawyer wants to charge for the work. I think there must be more to the story here.
 
Mess said:
We can give you a lot of help but you need to answer our questions.

Your ex must have made a formal offer. You should have responded to that offer, formally accepted. Is this the case? Do you have a record of your response (copy of your letter back?) Were there any limits on his offer, like "this is valid for 30 days?" I instructed my former lawyer to accept; however, my former lawyer did not respond to his lawyer. I have a record of the email.

Has your ex filed an application with the courts, and have you been served, yes or no? He has filed an application. I have not been served. The Court has gone back asking for further information from him. I have now asked for further information from him. I have not disclosed my information as of yet and am waiting for the Court for the word to disclose. It will be disclosed within hours of being asked and of being served. I am asking for a variation of a lower monetary value that what he is suggesting because what he is suggesting is well overwhelming. I am also suggesting a lower amount just to get it on time every month.

If he has filed, what is he seeking? Is it the same as the previous offer? How is it different? Is what he is seeking reasonable to you? He is seeking a reduction in spousal support. It is completely different and the amounts are outrageous. I find it reasonable but very unjust to him and his new family. Sorry, I have a high EQ.

Going by what you have written, you would respond by stating that you already agreed to his terms and the court action is completely unnecessary. You attach as proof his letter of offer (which has to be the same as what he is seeking in court) and a copy of your acceptance.

That he would be initiating a law suit the way you describe it is pretty absurd. It would be thrown out of court and his lawyer would know that, no matter how much the lawyer wants to charge for the work. I think there must be more to the story here.
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I thank you for responding Mess and you are oh so right but I am finding the whole matter absurd, ridiculous and childish and just a way for lawyers to make money. I can't speak for him but for me, it is definitely time to move on.
 
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Can I put through another offer to settle

Can I put through another offer to settle

Can I put through another offer to settle when it is set down for a hearing or can I do it before to avoid Court and if so, how do I do it so the lawyer gets it and puts it through to him to consider so that his and his new family's resources stops getting wasted.

Once again apologize for the high EQ
 
You can offer at any time. I wouldn't make too big a point saying that he's "wasting his family's resources" .. You may come off looking like you're "trying too hard to look caring" and you may appear fake. Silly, yes. But...

EQ = emotional intelligence or awareness. Who's to say who's more emotionally aware?
... Be careful of that. You will never be able to make everyone "right" to the way you feel is best, despite your good intentions, because everyone thinks and feels differently and has his/her own agenda, desires, plans for a happy life as they feel it.

I know it sounds cold, but do think of it (a little bit anyway) as a chess game .. or poker game .. or whatever works for you. Imagine how someone you look up to would handle it, and visualize and take from that person(s) the smart things that you know are right for you.

Personally, I would submit a well thought out offer .. via email cc'd to his lawyer and him .. and perhaps a registered letter. Not sure if you need to submit it to court (I don't think), but the answer to that is only a phone call away.

Good luck and best wishes.
 
Do I need a form to fill out

Do I need a form to fill out

Any Nova Scotians on here. Do I need a form to fill out for my offer to settle some issues.
 
How to ask for additional information

How to ask for additional information

Is there any idea how I would ask for additional information in my offer to settle?
 
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