Reply Form 10a good idea or not

[MrToronto]

Recieved an answer from ex on a motion to vary,(adult kid) the Financial Statement is practically worthless . I assume she's so over confident she doesn't bother to make her numbers add up...just over inflates everything and spits it out. We've been in and out of court for past decade and I'm pretty sure the judge's don't put much stock in financial disclosure but everytime I'm hopeful...lol. SO...question is can I fire back a form 10a reply about all the mistruths in her financial statement..is that what the forms for?(or is it just for replys against claims made?)........or bring it up when we set a case conf date....or put it in the case conf brief for the case conf. What's crazy is I'd love to trap her in her lies and force disclosure in a Case Conf but is giving her a heads up good prior to even setting a case conf appearance date a good or bad idea ...my heads spinning...lol

 

[May_May]

I need this answer as well. My lawyer is responding with an itemized list I have given her regarding 'false' claims in my ex's financial statement.

If there are forms she is supposed to be replying back with, I need to question this or get another lawyer.

 

[arabian]

you said it "been in court for over a decade..."

Is it worth it? I'm into year 3 and I'm tired and want to move on. Someone hopefully will slap me if things go for another..... 7 years??????

There is "right" and there is "stupid right." Life is short. Getting even and proving the ex is a big fat liar .... is it really worth it? Bottom line worth it? You have to ask yourself how long are you willing to carry on fighting. I"m all for standing up for the truth and one's injustices but at what cost? For how long?

If you really want to get even with your ex find some peace in your life.

 

[MrToronto]

I hear ya Arabian, believe me I grew up in a divorced household and never got a dime from dad, When divorce happen to me I swore I'd do everything my dad didn't "for the kids" sadly the ex never has moved on and still is trying her hardest to destroy my relationship with the kids, she views it as a game. her new game is around post secondary cost sharing...it's easy enough to sort out but as usual she makes it complicated in order to stress the kids out about money against myself. Both ex and I are well over 100k salaries and like I keep tellin juges...the monies there for the kids this shouldn't be an issue...then ex willl bring up wanting sp ex money for ball tossing class or something...and round and round we go...it's krazy the judges entertain every request she makes in that area...lol.......I walked by her once in court and muttered why she couldn't get a real hobby or study astronomy....her life is court ...her girfriends are all pro divorce..the kids tell me about the after court parties...ex brings her pals to court to join the circus...it's appalling....the ex and I are joined by the kids forever and just like I was unlucky in marriage ....I got an idiot for a divorce partner to go thru life with....oh well...hope ur ex dosen't like the limelight and attention of court I gave up trying to get away from my ex 5 years ago she won't go away and won't follow court orders....and now that the kids are over 20 and others are close behind...well it's easier not to suck up her crap it doesn't affect my relationship with kids and I got time to burn till retirement (no remarriage, no common-law..no nothing here ever in Canada the system destroyed that option which is sad for the country but u never say never...lol).

 

[arabian]

Mr. Toronto: Well you hit the nail on the head. My ex takes me to court every year. It's a real big event for him and his girlfriend. I always go alone with my lawyer. After court parties? You've got to be kidding me! One time my ex and his girlfriend tried to get a peace bond laid against me [I had put their garage door opener in their mail box after my ex had left it in my son's car by mistake]. This was approx. 6 months after I kicked my ex out of the house and filed for divorce. They got a pile of people to go to court that day. I opted not to go to court as I had a feeling it would be a gong show. I hired a criminal lawyer and the thing was tossed out of court. I did hear from the lawyer about the "gallery" of people there. Throughout the past 3 years my ex has always appeared with the girlfriend in tow. My lawyer loves it as he says it shows malice on my ex's part. Judges do notice this from time to time and it looks better that I'm on my own. To be honest I would bring anyone there anyhow as it is between my ex and myself. Yes I have the rest of my life to look forward to my ex taking me to court each year in his failed attempts to have spousal support eliminated. Waiting for this year's annual ruling. Hoping he has to start paying my lawyer's bills. Oh and yes he doesn't obey court orders and is in contempt. I'll let you know if a judge someday actually makes him accountable. If I knew what I know now about divorce I'd do a few things differently. Woulda-coulda-shoulda. Only court orders (aside from child custody things) that you can have enforced are monetary items through maintenance enforcement. That is something I didn't know. Contempt of court is a waste of time and money.