I’m still living in the home and the SS is not court ordered. A month before I was to go to court, my lawyer suggested an amount. That we both agreed to the amount. This was till we finally have a legal separation or divorce order. This was close to 1.5 years ago. With my cpp, the SS and with help from friend, family(s) I was able to maintain the house expenses and a basic life stile.
There was no formal agreement as for me staying in the house. The ex moved out 5years ago and couple of weeks after I relieved a letter till me that she moved out and that she stopped paying the mortgage (taxes in) and the house insurance, the month before.
I have always planed on living in this house. In her letter, “if I was going to live here then I will have to pay her mortgage and our house insurance”. (The property is in her name for the last 15 out of 33 years.) I used my savings for the first 3 years. When that was gone, this is when I stared looking for SS. (I’m not in the best of health. I’ve been in and out of the hospital the past 6.5 years). I have tried going back to work but it did not work out.
There is not much left on the mortgage. It is been renewed every 6 month for the past 2 years. As it goes down the cost is going higher (she is not trying to find good % rate.) With the changes to hydro, taxes, the higher mortgage payments and basic living, the monthly expenses are up 30 / 40 % depending on the month. This is also part of my realization on how things are looking.
I had an eye-opener this week and I can see now that our family matters is going to take a long time before it comes to an end. Life after marriage should not be like this, no matter who it touches. Looking at my age and health it is best that I plan for a different life than here at the matrimonial home. I’m going to ask my lawyer to make an offer to settle with some concision from me. I’m going to ask for a 30 day reply. If we could end this way and with an equalization that’s close to what I’m told it will be, I could then live here. If not then I would like to stop paying the mortgage and insurance and offer to pay the going rent in this area till this is over. If not then I move on, (soon.)
1-So how long could I stay before I’m told to move on?
2- Can I leave my half of the household stuff if and when I go? She did when she left.
TKU
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