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Ok, I hate sharing my grief but left with no alternative.

1. In 2000 my ex abandoned me and my three daughters. Youngest was still in diapers at a time when I ended up on disability because of a serious assault that almost killed me.

2. For three years I struggled with little income raising three girls on my own but still managed to impress many people with my efforts leaving people with the impression they still had a mother.

3. Children's Aid becomes involved because my mother's boyfriend was mad and made allegations against me because I wouldn't give them any money from a lawsuit that came out of the assault on me. The lawsuit was squashed because lawyers didn't want to pay anymore so I got nothing in the end

4. Children are taken away from me upon a violent apprehension that was video taped by neighbor. Police illegally took tape and erased it. Since then I've rarely seen my children since 2003.

5. I've tried so hard to reestablish my life. Took training only to find my industry fall through the floor. Still struggling with the brain damage and physical problems from the assault and other unrelated injuries. I've lost everything including the ability to see my children whom I miss so much.

6. With great shame I'm down to this laptop and a couple bags of cloths I hide around town so I can go to the library or find an open wireless connection in an attempt to find some form of money to survive. I've been eating at food banks, churches and hand outs. Sleeping where charity is given and shelters still trying to find my way out back to a standard of living I once had when I had a family, a home and three vehicles.

7. My old lawyer finally tracked me down and told me my ex is seeking contempt of court and putting me in jail and I still can't see my kids no find a way to get to them two hours away from me. I'd be too embarrassed anyway. The last thing I heard from them was "Daddy I miss the way things use to be" and they started to cry when I had to leave form my supervised visit in a tiny room like a criminal three years ago.

8. At this point I am seriously thinking of suicide.

9. What do I do?

zaphonn1 at hotmail.com
 
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Get yourself to a hospital for a voluntary 72 hour psychiatric assessment. You need more help than can be given here.
 
You need to take one step at a time, and that includes taking care of yourself. Your psychological health is over due for some serious help.
You need to address this before you can deal with any family law issues. Even the most level headed and emotional sound person has difficulty when being dragged through the FL system.

Your situation is serious and as stated you require a level of help we are unable to provide.
Once you have managed to stabilize your emotions, then and only then can you even begin to deal with determining what it is that the ex has in her contempt motion against you. At that point I'm sure this forum can offer advice on experiences in relation to yours.

Best of luck!
 
Trying to server me

Trying to server me

Right now I've been staying in Shelters and people's places out of charity. Despite my physical challenges and not being on disability anymore I'm determined to find rewarding work and my only prospects are only in US or UAE for what I trained as. There seems to be nothing for me here in Canada.

If I take a foreign job (job of a life time opportunity) I need to get a passport and still round up some money to go.

In the mean time my only form of communication is finding an open wireless connection and a free voip phone service for phone calls.

I have my ex trying to have me served in an attempt to get me thrown in jail for support I can't pay. One of these children are not even mine.

I can't provide a recent tax return because I haven't had the income nor money to have it filed.

I can't give a fixed address because I can't afford anywhere to stay at this moment.

Question: what happens to me if she can't have me served because I can't provide a stable location and I go where ever I can secure a small income?
 
Don't qualify

Don't qualify

Two things that don't qualify me for legal aid. Address of residence and proof of income.

Now, what happens if I can't be served because I have no stable address of residence and basically living on the street at times. I hope it gets warmer soon. Getting so tired of this. I hate this country!
 
the only advice I can give you is to contact a social services agency and tell them your story. They can help you get on track to get a roof over your head and the help. Contact the police and see where they can steer you towards victim services for the assult and get some help there. I know you are worried about what your ex may do but first you have to help yourself. Once you are situated then you can focus on the issues with the ex and seeing your kids. Tackle your issues one at a time. Trying to handle everything all at once is never a good idea, it gets too overwhelming.
 
Just a clear answer

Just a clear answer

Can I get just a simple answer.

What can she do if she can't find me to have me served. Can they still have me thrown in jail?
 
They could put out a warrant for your arrest, and when the police do catch up to you, it's where they will put you.
 
I may as well end it then

I may as well end it then

If that's the system we live in then I guess I may as well end it.

Nice country we live in when one is thrown in jail for not being able to provide something.

Watch the news people. I'm going to make sure someone knows why!
 
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If that's the system we live in then I guess I may as well end it.

Nice country we live in when one is thrown in jail for not being able to provide something.

Watch the news people. I'm going to make sure someone knows why!
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How selfish of you. Think of your kids and how they would feel. Are they not worth fighting for? If you think that the news will cover your suicide then you are wrong. There are people who kill themselves everyday, all you will be is a blip and forgotten. You want people to take notice, then fight!! Be a thorn in the side of every agency etc until you get the help you need and the justice you want. Show your kids that Daddy thought they were worth fighting for.
 
You make assumptions

You make assumptions

You have a lot of nerve making assumptions that I haven't fought. Even the two lawfirms when I did have some money shook their heads at the moronic rulings judges make against fathers and victims.

I had a $1.2 million lawsuit against the company responsible for what I suffer from to this day and guess what. It was taken away because of legislative reasons. Try bringing a lawsuit against an employer who is protected by legislation. If you think it was a smuck lawyer think again. The firm spent over $90,000.

Children's Aid is a joke too. Despite having hours recorded evidence of child abuse by my exe's common law. Guess what happens to me. I'm labeled the nut.

I've taken part in a video that went to the United Nations on human rights abuse in Canada something few people are even willing to acknowledge the United Nations has criticized Canada for. I've stood beside people who are psychologists, cancer specialists who have battled beside me and to this day see me with respect. I had a friend who was in politics for 22 years and after trying to help when we opened his eyes found himself threatened to back off or his daughter's children could be next.

I've appeared on national television for a news conference with 10 other people at parliament in their press room during a demonstration to help people like me.

You think I haven't fought. I've done more on 5 years then most people do in a lifetime and It's destroyed me and anyone else who has tried to fight.

You know nothing about what fighting really is, nor it's consequences.

Obviously this place lacks the intelligence I hoped it may have or you're an anomaly. What ever the case I've been beaten down so far I just don't care anymore.

As for my children, they already know how great their dad was because they too fought like rabid dogs when they were taken away. The whole thing was recorded by a neighbor only to be erased by the police later. There were 13 neighbors five of which were ordered back to their homes or they would be arrested. You tell me if I haven't fought and I didn't care how did I leave such an impact on a community that one individuals stated in court "He has done more as a single father then most two parent families"

You can't beat them!
 
Reading these posts and I am sick to my stomach. I have no idea how to help Nothing_Left, but there has to be somebody out there that can point him in a direction for solid help, that won't cost him anything. Do the moderators know of anything?

Are there any shelters for men? Any help for payers of CS that cannot live off what they have left? He is in dire straights.

I wish I knew what to say to you Nothing_Left. There are people out here like me that care about what you are going through, know how completely wrong it is, and want you to keep some hope.
 
It’s not that we don’t care, there really is not a lot we as individuals can do to help, we’ve all been there, however to start Nothing_Left can search the posts, I have posted many links to men’s support groups and sites geared to help men in just this situation.

The FL system is hugely flawed and until these flaws are addressed and changed there really isn’t a lot any one of us can do. The laws make far too many assumptions about the paying parent and as a result they cause financial strain unless that person is tricky enough to learn how to get an income without any one knowing about it, just to make enough to survive. They assume the paying parent is single and has minimal expenses, that the paying parent lives a bachelors life when in fact they have the same if not more expenses like maintain a home adequate enough to facilitate access other wise they will not be permitted access. As well as the costs to facilitate access, and possible a higher percentage of the section 7 expenses are covered by the paying parents.

Until these are changed there is no way for a paying parent to claim undue hardship.
And on the flip side there are those struggling just to have the noncustodial parent to meet their financial responsibilities and they too are suffering financially going into debt and claiming bankruptcy.

The system is flawed plane and simple and maybe media attention to this case, and others that happen every day is what is needed to get the government too sit up and take notice of the devastation caused by the existing laws on both sides.

Search the posts, you’ll find links and useful information to work with in the interim, best of luck to you.
 
I am a social worker and find this thread very disturbing.

Moderator is trying desperately to guide you NOthing Left to a mental health agency, which clearly you need right now. Nothing to be ashamed of.
However, you have no right to guilt others in this forum,, call names and threaten to harm yourself. This forum is for laymen's advice on issues related to divorce etc.

I have found this forum helpful for those who want to help themselves. The answers and advice are not always what you want to hear, but take it nicely and you choose what to do with it.

Any social services agency or mental health agency will assist you in your condition provided you act responsibly. When you have your basic needs straightened out...shelter, food..clothing...mental health...come back and avail of the advice of helpful people here.
 
This post is very disturbing. I suggest you stop all the useless ranting and raving. Part of your story does not make sense. You don't need money to file taxes. You just need to go to your local post office, pick up the forms and file if you can find a pen. You can use the address you had when you were employed. You say you have a disability but don't clarify what you can and can't do. If you can sit in front of a laptop like you say in the library then you can do data entry. If you can speak then you can do customer service. Try working for a month so that you can make first and last months rent on a simple room somewhere. That's a start. Wasting time complaining and not being productive for your kids is a waste of everyone's time. Also, you say you only had a supervised visit in a room, which to me sounds like an access centre. A judge usually orders this when they feel like there is a threat to the children. Otherwise you'd be getting regular visitation like every other non-threatening parent, even if you didn' t have money for child support. Something doesn't make sense here.
 
It might be a bit late, but they will not look too hard.
Also once on welfare they will leave you alone.
If you do end up in jail it will be for a very short time, tough it out.
Once your time is near it's end they will set up up with welfare.
There comes a time when you have to walk away.
The is a large percentage of members that have an axe to grind.
Go talk to other guys that work for cash or are homeless on the streets.
Not all street people have substance abuse problems.
Learn from them, there are places to hide, but you have to walk away with nothing. Never to have a bank account, drive a car, or have medical coverage. See jail as a rest, time to get medical attention, sleep inside on a bed and 3 meals a day. See if you can do your time in the colder months. Just become a drifter and keep moving head to were it's warm.
Think like an illegal alien which by the way have more freedom than you.
God speed
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