I am in a divorce battle with my spouse and 2 children are involved.
This is a huge problem. If you take the position that you are in a "battle" you are at war. No one wins in "divorce". Especially children will be harmed in "battle". I highly recommend you seek theraputic and legal counsel asap.
I have done one case conference and meditator session which failed and the meditator said I don't think we can come to any conclusion. I feel like I am not being heard because all my arguments and rationality is heavily evidence based.
Evidence based... As you are ITSupportGuy by name its clear you are an analytical thinker. Have you considered that your emotional state may be dirtying the data that you are calling "evidence based" and "rational". Evidence management is not clear cut and not a if-then-else function set. Its not a CASE STATEMENT. Evidence is weighted on the balance of probability and depends on critical factors of relevancy and cogency. You are in an emotional state where your evaluation of evidence, on the balance of probabilities, relevancy and cogent evidence is SIGNIFICANYLY deminished. You are a parent first, litigant second and if you are unrepresented by council you are also your own lawyer.
It takes SIGNIFICANT fortitude to be a parent, lawyer and litigant all at the same time. This is why the court system is backed up significantly. Because very few people can play this role and bring a matter to resolution. It is hard to even do when parents can see mostly eye-to-eye. When you start engaging into conflict everyone is looking at the sky and no one is looking at each other. This elongates the resolution to the problem significantly.
You are also looking for the courts to "fix" your problem but, it is your problem. You need to consider a wider viewpoint on how to resolve the issues and move everything forward for the sake of the children.
IIn the first case conference the judge basically just give general ideas of how things go, support calculator information etc. Meditation is also same, what I am claiming is heavily based on rationality and evidence but I feel like these people are busy discussing general guidelines.
Did you by chance look at that judge's docket for the day. I highly recommend you understand the time that is allocated to a case conference. Often parents waste this time trying to "argue" points that can only be done on motion. They often come out saying they were not being "heard" but, the reality is... Nothing but reasonable settlement happens at a Case Conference or Mediation. Nothing can be ordered. Only a MOTION, TRIAL or ARBITRATION results in an ORDER directing BOTH parents.
I do specific conversation but I feel like I am not being heard
Have you considered the following when you say "I feel like I am not being heard". A very wise judge in a court room once and has always stuck with me.
"Oh I hear you Mx. Person. What you are failing to understand is that I do not agree with you."
Lots of people rely upon this fallacy that stating "I am not being heard" as a project against the other party to the matter that they are not "listening". It poses the question to the person making the claim... Are you using this to try and settle, in your mind, an excuse as to why you didn't get your way? High conflict people often use the "I am not being heard" statement because, in "internet psychology" (not real!) the simple declaration of "not being heard" often is used as a weapon to call the other party a "narcissist". I note that this well documented behaviour pattern is occurring in your messages. Take a deep look at what you wrote and challenge yourself back on what is happening in the now and not projecting what "could" happen in the future.
Feels like I need to change my strategy. The person I am dealing with is undiagnosed BPD and her unstable sense of self makes the entire forms look weird because it feels like they are filled by 2 different persons. Even ChatGPT can see all the contradictions but maybe we only get a chance to discuss this at trail ?
If you are going to use ChatGTP some recommendations:
1. Load your whole case file. You will need to include all communications, emails, TXT, SMS, affidavits, briefs, etc... loaded
2. THe scope for which you are evaluating is very small and you will need to point the learning model at CANLII with specific direction to evaluate all relevant caselaw.
3. ChatGTP won't solve problems but, it can assist in your analysis. It is not magic but, if you know how to instruct it you can get some good insights and may be useful in replying to anything in a non-confrontational manner.
4. Use it as a tool to help you better communicate and narrow the complexity of your "evidence". DO NOT USE ANY RESULTS AS EVIDENCE. The results and insights should help you train yourself and respond better to all of this. It won't be your free lawyer or show you a "slam dunk" response.
ChatGTP is a tool... Like this forum but, it will never provide you the answer.
Another thing:
I have often read about Section 30 assessment is useful but I dont think so because section 30 could be mainly analyzing a person in a given time but the inconsistencies spouse shows is based on weeks, months so she will be easily able to manipulate it. In such cases its better I have a medical professional at trail who can comment on the evidence I present e.g. unstable sense of self , how it impacts the child etc.
Section 30 assessments are complex and rarely yield positive results for either parent or the children. They are between 30-100k depending on where you reside. They have fallen out of favour with the superior court. All they usually reveal is the unreasonable party and voluminous affidavits already provide enough on parental behaviour to sort that out. As well, very few clinicians are willing to do them anymore and some have been disciplined for their conduct in them such as Dr. Peter Sutton in Kagan v Sutton, 2022 CanLII 94939 (ON HPARB) found here:
https://canlii.ca/t/jsdx8
Para 93. states as a result of Dr. Peter Sutton (the Respondent):
93. Pursuant to section 35(1) of the Code, the Board confirms the Committee’s decision to issue advice to the Respondent as follows:
1) when conducting a child custody and access assessment, to make a thorough effort to follow up on all credible indications that a parent/spouse has shown a tendency to dishonesty or violence;
2) to consider the potential role of obtaining additional psychiatric assessment as part of the custody and access assessment; and
3) to consider interviewing a wide range of interviewees regarding both parents and the child when conducting child custody and access expert assessments.
It is a very complex case but, from my deep review of the whole unfortunate situation for Kegan was that there may have been a belief or hope that having a clinician do a Section 30 would have easily demonstrated the other parent's pattern of bad behaviour. I don't doubt that the mother, medical doctor as well, would have ever thought that matters would turn out as they unfortunately did, as another clinician was supposed to be evaluating the whole of the situation.
But, as para-93 demonstrates... This "section 30" evaluator needed an order to do their job persuant to section 35(1) of the Code of their governing practice.
So, I would recommend avoiding a Section 30 and the OCL as much as possible. They are not a tool that will win you anything. They are not a silver bullet and even "qualified" custody and access evaluators who are medical doctors need "advice" on how to do them.
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