newly seperated

[crispy]

hi, I have been seperated from my wife for only 6-7 weeks now. I am a very devoted father, who enjoys spending time with his kids over anything. The original reason for the seperation was her telling me that she is no longer in love with me, but we all know the real reason when someone says that. And sure enough, it was discovered about 3 weeks after we split that she had been seeing and talking to someone for almost a year. What's sickening to me, is that we were only together for 3.5 yrs. Not to mention, we have a 6 month old baby right now. We also have a 2.5 yr old daughter that I am very close with, which I haven't been able to see in over a week. I was battling some depression when we first seperated, but have pulled myself out with the love and support of family and friends. I also discovered that the real reason for my depression was because of her, and only a week or two after the split, have found my self much happier, but still deeply saddened with my kids. I have just started the mediation and am hoping to have a resolve that will have me in my daughters' life as much as she can possibly stand. I'd see them everyday if I could.

 

[logicalvelocity]

Crispy,

It is unfortunate that your situation has occurred. But the best thing you can do right now is focus on your children. Do not get into arguments with your ex. Your life is under the microscope and your conduct will be scrutinized in court.

Watch out for the traps and don't get dragged into confrontation. Remember that the court doesn't know you from the hole in the ground and "perception" and your conduct is everything. Be pleasant and polite and respectful to your ex and just smile to them. Refrain from adult conversations in front of the children.

Take parenting courses related to your children's age. Document all the requests to see the children that went denied and rejected.

Remember that a parent that is child centered would ensure that a child maintains a meaningful relationship with the other parent. If they fail to do so, really questions their capability to act as a parent in the ongoing parental responsibility of the children.

Young preschool children require frequent contact with both parents to foster and sustain the bond and meaningful relationship.

I hope this helps


lv