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Many people when they separate/divorce...they feel like life has started over and they beginning writing lists of things they want to do...here are a few of mine...what are yours?

Travel
Skydive
Learn to Salsa dance
Write poetry/stories for publishing
Take lots and lots of beautiful pictures....
 
Mine are gardening, just taken it up.
Meeting new people, regaining a social life.
Making time for myself,
And spending less time of my computer!!!
 
hahahahaha...I can relate Grace and Z....lol! Now if I listened to that though...I wouldn't be here chatting with you fine folk...lol!
 
Well my ex and I's daugther will be born in March so she is my top priority. In time I want to move on. I'm looking but not sure if I'm ready for a serious relationship yet. I have someone interested in me very much. But not sure on that end.

otherwise I'm going to continue building up my business and furthering my education.
 
To truly be out of debt for the first time in years... Not only in the marriage but now with the divorce cost itself etc...

I think also to just be free. To go where I want to go, be who I want to be without having to explain my every move.
 
nikitaforce said:
Many people when they separate/divorce...they feel like life has started over and they beginning writing lists of things they want to do...here are a few of mine...what are yours?

Travel
Skydive
Learn to Salsa dance
Write poetry/stories for publishing
Take lots and lots of beautiful pictures....
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That last one I did after I split up, I always had a fascination in photography and finally bought myself a nice camera and taking tons of photos, its a good stress reliever for me as well, very therapoutic.
 
Im loving it. I feel free. Especially when i have my camera. I would post one of my pictures but I dont know if you can on here. Or if you can, how?
 
Sure you can do that - we'd be happy to see them!

When you're posting, there's a "go advanced" button underneath the reply area. Clicking that gives you additional options. There's an "insert image" option (kind of looks like a mountain witha yellow background).
 
Well this may be a tad large but here is one from this past fall from around the Ottawa area.
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I can't see it - if there's a problem uploading the image, you can email it to me and I'll upload it for you.
 
nikitaforce said:
hahahahaha...I can relate Grace and Z....lol! Now if I listened to that though...I wouldn't be here chatting with you fine folk...lol!
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Well, I only sleep on average of 5 hours per night. The rest is spent in front of the screen.
 
I tried to go back and finish my college education. I am still hacking away at it. But I have picked up on visting Art Museums/galleries and Photography. And being involved in my 2 teens lives.
 
I don't know what I'm going to do.
My wife just left last Thursday.
When I'm alone I don't really know what to do with myself.
I find myself just wandering around unless I have a commitment with my two boys.
I have even found myself just driving without any destination alot recently.
The majority of the relationships that existed in my life were seconday to me. Meaning they were for the most part my wifes primary relationships.
On so many occations I wanted to develop relationships that were primary to me but it always seemed like my wife never wanted to engage with the peopl e and relationships I enjoyed.
If I did want to interact with other couples she always seemed to come across like.....well you can go.
When I did go I would go independantly with my little guys.
We only ever had any serious interaction with...in a nut shell, her friends.
Since she left the phone has stopped ringing.
The house is dead quite.
I don't really know what to do.
I more recently I've been torn from the best friend I ever had....he's going out with my wifes best friend. The funny thing is I knew this couple first and they have been long time friends for the both of us. If you have read my other thread you will understand my story.
The thing is I don't even have any drive to do anything but sit and worry.
I go here and I don't want to be there.
I go there and I don't want to be there.
I love my wife so much.
It was my first weekend with the kids this weekend.
We decided we were going to go to a movie. I called my wife and asked her if she would like to come. She excepted.
We took the boys out for a bite to eat and seen the show.
Thats the only place I've wanted to be since she left.
Is it normal to feel like this?
I hurt so bad and have no real energy to do anything except cry.
God I love her....I wish she would come back.
One thing I do truely get any comfort with is spending time with my boys.

Kind regards,
Brandon
 
Your human brandon

Your human brandon

Brandon,

Its completely normal what you're feeling. You're truly a spiritual being experiencing what it is like to be a human being. The key here is to continue being.

The absolute worst situation you can find yourself in is when you are alone and surrounded by Silence.

You have to GET out and experience the world, it is God's tapestry ... there is so much beauty and wonderful things to experience.

You have MANY years ahead of you ... it will take time and eventually you WILL adjust.

When talking with my Pastor yesterday, he mentioned that when one prays to God, that there is a recipratory exchange happening. Your pray to him about what's on your heart and HE in turn gives you PEACE of heart! So, try praying (does not matter what your faith is) ... it will bring you peace of heart and mind.

Think for a second, friends come and go in life, they are but a temporary pleasure ... in time, you will make MANY new friends.

There is a master plan at work, did you ever think that your wife and you may have only pre destined to have one another for a period of time in your lives ... other LOVES will enter your life. They will.

What I have come to learn is that out of DEVESTATION something WONDERFUL will replace it ... your feelings of hopelessness and lose of love will be replaced by LOVE and PEACE.

I can guarantee you one thing, one day, you will look upon this period of your life and say ... what was I so worried about!

Here are some things you CAN do ...

1. Go to a Gym.
2. Read inspiration books --- Bible is GREAT.
3. Attend group meetings --- Mens bible study, speaking groups.
4. Have others pray for you.
5. Talk to family members and friends
6. Look at this time as a way to bond even MORE with your children.
7. You have to believe that you are part of something great ... you have greatness in you. Believe that!
8. There are no accidents in life ... all is as it should be, everything works out in the end.
9. Take this incident and turn it into an OPPORTUNITY. Opportunity to follow your dreams and hopes.
10. Stop wallowing in self pity ... get a life plan together and start to take small steps (action) to propell you to greater heights in life.
11. Be STRONG and know that you will overcome ALL obstacles in life ... you were designed for this.
12. Now heres a real secret ... we are ALL connected, when one hurts, we ALL hurt. One day your wife will have a review of her life and all the hurt she has caused, you may be in tears now, she will be in tears in the future.

Hubby
Life is great, if you think it so!

Hubby
 
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