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Filling some forms and it asks about race.I am caucasian born in Europe so one of the options there says "caucasian american". Should I write caucasian canadian (these are american forms) or should I put Caucasion european?

Since my ex was also born in europe but my child born in canada, what do I put for my child?
 
Great Avatat..

For whom are you filling out the form?
Why is it American?
Are you a Canadian Citizen?

The Child is Canadian Caucasian.
 
Thx, loved that show.....

The healt insurance form is for me and my child, the company I work for is based in Texas, My kid was born here but I wasnt, and we are both citizens.
 
Iceberg, "our" child not "my" children.
Live and breathe it. It took two to bring them into this world. They are not possessions
 
involveddad75 said:
Iceberg, "our" child not "my" children.
Live and breathe it. It took two to bring them into this world. They are not possessions
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You cannot say our child when the other parent is not a part of a subject. Even when you are married and you take your kid to the doctor and if a secretary asks reason for visit you will say "my" child is feeling ill and you won't say our child unless your spouse is present there with you.
 
involveddad75 said:
Iceberg, "our" child not "my" children.
Live and breathe it. It took two to bring them into this world. They are not possessions
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iceberg said:
You cannot say our child when the other parent is not a part of a subject. Even when you are married and you take your kid to the doctor and if a secretary asks reason for visit you will say "my" child is feeling ill and you won't say our child unless your spouse is present there with you.
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Well, actually you should be saying 'our' child because the other parent is part of the subject as you say, see sentence below:

iceberg said:
Filling some forms and it asks about race.I am caucasian born in Europe so one of the options there says "caucasian american". Should I write caucasian canadian (these are american forms) or should I put Caucasion european?

Since my ex was also born in europe but my child born in canada, what do I put for my child?
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Or is your ex not the mother of the child in question?
 
Since this application form had nothing to do with my ex, she is not involved, she is not a part of the subject. I did mention her and just because I mentioned her to write OUR? There are certain times when it makes no any difference weather you put my or our.
 
Neither id75 nor baldclub is referring to the application form that had nothing to do with your ex.
Both are referring to what would be the more desirable use of the word OUR, instead of MY, in the sentence that you typed and baldclub subsequently bolded.

Since my ex was also born in europe but my child born in canada, what do I put for my child?

Not sure what's so difficult to understand about that.
 
My point Iceberg is that if you ever get caught using the term "my children" or "my child" in family court you will get told off for it. It's like when a mother can be sitting down and talk to the judge most of the time no one does anything, but if a man is sitting and trys talking to the judge the clerks will stop you everytime.

I personally use the term "our" everywhere, even if it is uncomfortable english wise. During 14 days of trial I caught myself using the term "my" several times but I caught myself before I said it. So never actually used that term in court.

Thats all I was reminding you of. Its a very little thing to do, but it does make a big difference in court.
 
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firhill said:
Neither id75 nor baldclub is referring to the application form that had nothing to do with your ex.
Both are referring to what would be the more desirable use of the word OUR, instead of MY, in the sentence that you typed and baldclub subsequently bolded.

Since my ex was also born in europe but my child born in canada, what do I put for my child?

Not sure what's so difficult to understand about that.
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Just because I mentioned my ex on a public forum I should write "our"?

My ex doesn't say OUR even to me or to anyone anywhere and I should pretend to be super-nice and pay attention to these 2 words on a forum? Please....
 
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involveddad75 said:
My point Iceberg is that if you ever get caught using the term "my children" or "my child" in family court you will get told off for it. It's like when a mother can be sitting down and talk to the judge most of the time no one does anything, but if a man is sitting and trys talking to the judge the clerks will stop you everytime.

I personally use the term "our" everywhere, even if it is uncomfortable english wise. During 14 days of trial I caught myself using the term "my" several times but I caught myself before I said it. So never actually used that term in court.

Thats all I was reminding you of. Its a very little thing to do, but it does make a big difference in court.
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Thank you, you were very helpful in my other thread too.

I never say "my child" to my ex, when attending an appointments and so on, but sure as hell I wouldn't say that in court. I guess you will say "practice" because you may slip in court but I don't worry about that.
 
I'll give this one last go iceberg, then you're on your own:

You do it for your kids, so you get in the mentality that there are two equal parents who both have the best interest of the children at stake. You do this to reinforce in everyone around you, and yourself included, that you're committed to the children, that even if she doesn't acknowledge your importance as a parent you still respect her role as a parent.

This is called leading by example, putting your children's interests above your emotions for your ex. It may be tough at first but it's what will get you through the day in my opinion.
 
LOL..I was about to type an "I'll give it one last shot" response too, but I'll defer to (and agree with) baldclub's last post.

Best of luck to you, iceberg.
 
baldclub said:
I'll give this one last go iceberg, then you're on your own:

You do it for your kids, so you get in the mentality that there are two equal parents who both have the best interest of the children at stake. You do this to reinforce in everyone around you, and yourself included, that you're committed to the children, that even if she doesn't acknowledge your importance as a parent you still respect her role as a parent.

This is called leading by example, putting your children's interests above your emotions for your ex. It may be tough at first but it's what will get you through the day in my opinion.
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Totally a better way to put it Baldclub, thank you.
 
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