Need help with Military Pay
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i dont know much about any of this. that IS why i asked a simple question. so i am awaiting a reply from a friend who gets LDA if it was included on line 150. and the difference is $572 a month thank you. I dont have any of their tax returns so i dont know if it is included in line 150. THAT is why i asked. No harm in that, and I'm not being as rude as you at all 
and I'm sorry I have 3 children to look after by myself because my ex thought getting someone else pregnant the same time as me was a good idea. no, i am not doing this as payback! I'm doing this to support my 3 children and one on the way which is their responsibility to pay the correct amount in accordance to their income. Again, thank you for your answer, i never put a notion out there that i didnt appreciate it. and as for being a 27 yr old, i do not nor have i ever said i had ANY experience in any of this. that's why there are the threads. to get help and answers... NOT to get cut down by anyone.
and I'm sorry I have 3 children to look after by myself because my ex thought getting someone else pregnant the same time as me was a good idea. no, i am not doing this as payback! I'm doing this to support my 3 children and one on the way which is their responsibility to pay the correct amount in accordance to their income. Again, thank you for your answer, i never put a notion out there that i didnt appreciate it. and as for being a 27 yr old, i do not nor have i ever said i had ANY experience in any of this. that's why there are the threads. to get help and answers... NOT to get cut down by anyone.
one more thing and I'll stop trying to defend myself and my questions. I'm all for raising the children jointly. it is not my fault they do not want to be involved with the children. which are all his btw. i have asked numerous times for a copy of a tax assessment to see if that would be included in line 150 to no avail. that was why i was asking. again, no harm and I was never being rude unless you take my defending myself and my actions and questions as a type of rudeness. none of my friends are telling me anything to do with any of this as i have not asked any friends except that one friend about his previous tax return if it was in line 150 or not. i am just starting out in this new journey in my life where it is just the children and i, no other parents role who wants to be involved. so i would really appreciate your rudeness, lack of empathy and assumption of what you think my situation is to be lacking in any future posts. I was looking for a couple general answers not for someone to judge what they think is the case.
I'm not cutting you down in anyway, I am actually trying to help. No where in your posts did you mention 3 kids, so I based the calculation off 1 child.
That said, it isn't $572 a month. It is $126 a month, basing off the income you mentioned of $80k vs $88k. $572x12=$6864, is also more then your ex would net a yet of that amount, which isn't the way it works.
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This is more and I'd guess worth going after as it is about $1500 a year. Send a registered letter requesting a copy of his NoA once it is available. Know that, just because taxes are supposed to be filed, receiving the NoA from the government can time, which is why most agreements/orders speak to exchanging NoA's bu July 1.
Once you receive his NoA, plug the numbers in the c/s calculator and send a consent to adjust to the appropriate amount going forward. If he balks, file a motion. You will likely win costs as it is a cut and dry matter.
oh, before you assume there's only one child, maybe get some more facts straight for you to throw crap at me
Garbage in, garbage out. If you'd provide the details we need to provide accurate information, you'd get accurate information.
80,000 child support 3 kids=1530
86,000 child support 3 kids 1625
a difference of 95.
We are not here to be your friends...yes it is sad that a parent does not step up and be a parent.
Yes, CS is for the child and yes it should be paid.
If you are going to pay a lawyer to get this what is it worth?
If it is part of the other parents NOA on line 150 then great...that is what you need what is included in that is not really important, nor any of you business.
He may have had the option to bank it in extra time off and that is why it is not in his line 150 as he has not taken it. Once he takes the time he gets the pay.
Getting NOA's can be handed through legal request but don't let the bill be rang up on endless useless communication that will cost you.
You want to move on then do it. Now, yes, you will be offended by my next question.
Are you presently employed? What are you doing to support the children?
We are not here to say poor, poor you all the time...we are here to give you a reality check.
I've had it done many times on here and it is an awakening but necessary, it helps put perspective on the facts and leave out the emotion.
Being a parents is a lifetime commitment and one must think that you may at sometime end up going at it alone...things happen, people have done it alone after a spouse has died. That is a chance we all take.
You do what you do and move forward...the other parent is responsible for their relationship with the children and that belongs to them.
Keep in mind you are not on Facebook!
86,000 child support 3 kids 1625
a difference of 95.
We are not here to be your friends...yes it is sad that a parent does not step up and be a parent.
Yes, CS is for the child and yes it should be paid.
If you are going to pay a lawyer to get this what is it worth?
If it is part of the other parents NOA on line 150 then great...that is what you need what is included in that is not really important, nor any of you business.
He may have had the option to bank it in extra time off and that is why it is not in his line 150 as he has not taken it. Once he takes the time he gets the pay.
Getting NOA's can be handed through legal request but don't let the bill be rang up on endless useless communication that will cost you.
You want to move on then do it. Now, yes, you will be offended by my next question.
Are you presently employed? What are you doing to support the children?
We are not here to say poor, poor you all the time...we are here to give you a reality check.
I've had it done many times on here and it is an awakening but necessary, it helps put perspective on the facts and leave out the emotion.
Being a parents is a lifetime commitment and one must think that you may at sometime end up going at it alone...things happen, people have done it alone after a spouse has died. That is a chance we all take.
You do what you do and move forward...the other parent is responsible for their relationship with the children and that belongs to them.
Keep in mind you are not on Facebook!
oh, before you assume there's only one child, maybe get some more facts straight for you to throw crap at me
So who's fault is it that you decided to have multiple kids as opposed to getting a career????? We all makes choices in life, and we shouldn't expect others to carry us
There are mothers out there with kids, and they still manage to hold down important / challenging positions outside the home.
To the OP.....here is something you might want to get your "friend" to help you with. The name of the commanding officer of your ex...you can then contact them, and they will get your ex to take care of his family responsibilities
The LDA you are getting yourself worked up about, is not something that will go on forever...focus on the line 150 for child support instead. You also have a responsibility to fend for your kids...afterall you decided to jointly or otherwise have 3 kids as opposed to may be 1 at age 27