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rwm1273 said:
I have lots of that expensive toilet paper. Too bad that every time I look at it, I get angry and have to put it away for a while. I think many people have married the same woman. It has to be that, or we must agree that the courts enable these people to all act in the same way.
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in fact in my humble opinion I believe the courts do enable these people and reward their poor and disgusting behavior. Where else can you deny access to a fathers children, then get rewarded by making the father pay hundreds or in cases thousands of dollars to her every month. Oh, I meant the children, ...yeah right. Maybe in some cases, where the father in not involved with the child or has non contact then I can see support...but no way when mom make a suitable income, more in fact then the father. This only advantages one house hold over the other and is wrong. We are made to pay these sums in my opinion so that we are so broke we wouldn't dare to file an appeal, or continue to fight for more access, or to have a say in what happens with our children.
 
LostFather said:
DDTE has a bit of a chip on his shoulder because he has had a bit of good luck in the courts, he believes that he is on the only one who has done all the
they can do in the court system, and we're all just a bunch of whiners. not the way things go, In fact DTTE is not the norm, his situation is abnormal and just because there are fathers out there that are frustrated with the system and are not happy with Canada's family law system, the idea that people should be subjected to his taunts and fowl mouthed, school yard bully behavior, is in my opinion not acceptable, and really, one has to wonder if he used any of these tactics with his ex to get what he wanted, maybe it wasn't so much of what the courts did, maybe his ex just couldn't take it any longer and gave up. What ever the reason, it is not hard to see from DTTE posts that he is in fact an angry individual, as the says goes, what we see in others we hate in ourselves.
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Hardly. I'm not the only one who has done right in the courts. Just ask NBDad.

Where did I call anyone a whiner?

rwm has repeatedly insulted the women on this board and goes on to sanctimoniously hate on this country. I'm not the only one here who thinks he is whacked. If it suits you to call those people who also don't like him "parrots", well whatever works for your rationalization...

And fowl is what you shoot and eat for dinner BTW.
 
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lol, If it hasn't been said, Welcome to Canada, a rather young nation of many different immigrants and aboriginals in it's 144th year since confederation.
 
dadtotheend said:
Hardly. I'm not the only one who has done right in the courts. Just ask NBDad.

Where did I call anyone a whiner?

rwm has repeatedly insulted the women on this board and goes on to sanctimoniously hate on this country. I'm not the only one here who thinks he is whacked. If it suits you to call those people who also don't like him "parrots", well whatever works for your rationalization...

And fowl is what you shoot and eat for dinner BTW.
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During the last month you've insulted others spelling at least 3 times, and you've told or called people and idiot...oct 22/10

Oct 19/10 told someone to shut up

Sept 25/10 you managed to lecture someone on their schoolyard tactics.

These are just but a few of your comments...not about to go through them all.

Anyone who has followed any of your posts will have no trouble recalling times when someone, especially a father attempts to vent about his frustrations with the family law system, and you talk about his whining. There is no secretes about your feelings on the matter.

Ha, ha, the fact that you and NBDad have had success with the court system, ummm lets see, you two and maybe a couple more out of what...hundreds if not thousands on here....give me a break! Figure out those odds, DTTE....so what your saying is the rest of us are complete idiots because we've hadn't have the success you've had....I have to wonder who's really the idiot is here.

You've told another poster to take a hard look in the mirror, that they're 'abrasive'. I think you made need to do so as well. DDTE, you do have some good information to provide, but it in no way gives you the right to abuse the posters in here with you foul (better?) mouthed insults. You need to repeatedly bring others down, like talking about there spelling, which has no relation to the subject, to make your point. This is not really helping and in my humble opinion is only self serving, something that gives you a high, makes you feel superior, when in fact it only makes you inferior.

As I've said I believe you've got a lot to offer, but the insults/profanity erase any good you've done in my opinion.
 
dadtotheend said:
Hardly. I'm not the only one who has done right in the courts.



rwm has repeatedly insulted the women on this board and goes on to sanctimoniously hate on this country. I'm not the only one here who thinks he is whacked. If it suits you to call those people who also don't like him "parrots", well whatever works for your rationalization...
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I have done well in the courts too. Just took far too long and cost too much, and I know that despite me winning my kids, we all actually lost. The kids live in a situation where they know they could have better, but can't because their mother won't let them. She looks at having the kids as her right, and instead of trying to work things out so that we could share the kids and make the best of the situation she is hell bent on trying to destroy me to get what she wants. And the courts are too willing to let her continue to do what she has for going on 8 years. My son was 1 year old when this started. He is turning 9 soon.

The kids love their mother, and they love me. They are caught in the middle of a war, and they can't take sides. The only way to end this war is to have the courts do it, or the kids will be forced to choose sides.

As for me insulting women, I may have been a bit blunt initially, but I toned it down. The system we live in is fundamentally flawed. It is biased in favor of women, and it is easy fro some to abuse the system with impunity. This is not me saying it, but is common knowledge, and it is very easy to see. Can you explain the child support figures? It is not possible in an equal society to have 95% of all support orders in favor of women unless there is a bias. This means that over 95% of divorces end with women being declared the primary parent, responsible for the welfare of children.

You admitted to being arrested under false allegations, but you then say things are not that bad. Well how can it not be that bad if you get arrested for something you did not do? I thought that kind of stuff only happened in other countries, not our great fair Canada. That is why I dislike what Canada has become.

Did your ex get punished for those false allegations? If she did, then that is rare. Many men here who have faced false allegations aren't that lucky. I have spent about $10K fighting false allegations in criminal court, and much more in family court. Never has my ex been punished for the false allegations, and this is normal in our court system.

I am well traveled, and have more knowledge of other countries than most. I have been married to women of three different countries. My first was Polish. We got together very young, and after 8 years called it quits. We are still friends. My second is a Cree Indian. She is the woman I have had all my life troubles with. My third wife was from Ethiopia, and she died shortly after we were married. My current wife also is from Ethiopia, and she helped me get over the death of my previous wife, and she is a great step mom, and great wife.

I don't hate women. I hate women who abuse our courts. The kind that give the rest of the women a bad name.

As for the parrots... If you don't like me, fine, don't read what I write. Debate is fine, but there is no need to insult me.
 
rwm1273 said:
Can you explain the child support figures? It is not possible in an equal society to have 95% of all support orders in favor of women unless there is a bias. This means that over 95% of divorces end with women being declared the primary parent, responsible for the welfare of children..
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Funny how you can root out posts of mine where I acted like a "bully" but can't find the answer to your question above, which I have posted on numerous occasions.

It is because mothers are still the primary caregivers in most families and when the courts are forced to decide custody/acess disputes involving two parents who can't come to agreement on their own, then they cautiously order the preservation of a status quo that provides for as little disruption to the children's routines at a time when their lives are already being significantly disrupted.

And it's not 95% of the time that mothers get custody, it's 80% and falling.

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I am well traveled, and have more knowledge of other countries than most.
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You have more knowledge than most of us about anything don't you? Please, we can't wait for your next treatise on whatever topic you choose to run your mouth on about. Remember, the more paragraphs, the better!

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I have been married to women of three different countries. My first was Polish. We got together very young, and after 8 years called it quits. We are still friends. My second is a Cree Indian. She is the woman I have had all my life troubles with. My third wife was from Ethiopia, and she died shortly after we were married. My current wife also is from Ethiopia, and she helped me get over the death of my previous wife, and she is a great step mom, and great wife.
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Four marriages. Hmmm, yet another topic about which you are an expert.
 
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Well DTTE It is nice that you give me credit for something I didn't write once again. I don't have time to find stuff you wrote. I don't really care, other than to rebuttal the slander you throw at me.

Perhaps you are to flustered to read, and just want to credit me with stuff others write when they call you an your shit. Maybe you are just plain angry that others see you for what you are. A bully.

80% and falling? Boy those are some great numbers to jump up and down about. But again you missed what I said. What I pointed out was that the support orders are for 95% for women. These figures are from Stats Can's latest child support statistics. But thanks for making my point just the same.

Yes 4 wives. One is dead, one is a bitch, and one is still a friend. The 4th is still my wife and we are happily married.

I will be in Toronto in two weeks. Maybe we can get together and you can tell me to my face what you really think.
 
I think that women who obtain financial support orders in the courts do so because when couples have children it is most often the father who is the breadwinner while Mom takes care of the children. Consequently even in set off arrangements for CS it will be the father doing the paying. I think that is the result of how families have elected to structure their caregiving and career choices, rather than some evil gender bias devil that sits in the judge's chair as you would have us believe.

I think you need to rebut every tiny thing that's said about you and you need to do it in spades.

I think you do that because you have a hardened and rigid sense of intellectual superiority. I think you are combative and that you need to be right on everything and that you write lengthy dissertations explaining why it is that you are always right. I think you are never wrong in your own mind.

And I wonder why you want to meet me face to face.
 
rwm1273 said:
Well DTTE It is nice that you give me credit for something I didn't write once again. I don't have time to find stuff you wrote. I don't really care, other than to rebuttal the slander you throw at me.

Perhaps you are to flustered to read, and just want to credit me with stuff others write when they call you an your shit. Maybe you are just plain angry that others see you for what you are. A bully.

80% and falling? Boy those are some great numbers to jump up and down about. But again you missed what I said. What I pointed out was that the support orders are for 95% for women. These figures are from Stats Can's latest child support statistics. But thanks for making my point just the same.

Yes 4 wives. One is dead, one is a bitch, and one is still a friend. The 4th is still my wife and we are happily married.

I will be in Toronto in two weeks. Maybe we can get together and you can tell me to my face what you really think.
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Ha Ha, bullies can't do that...but even if he did take you up on the offer, it wouldn't be worth it. I was the one whom rattled his cage on the stats, I could've gone much further but wasn't worth the effort to go past 4 weeks lol, if he thought I was going to go through all 2500+ posts he's off his rocker lol! I think there are many in here that recognize him as fairly knowledgeable but a bully as well. Too bad he couldn't and move on and recognize that he does in fact bully people, it would lean more creditability to what he says in my opinion.
 
DTTE Finally a real reply.

I do agree that many traditional families may have the father as the bread earner, but in our day and age often ends once the kids are school aged. At this point both parents work, and more and more often women are earning as much if not more than their spouse.

But then we can discuss spousal support orders too. Or the actual cost of child support, or perhaps why the few women who are ordered to pay support are more often dead beats than the men. We can find many areas that are fundamentally flawed, and in need of change for the better good.

I don't think I have a sense of intellectual superiority. I am opinionated, but am fully capable of admitting mistakes, and have done so on many occasions. You however have fixated on finding fault in anything I say, and take great pride in tossing insults. Not just at me, but at anyone you feel you can bully. This is a real shame, because you are definately knowledgeable, and from what I have seen in some of your posts about financial issues, you seem to know that area very well.

As to meeting in person, it would end in one of two ways, we either find we are not so different, or we end up seeing we are opposite sides of the spectrum. One we end up going for beers, the other we agree to disagree.
 
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rwm1273 said:
You however have fixated on finding fault in anything I say, and take great pride in tossing insults. Not just at me, but at anyone you feel you can bully. This is a real shame, because you are definately knowledgeable, and from what I have seen in some of your posts about financial issues, you seem to know that area very well..
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What qualifies you do know anything about my feelings? Can you see me sitting here with a faceful of pride at having to call people out? Or that I feel I can bully people?

You and LostFather are really latching onto that bully thing aren't you? Do you think if you say it enough it becomes true?


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As to meeting in person, it would end in one of two ways, we either find we are not so different, or we end up seeing we are opposite sides of the spectrum. One we end up going for beers, the other we agree to disagree.
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You had me fooled. I thought I was being bullied.



Look, I'm tired of arguing with you. I don't want my presence here defined by some monumental war of words. I would rather contribute meaningfully here instead of being remembered as the guy who couldn't let it go. So I'm letting it go.

Please feel free, both of you, to take the last word. I will not respond.
 
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You have said this before. We know you can't resist. It is in your nature.

If you would prefer me to bully you, we could do that too. Your choice if you want to meet me. I do know how that could end. I prefer to be civil, but it is your choice.
 
rwm1273 said:
I said I served my country. Not I serve my country. Read next time.


Billiechic you mentioned our countries basic beliefs. How do you feel about how schools can't celebrate christmas or easter? Our politically correct society has cheapened the deaths of those who have died fighting for god and country. How about our great Human rights commissions that punish priests for saying that homosexuality is against the bible, yet lets muslims make death threats? This is not the Canada I grew up in, and defended in uniform, but it is the Canada of now.
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My kid's school does celebrate holidays. I choose to send her to Catholic school. You have that choice too.

I respect the fact that you have strong beliefs, but I question your ability to accept that people have different beliefs, and that everyone is entitled to their own. THAT is what is great about Canada. It might not be perfect, but we are all welcome.

IMHO I am willing to accept and promote holidays, rights and freedoms that are not exactly beneficial to me, but are to others. why aren't you?
 
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I am very willing to accept other beliefs and traditions. I have never said I am not. My point was that many schools are banning the singing of "O Canada" and others do not permit any display of christian beliefs which display what historically was what Canada culture was based on and what ideals many died in both world wars and Korea. I know very well the sacrifices that many in our military have made, and I have stood on the same principals for.

I lived in a muslim country (UAE), and I had more religious freedom there than some have here in Canada. I have also spent much time in Sudan and Libya.

I question why some people here in Canada feel they must ban traditions that Canada was founded on because they fear that it may offend others with different traditions or religious beliefs. Where I lived they celebrated Ramadan, and the decorations were shut off until a week before Christmas, when the decorations were turned on again. They played christian christmas carols on the radio. I was free to go to church on sundays and in fact was baptized there, and was subjected to a different law than the muslims who were subjected to sharia. From that experience I would say that they were more tollerant of cultural differences than some of our politically correct bureaucrats.

I am not catholic, and therefore my kids go to public school. Further to this, my ex refused to permit our kids to attend a school that had programs that would have benifited the kids needs, because it was Catholic. So not all things are not my choice.

I will defend anyone's right to celebrate their culture, so long as it does not infring on my rights to celebrate my beliefs. This is why I served my country. It is what I have experienced since that I have the feelings I do.

I am white. My wife is a Black African, and my children are Native. My lawyer is a chinese woman. I think this shows substantial cultural diversity. I also have a working knowledge of french, and can get around in Arabic. I also speak english and bad english.

It is great that you respect other cultures, too bad others are not so willing.
 
rwm1273 said:
No, but if you cared to read the previous exchanges, you would understand the comment.
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I did read the other exchanges. They were heated, but YOU actually called DTTE out! You were implying that the two of you should use fists to solve your dispute. That is what I am referring to. Extremely childish!
 
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