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dadtotheend said:
Why don't you shut your mouth?

Nobody wants to hear your longwinded bullshit rebuttals anymore.

Get the hell out of Dodge jackass. And fuck you very much.
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do you think it matters to him that I had two relatives that died for this country?? Kinda beats what he did. All he keeps talking about is serving the country and what he thinks it should stand for. If he doesn't like it here then he should just work out of the country like he has and stay there!!
 
Standing on the sidelines

I called him a bully. He is a bully. I did not insult him. As for others who do parrot him, they are just a guilty of bullying as he is.

I agree that he does have some very good comments, as do many others. I did not make any statements as to who I consider his parrots, but obviously you have taken offense. Is this because you don't like what I have said, or do you feel guilty at some of what you have written?

I have nothing against people disagreeing with what I say, and having a rebuttal to it. Debate is good, but what has happened in too many threads is just the opposite. Someone like DTTE insults what I say, and several others get on the band wagon, and what was originally said and the context it was said is lost to the insults. I have had others come to my defense, only to be insulted too. Perhaps some don't get involved for fear of being insulted and labeled.

Just look at what DTTE has said to Kenny in another post. Why does he feel he needs to insult people? All Kenny did was say he suffered from adultery, and DTTE insults him with some comment about jaywalking. How childish. This is just one post, there are many others like it. Some are to the point, including some directed at me, but honestly where does he get off tossing insults randomly? "Get the hell out of Dodge jackass. And fuck you very much." Boy this is some good argument. LOL.

And how do you think your relatives would feel to know that the Canada they died fighting for has been turned into what it is today? Kind of sad that their blood was spilled in vain. I have friends and relatives who have died too serving our country. I served our country. How about you? How would you feel if your country let you down by making it so that you can't be a parent to your kids because you are a man, yet let your ex continue to lie to the courts and make you pay for it?
 
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It's a significant dilemma for the economy if the CPP in general collapsed considering the fund is now diversified in many common equities.

What happens to the existing retires? Don't kid yourself it will be around in one form or another.
 
I do think that CPP will be around, but what will it actually cover? It currently limits the payout to $934 per month. This is less than most people pay for rent. I have read that they plan to increase the age before you can draw your CPP to 68 or 70 yrs old. Our population is growing older at a very fast rate, and our cost of living is increasing, but the compensation is not keeping pace. I can't depend on it to be there for me when I retire, and with the way my industry is, there is not enough steady work to keep my earnings at a level they should be, and as a contractor there is no pension plans like there were a few years ago, as most larger companies have been down sizing or farming out their work.

As such I don't plan to retire, yet alone live here much longer. If things were different, I would think differently. I know my reality, and I know the reality of my line of work. I am only here right now for my kids.
 
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Standing on the sidelines

I called him a bully. He is a bully. I did not insult him. As for others who do parrot him, they are just a guilty of bullying as he is.

I agree that he does have some very good comments, as do many others. I did not make any statements as to who I consider his parrots, but obviously you have taken offense. Is this because you don't like what I have said, or do you feel guilty at some of what you have written?

And how do you think your relatives would feel to know that the Canada they died fighting for has been turned into what it is today? Kind of sad that their blood was spilled in vain. I have friends and relatives who have died too serving our country. I served our country. How about you? How would you feel if your country let you down by making it so that you can't be a parent to your kids because you are a man, yet let your ex continue to lie to the courts and make you pay for it?
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By calling people that agree with some stuff that he has said "parrots" that is an insult. I do not feel guilty or what I have written and some stuff you have said has been insulting. As for my relatives that died, how dare you even think you know what they might think. To say they spilled their blood in vain is your opinion, not mine and not the rest of my family. As for the comment about not letting you be a parent, this is coming from the guy who chose to work out of the country, away from his kids. Ya you really score some brownie points there LOL.
 
I do agree that we do have some very good programs, and we do have a country that is the envy of many, but there are many other areas that we are falling far behind. I must admit that I do not have much knowledge of our CPP or other benifits available, as right now I am not entitled to them anyways, as they only apply to some people. Just like our family laws, and immigration policies.

Can anyone explain why after a 10 year review of family law and child issues, there was a scathing report that demanded many changes to fix our system, yet 10 years since we still do not have any changes? Just read the information about the "For the sake of the children" report. Why do we just get lip service from our government, and no change? Most on here are here because of some very unfortunate and preventable family law problems.

In my case, the family law problem has affected many other areas of my life, and these problems will not be resolved any time soon. Had the government changed the laws as recommended, I would not have the problems I have today. And my children would not be suffering needlessly.

Standing on the sidelines, you are sooo far off from my situation. I did not insult your relatives, and I did not choose to stay over seas. I was forced to stay over seas. My move over seas was pushed by my ex wife, who wanted me to earn better money, so that we could move back to Canada and pay off our house early. I had no idea that her actual plan was to make me go over seas, and just send my entire earnings back every month, and endorsed by our family courts to do this. I tried to return at the beginning of my horror, but was ordered by one of our first judges that I need to continue to earn the income I was. Just explain to my how that was fair?

If you chose to actually read what I said, you would understand the difference, but you only want to see me as the villian for insulting Canada. When I served our country, I had not experienced the bias in our family courts. I had not experienced how false allegations could cause so much problems. I believed that everyone was equal in court, and that lies would be punished. I was wrong. This forum is full of others who have also felt the same problems as I have, and so nobody here can claim that what I say is not the truth. Perhaps some have not experienced the same problems, but you can't deny that there are some very bad judges and bad orders made by those bad judges.
 
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do you think it matters to him that I had two relatives that died for this country?? Kinda beats what he did.
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So it would have been better if I had died? I have friends that have died, and I could have too. Until you have bullets flying at you, I don't think you really will understand what it means to stand in harms way for your country's ideals. And you really won't understand what it is like to be denied those same ideals.

Some days I think that the real enemy is right here in Canada.
 
Can anyone explain why after a 10 year review of family law and child issues, there was a scathing report that demanded many changes to fix our system, yet 10 years since we still do not have any changes? Just read the information about the "For the sake of the children" report. Why do we just get lip service from our government, and no change? Most on here are here because of some very unfortunate and preventable family law problems.


First of all - there is no money in it.

For every argument for change - some one points out another argument for another change. Our system seems to be based on "status quo" and I think the law-makers think that this is the easiest way to go given that no one can give a good solution free of bias, questionable motivations, and a concrete plan for implementation.

It's sad that the government can make smoking in a car illegal, and talking on the phone while driving illegal, and parking too many cars in your driveway illegal. But in the end, aren't these things just common sense.

Perhaps the problem with our Family Law System is that too many people have forgotten Common Sense. Too many biases and motivations exists, and the group that yells the loudest on any given day stymies any valid or invalid attempt to really get anything done.
 
rwm1273 said:
See you can't come up with anything to say so you resort to insults.

Makes me think that you were beat up as a kid in school so now you are being the bully here.

If you don't like what I right don't read it, and don't respond. It is only you and your parrots that don't like what I say. Just like a true bully being followed by other people with no self esteem.
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DDTE has a bit of a chip on his shoulder because he has had a bit of good luck in the courts, he believes that he is on the only one who has done all the
they can do in the court system, and we're all just a bunch of whiners. not the way things go, In fact DTTE is not the norm, his situation is abnormal and just because there are fathers out there that are frustrated with the system and are not happy with Canada's family law system, the idea that people should be subjected to his taunts and fowl mouthed, school yard bully behavior, is in my opinion not acceptable, and really, one has to wonder if he used any of these tactics with his ex to get what he wanted, maybe it wasn't so much of what the courts did, maybe his ex just couldn't take it any longer and gave up. What ever the reason, it is not hard to see from DTTE posts that he is in fact an angry individual, as the says goes, what we see in others we hate in ourselves.
 
rwm1273 said:
I do agree that we do have some very good programs, and we do have a country that is the envy of many, but there are many other areas that we are falling far behind. I must admit that I do not have much knowledge of our CPP or other benifits available, as right now I am not entitled to them anyways, as they only apply to some people. Just like our family laws, and immigration policies.

Can anyone explain why after a 10 year review of family law and child issues, there was a scathing report that demanded many changes to fix our system, yet 10 years since we still do not have any changes? Just read the information about the "For the sake of the children" report. Why do we just get lip service from our government, and no change? Most on here are here because of some very unfortunate and preventable family law problems.

In my case, the family law problem has affected many other areas of my life, and these problems will not be resolved any time soon. Had the government changed the laws as recommended, I would not have the problems I have today. And my children would not be suffering needlessly.

Standing on the sidelines, you are sooo far off from my situation. I did not insult your relatives, and I did not choose to stay over seas. I was forced to stay over seas. My move over seas was pushed by my ex wife, who wanted me to earn better money, so that we could move back to Canada and pay off our house early. I had no idea that her actual plan was to make me go over seas, and just send my entire earnings back every month, and endorsed by our family courts to do this. I tried to return at the beginning of my horror, but was ordered by one of our first judges that I need to continue to earn the income I was. Just explain to my how that was fair?

If you chose to actually read what I said, you would understand the difference, but you only want to see me as the villian for insulting Canada. When I served our country, I had not experienced the bias in our family courts. I had not experienced how false allegations could cause so much problems. I believed that everyone was equal in court, and that lies would be punished. I was wrong. This forum is full of others who have also felt the same problems as I have, and so nobody here can claim that what I say is not the truth. Perhaps some have not experienced the same problems, but you can't deny that there are some very bad judges and bad orders made by those bad judges.
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The sooner you understand that the monies paid to the CP, usually the mom is more about the money than the children you'll be much better off, in fact deep down I know that you know that the money is not for the child, and more of a punitive measure because you couldn't hold your marriage together, men have been in one form or another penalized for decades, just for being a man and the income earner. But I think what this country needs to do is look at not entitlement but what is reasonable, what child needs $700 per month. Especially if mom has a good paying job, and dad is an active participant in the children's lives. I have my children one day less a week than the mother, yet I am paying significant amount of my paycheck to mom of which I can tell you, next to nothing goes to the children, I cloth and feed them better and no one pays me! I can tell you though I am at the verge of losing my 2 Bed apt, as I can not afford to keep paying like this...something's got to give...and it wont be mom, I can assure you of that, not fro my experience. So I can see who you're so frustrated, and really I can not tell you what to do, only to hang in there and consult this board and try to find answers that may help your situation.

Good Luck
 
KeepSmiling said:
Can anyone explain why after a 10 year review of family law and child issues, there was a scathing report that demanded many changes to fix our system, yet 10 years since we still do not have any changes? Just read the information about the "For the sake of the children" report. Why do we just get lip service from our government, and no change? Most on here are here because of some very unfortunate and preventable family law problems.


First of all - there is no money in it.

For every argument for change - some one points out another argument for another change. Our system seems to be based on "status quo" and I think the law-makers think that this is the easiest way to go given that no one can give a good solution free of bias, questionable motivations, and a concrete plan for implementation.

It's sad that the government can make smoking in a car illegal, and talking on the phone while driving illegal, and parking too many cars in your driveway illegal. But in the end, aren't these things just common sense.

Perhaps the problem with our Family Law System is that too many people have forgotten Common Sense. Too many biases and motivations exists, and the group that yells the loudest on any given day stymies any valid or invalid attempt to really get anything done.
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It's a multi-Billion dollar a year industry, they do not want to change it, hmmm can you imagine, a system that is equal and non adversarial?? No money in that!
 
Thankfully some people do see what is happening.

I don't just complain. I write letters, and I have been very active in trying to get our government to change our system. The last thing I want is my son to face similar problems I have.

Maybe one day Bill C422 will be in force, and then with each small change like that, then the judicial pendulum will swing closer to the middle.
 
There's no money in it for the government or the politicians.

In fact, a non-adversarial system may look like a tonne of lawyers not making so much money ??

From a polical side - no matter which solution is put out there - it looks like they are taking sides and by taking sides, you piss off the other side.

Here's a question ... Do you think that there is a cure for cancer? Do you know how many people would lose their livlihood if they did actually come up with a cure for cancer? A whole industry would be out of work.
 
Lostfather

I have custody of my kids now, which is how I have been able to return to Canada. It took 5 yrs and over $200K in legal fees, and finally a letter from my kid's school before the court saw what I had been saying all along. But 2 yrs later, I still do not get support from her, and have suffered repeated attacks in court and from Child and Family Services(Alberta's CAS) based on her accusations. Her last accusations have been recognized as what they were, and I have since gotten a letter from our case worker that contradicted her last affidavit claims.

But I still do not have residency for my current wife, and from what I have been told by immigration, her residency will be at least another year once I receive approval to sponsor her, which has been nearly one year waiting for them to send me confirmation that they have gotten my application. Their processing time has been delayed because of the Haiti earthquake and now the Tamil refugees. It seems that these people take precedence over natural born Canadians and veterans.
 
I keep hearing that there is a cure for most diseases. My aunt had been diagnosed with breast cancer, and they removed both her breasts. She refused to take their chemo, and was harassed for months over it. She was told that she would be dead within months without taking chemo. That was over 2 yrs ago.

All she asked for was periodic testing, as she planned to take traditional holistic medicine. The cancer institute refused to do her testing, since she refused to take chemo.

To me this is just an example of an industry making money from your suffering. No difference to our family courts.

Just look at who is so against Bill C422. The lawyers and the feminists. Two industries who make a living from the suffering of families.
 
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Lostfather

I have custody of my kids now, which is how I have been able to return to Canada. It took 5 yrs and over $200K in legal fees, and finally a letter from my kid's school before the court saw what I had been saying all along. But 2 yrs later, I still do not get support from her, and have suffered repeated attacks in court and from Child and Family Services(Alberta's CAS) based on her accusations. Her last accusations have been recognized as what they were, and I have since gotten a letter from our case worker that contradicted her last affidavit claims.

But I still do not have residency for my current wife, and from what I have been told by immigration, her residency will be at least another year once I receive approval to sponsor her, which has been nearly one year waiting for them to send me confirmation that they have gotten my application. Their processing time has been delayed because of the Haiti earthquake and now the Tamil refugees. It seems that these people take precedence over natural born Canadians and veterans.
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Ha, do we have the same ex lol! My ex too...Police, CAS, and now the Superintendent of education had to step in recently. The even tried to lock her out of the school, but unfortunately she go in anyway and stormed a meeting and was yelling a screaming at the Principle in front of her staff. I have only about 70K in and a marriage in this whole matter. The problem is I can not go any further, I can even afford the money to get the remaining days of my transcripts, so the $3K I have invested into my appeal and the 2 days of transcripts I have are now going to be nothing more than expensive toilet paper.

BTW, I spent 4 years back in the mid 80's in the Infantry. I didn't have any bullets going over my head, but trained for it, spent weeks in the bush training for it, digging and sleeping in trenches to the cold NB winters in Gaugetown
 
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I have lots of that expensive toilet paper. Too bad that every time I look at it, I get angry and have to put it away for a while. I think many people have married the same woman. It has to be that, or we must agree that the courts enable these people to all act in the same way.
 
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