Hello pursuinghappiness!
the lawyers! Lawyer was good about that - he explained before our fist sit down what he needs and how to cut back his time so Ha no! - just totals and a title like:
"my 2007 Mazda" $10,100"
-My financials are on one page
-Exclusions, inheritance, variation of share on 1/2 page
-Short backup explaining the numbers in the second file 1-2 pages each.
-Third is my main files with everything i got sorted by title and numbered for reference
(reference #'s because I couldn't remember what i did or where it was)
(I actually put this car to bed doing a few online checks, printing a few comparables - spoke to the dealer (good fellow) about realistic figures what three months ago. I am happy - she really is not!)
This car thing is because she won't stop hounding me about it - like every couple of weeks - but she won't work out a bill paying agreement?????
Remember my instructions and training I do!! If stbx is in house upsatairs i am in the basement - or the garage with my new setup that is a "desk 5 feet tall". I do not interact no more - and I thank you personally - it really works! My kids have noticed and asked and my response was a simple because it is easier on me. Done.
Well frickin woman was "chasing me down" this week end. I gather she is speaking to people\single person and three times she gets in about the car! Said nothing, walked away twice - third i closed the laptop, grabbed the dog and it was off to the park!
Seriously I am trying - and yup I am sort of worried about what she can do that will just cause the lawyer fees to escalate - too many are falling into the trap and i do not want to be one - this is why now i ask instead of using my "it makes sense" because nothing is making sense to me anymore regarding my stbx, communicating with her and trying my darndest to be the bigger person. Sorry for the typiing again.
Actually this car came up again (a few other things too) by stbx, over and over and over - she really resents that this car was bought 9 days before she said divorce - and she is going on with and I want the full price for what we paid not one of those funny cheap numbers. (the cheap number is the price I am supposed to give that doesn't include the tax and it needs to get detailed and I am learning - the price we paid included a warranty of sorts and that does not have a value)
So I hope I am getting this right - doin it right and I think I hit a plateau of sorts that - zero, no, none, keep quiet, say not a word (I did say thank you when she gave me the plate of spagetti on Sunday though)...... Sorry I type again - I am starting to get better at it though with the practice - maybe this is a good thing
