More section 7

[rockscan]

See my partner has a list of items in his agreement for the year the divorce was signed. Since then the ex has made comments about how the kids didnt do that stuff the next year so he has to pay for whatever she wants. Her attitude is that list constitutes money he has to pay so she will get it in other ways. Not the case. Since then its been a battle of what she thinks is covered and what he says is CS. Things like school trips, application fees, dances, dresses etc. he just got the medicines and tampons demand.

Im agreeing that if OP doesnt think its legit he needs to speak up now. Kids grow up and out of different activities. Theres also legit expenses that should be covered. If his ex wants to play the "hide the kids because daddy is a monster game" then thats a separate issue that needs to be dealt with.
As my partners lawyer explained, s7 are never clear, you have to look at each persons income, the reasonableness of the expense and whether or not you could afford it while married. The problem was, his ex put them in serious debt signing the kids up willy nilly when married. The divorce gave him the freedom to say no to something he knew they couldnt afford. She said yes anyway and then the kids got involved because dad was a cheapskate jerk.

 

[wls]

I appreciate the responses regarding this but I am still not getting the answer I am looking for. She makes half as much as I do gross pay( maybe more)but she is self employed so after she does her taxes on line 150 she makes 1/4 of what I do. Because of this I end up paying for 75 percent of all s7 expenses. Why doesn't her gross pay not come into play when calculating s7 expenses.

To the other question regarding what the order states it is as agreed upon. Guides was something that both children were in before the break up. Things like this were not brought up in mediation so I guess it was assumed that this was a s7 and when I did say I couldn't afford it the threats, nasty phone calls and nasty emails would start. There is no compromise with my ex all she wants is more money. She just recently ask me is she could borrow a swim suit from me because our youngest daughter has swimming this week and out of the thousands of dollars in cs she receives I guess she can't afford a new swim suit but can purchase a brand new van. Yes I am bitter about things because she has everything and I lost all I had worked so hard for and will never have again.

 

[rockscan]

I appreciate the responses regarding this but I am still not getting the answer I am looking for..

Probably because what you want people to say isnt going to happen. What is in your agreement for income disclosure? Line 150? Then she has provided you with the right amount. Can you prove shes making more? No. She runs a business and therefore has costs to do so. The government of Canada accepts that as her income. Youll have to accept it and move on.

What does your agreement say about s7 expenses? You both agree on an expense before sharing it? Then thats your answer. You dont agree to guides you dont pay it. You also have to accept the unhappiness from your kids that you said no.

If you sit here waiting for posters to tell you what you want to hear youll be waiting a while. You got an answer. You got several answers. The real answer is that every situation is different and no two costs are the same.

 

[Beachnana]

These are your daughters. Contact the guide unit and work with the guiders so you can pay the camp and activity costs directly, therefore use the receipt for tax purposes. Ask about cookie sales. Be a super parent.

I am a guider and we always work with both parents to include and cooperate with unit activities. Stay involved. Guiders love involved parents.

I know this is a great program for daughters to be involved in.

 

[wls]

Beachnana, I already do as much as I can for both my children at guides like I fundraising through cookie selling or whatever they throw at me. I also take time off work to volunteer for both my daughters at school. I can honestly say that I do more for my children than their mother does but she takes all of the credit. I don't believe there are tax benefits for girl guides,

 

[laurie_rn]

court order?

court order?

I think (and I apologize if this is vague, but my ex and I didn't really disagree on too much, so our court order is a page long) but our kids were in multiple activities over the last 12 yrs since our divorce, and maybe because our incomes are similar, we always just paid 50/50. It was me (the mom) that signed them up for things, but I'd check with him first to see if it was agreeable first. I haven't read your whole thread (in the middle of trial with my new spouse and his ex so am time constrained) but I would assume it's however it was worded, likely based on income, in your court order.

 

[Rioe]

1. Tax breaks exists for certain kinds of extracurricular activities (those covered by the Child Fitness tax credit and the Child Arts tax credit). I don't think Sparks/Guides would be covered by either of those, so your ex isn't getting tax benefits from them.

Beachnana, I already do as much as I can for both my children at guides like I fundraising through cookie selling or whatever they throw at me. I also take time off work to volunteer for both my daughters at school. I can honestly say that I do more for my children than their mother does but she takes all of the credit. I don't believe there are tax benefits for girl guides,

Scouting and Guiding DOES qualify for the fitness and activity tax credit:

Children?s Fitness Tax Credit and Children?s Arts Tax Credit ? Information for Parents | Scouts Canada

Children's Activity Tax Credit

The rules were broadened not too long ago. It should be claimed by whoever is eligible, and the resulting amount shared proportionally between the payors.

 

[Beachnana]

Rioe. Thanks as I said. Tax break is applicable. I think its great you are involved with your daughters WLS.

Girl Fuides is active. We do not sit and do crafts. My unit Hikes, plays golf, rock climbes, swims, kayaks, canoes and camps. So sure its tax deductable. i have a Sparks unit that swim, hikes, bikes, trampoines and camps mthey are very active.