blinkandimgone
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Sure, you can PM me if you like.
Making sure im on the right path.
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WorkingDAD
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I do not want to hijack tread but is it any "blockers" to help with opposite? I mean when you eat not much but keep gain weight?
Tayken
Well-known member
you know what i mean
im fairly confident but i want to make sure my success is highest possible. if you guys need specific information don't hesitate to ask me.
Then stop calling children "IT".
In any material it should be written, no matter who has "custody" by either party as "our children".
You have object relation issues possibly and may be viewing the children as "objects" and not human beings. We do not (a) know what you mean and (b) only care about the child's best interests and not insure *your* success is as high as possible but, the best outcome for the child (not "IT") in question.
Apparently she has said LOTS of things. Get the test to prove it before setting yourself up for ~20 years of obligations.
You may want to be the father, but before you start committing yourself to the kid and getting attached, find out if you are first.
Get the test.
when she told me it wasn't mine i didn't buy it at all. i have no reason to believe its not mine and the parental duties was settled a long time ago as i offered to care for the child.
i went back in my documents and i never put "it" as the child so I'm in the clear, i know i did that sometimes and i really shouldn't be doing that
but thanks for your opinions hammerdad and tayken.
i went back in my documents and i never put "it" as the child so I'm in the clear, i know i did that sometimes and i really shouldn't be doing that
but thanks for your opinions hammerdad and tayken.
blinkandimgone
Moderator
Agreed, could be a much bigger mess down the road if it turns that the baby isn't yours and bio-dad turns up. Then you and bio-dad would both be 'on the hook' for CS and you could be splitting baby's time between the three of you. Why sign up for a lifetime of this if you don't have to?
standing on the sidelines
New member
she also said before you were not the father. You know she lies so get positive proof.
so i was re-evaluating my case conference brief, boy did i miss alot.
there is a few things i wanted to be put in.
i wanted to question on her answer and affidavit.
also i wanted an access order and restore custody to joint(current a consent order(dont ask) is in place for 2 hours a week and her having sole custody, was really sick) for more frequent visits, as of yet she has no real basis to limit it to 2 hours a week. would this go in brief for possible orders made?
need text messages and the contents and records of calling be tween the parties, where would i put this exactly??
im adamant on the access schedule is a settlement conference REQUIRED??
if i put in a motion im the moving party and i address or speak first right?
there is a few things i wanted to be put in.
i wanted to question on her answer and affidavit.
also i wanted an access order and restore custody to joint(current a consent order(dont ask) is in place for 2 hours a week and her having sole custody, was really sick) for more frequent visits, as of yet she has no real basis to limit it to 2 hours a week. would this go in brief for possible orders made?
need text messages and the contents and records of calling be tween the parties, where would i put this exactly??
im adamant on the access schedule is a settlement conference REQUIRED??
if i put in a motion im the moving party and i address or speak first right?
You have had a case conference already, no? What is your next step? A motion or another conference?
Conference briefs are thrown out after the conference and most of the discussion is without prejudice. So cross examining her answer and affidavit is a waste of time, and may work against you. That is, if you point out flaws at a conference, she will correct it and you lose the opportunity to attack her credibility when it counts.
In such a situation you are better off asking for court ordered mediation and request open mediation. You can then take her statements apart and enter the resulting record as evidence.
At a motion you will highly unlikely have an opportunity to question. It will be primarily a comparison of your affidavits. You may have some limit opportunity to argue, but don't count on addressing every discrepancy.
Highly unlikely you will get records of texts. Contents aren't kept by cell companies and all she has to do is erase them. Records of dates and number of texts can be produced, but to what purpose? You MUST show that this is relevant to the issue. Unless is it warranted, it won't be admissible.
Conference briefs are thrown out after the conference and most of the discussion is without prejudice. So cross examining her answer and affidavit is a waste of time, and may work against you. That is, if you point out flaws at a conference, she will correct it and you lose the opportunity to attack her credibility when it counts.
In such a situation you are better off asking for court ordered mediation and request open mediation. You can then take her statements apart and enter the resulting record as evidence.
At a motion you will highly unlikely have an opportunity to question. It will be primarily a comparison of your affidavits. You may have some limit opportunity to argue, but don't count on addressing every discrepancy.
Highly unlikely you will get records of texts. Contents aren't kept by cell companies and all she has to do is erase them. Records of dates and number of texts can be produced, but to what purpose? You MUST show that this is relevant to the issue. Unless is it warranted, it won't be admissible.
for text messages i already called my cell phone company virgin mobile and they confirmed that if i have an order that yes i can get the text messages from THEIR server WITH the contents as to what the text says. so i can use that as proof because they would certify that to be true to their records.
i haven't had a case conference yet.
if i understand correctly, it would advisable that i put a motion for order of open mediation. that is an ideal place to rip her statements apart and put that in the resulting record? What exactly is the resulting record? an affidavit attesting to the results of the mediation and enter it as evidence?
i know at the motion only affidavits and exhibits can be heard and used in motions.
I also came across interesting information. application, answer, reply cannot be used as evidence and thus affidavits must be created? i only say this because i outlined everything that happened in a supplemental affidavit in my application, stupid me i didn't affirm it or anything. I'm thinking i can just create a general affidavit and insert my entire supplemental affidavit into a real affidavit and submit it as evidence for the impending trial. Would i be correct in thinking of this?
i haven't had a case conference yet.
if i understand correctly, it would advisable that i put a motion for order of open mediation. that is an ideal place to rip her statements apart and put that in the resulting record? What exactly is the resulting record? an affidavit attesting to the results of the mediation and enter it as evidence?
i know at the motion only affidavits and exhibits can be heard and used in motions.
I also came across interesting information. application, answer, reply cannot be used as evidence and thus affidavits must be created? i only say this because i outlined everything that happened in a supplemental affidavit in my application, stupid me i didn't affirm it or anything. I'm thinking i can just create a general affidavit and insert my entire supplemental affidavit into a real affidavit and submit it as evidence for the impending trial. Would i be correct in thinking of this?
blinkandimgone
Moderator
What kind of phone do you have? There are tonnes of apps for iphone and android to back up your texts to email without having to go through the provider. SMS backup + works great for android.