Why would I move out of a 2.5 million dollar house with most of my essential expenses paid for?
Because your ex wants his financial independence from you and move on with his life. He wants his name off the deed of the house so he can buy a place of his own, but likely needs to free up his name off of your current house. You said yourself that the bank will not accept you as sole owner on the deed of the house. Your $50k salary won't cut it. You need to accept reality that it is not up to your ex to pay for you to be in the house, nor your bills. What WILL happen is that you will both fill our your financial statements and assets will be divided. Then, you will likely qualify for offset CS and a period of spousal support. I am shocked that your ex has not forced the sale of the house through court. You will get your fair share of the proceeds of the sale of said home.
This lets me use my funds to pay legal fees so I can get what I deserve.
I have never heard such blasphemy. Please ensure to not ever say such things in court. You and your ex from 5 years ago BOTH deserve to finalize your separation so that is is final. You deserve a fair division of your joint assets, offset CS, and a period of SS depending in how long you've been married. You use THAT money to pay your bills. You don't simply say that you want your ex to continue funding your lifestyle and paying your bills, such as paying the bills associated with your living quarters.
I read through a lot of the posts here and I don't want to end up nearly penniless when I should have a property or 2 just like my ex.
You make $50k per year and have a struggling business. Your ex makes $500k per year and is successful. He can own what he wants and can afford. Same to you. Unfortunately, the reality of your situation is that you will have to move to something within your NEW means. Not based on what your life USED to be like. And yes, many have ended up penniless. This mostly happens when people are unreasonable and drag out legal proceedings, driving up costs with court appearances, document writing, and motions/trials. Some separations cost $500. Some cost $500,000. In most cases, it is parents fighting over access to children, where one parent tries to block other parent out of kids' lives and other parent will fight to bitter end for kids, no matter the cost. Materials can be replaced. Time with kids cannot. Please do not insult those who have gone penniless, most were fighting for their kids against unreasonable and bitter spouses, much like yourself.
I think his parents would object to that statement. But also, I am sure your ex had something to do with his success. Did you attend school for him? Pass his tests? Do his work for him at his workplace and impressing the bosses so that he rises to his rank? I think he made himself who he is. Now you CAN argue that you supported him during his schooling, which would be arguments in your favour to gain spousal support in the high range. OP, you NEED to inform yourself on what you are actually entitled to before spouting out that you want to keep the house, have him pay your bills, pay your way, etc... The reality is that this ALL falls under entitlement of spousal support and (a) whether or not you are entitled to it, (b) the duration of any support and (c) the range within low, mid-level, or high
I'm the mother of his childen and we deserve the same stand of living.
That is the first time anyone, anywhere, has said that. Actually, that statement is precisely why Child Support was created. OP, you need to GET INFORMED properly. Any lawyer would tell you that child support was precisely created for ensuring that kids have good quality of life at both parents house. In your case, you should be happy, as your ex makes 1/2 Million and your offset amount will be something like $4000/month. Are you telling me that you cannot feed and clothe your kids for $4000/month?
Until I can achieve it in my own I think it's only fair he keeps supporting me.
Again, you will get your support through Spousal Support and Child Support. Instead of pulling up your pants and finalizing your separation through the proper channels (filling out proper Financial Statements) you keep screaming from the rooftops that you want your ex to pay your way. Um, no. Pay your own way through the money you receive via your own paycheque, your new boyfriend, and supports that have been legally completed through the proper channels.
