You asked if special expenses were paid monthly, bi-monthly etc. You can do it various ways. The best way is to figure out what your annual special expenses are, figure out his share, divide it by 12 and add it on to the monthly child support. That way, the maintenance enforcement people can just collect it for you.
However, many people don't know what those expenses will be. So, then you would give him the receipt as the expense arises, and he pays you back his share. Problems with that - hard to figure out the tax breaks on an expense-by-expense basis, and if he doesn't pay voluntarily, maintenance enforcement may not collect it for you (your order has to be worded just right for them to collect).
Your court staff will have a program to figure out the exact amount of child support, taking into account the tax deductions.
That is exactly my problem. The standard child support is rarely ever paid. As it stands, he pays less than 1/3 of what he was supposed to be paying for the past
10 years.
Our original order said
nothing about any extra expenses and I only very recently learned that I could get help with such things, so I never asked.
He has never paid a dime over the basic child support for anything...ever.
Going forward, I don't know how to work through this. I don't know what the expenses will be, so I can't come up with a number for FRO to enforce. I know if I just give him receipts, he wont pay.
As it is he wont even speak to me, (which makes it very difficult to self represent).
Option #1
I was thinking of proposing a bi-monthly claim, where I provide him with any receipts and he has 30 days to provide me with a refund.
Option #2
I thought of asking for an additional $25/month for his contribution towards the extras, which could be enforced by FRO, but he doesn't want to give me
anything at all right now, so I know he wont go for that either.
Option #3
I am a stay at home mom, and my husband provides for 100% of our income. I receive very little in CS ($125/month), and get less than $100/month in CCTB. Our "household income" exceeds $80,000/year.
My ex works full time. His "household income" exceeds $90,000/year.
As I don't work, I assume that my ex would be responsible for
most of the section 7 expenses for our child.
So I thought I would have a better chance with this option:
Ex pays 50% of any singular expenses in excess of $1000. With payments due either annually or bi-annually.
So basically unless there is a major expense like braces etc. he wouldn't have to pay any extra.
I would also like him to contribute to her post-secondary costs for College.
I would like him to pay 1/3,
I'll pay 1/3,
and our child will pay 1/3.
Questions:
How would I write up Option #3, plus the college savings into an Offer to Settle or Interim Order?
Am I being unreasonable?