Hi, I am a mom of 2 girls. My husband and I were officially seperated almost one year ago, after what I would say was a very bad relationship, from beginning to end. I will probrably be posting in the domestic violence forum a lot.
I am so glad I had the courage to finaly get out of the abusive relationship and it is amazing how healing it is once you are out and especially the time I have to myself while teh children visit him (except when I worry about him doing things to them). Sometimes Love is NOT enough. I suffered depression and still am because I could not handle his mental health problems. I'd make him go to get help and they would just stick him with a diagnosis and send him on his way, he never really wanted the help. (He has 3 mental health issues). My biggest issue in the divorce so far is it so hard to parent children with him. It was so much easier when I was with him and he didn't care about the kids and was barely involved. He was much busier, lying and stealign from people and being verbally abusive toward me. I am trying to heal and trying to understand why I left it go on for so long. I also am trying to heal and find out why there is no help for people in abusive relationships like the one I was in. The law seems to give him a new way to get to me, its really rediculous. I can not do much to help my kids, except help them adjust to our new life. They are happy when they are with me and I don't even have to tell them he lies ( I know I shouldn't) because they tell me he lies all the time. Ok, I am looking forward to making some new friends on here with people who are going thru the same and getting some help with the legal aspects.
Thanks for reasing
I am so glad I had the courage to finaly get out of the abusive relationship and it is amazing how healing it is once you are out and especially the time I have to myself while teh children visit him (except when I worry about him doing things to them). Sometimes Love is NOT enough. I suffered depression and still am because I could not handle his mental health problems. I'd make him go to get help and they would just stick him with a diagnosis and send him on his way, he never really wanted the help. (He has 3 mental health issues). My biggest issue in the divorce so far is it so hard to parent children with him. It was so much easier when I was with him and he didn't care about the kids and was barely involved. He was much busier, lying and stealign from people and being verbally abusive toward me. I am trying to heal and trying to understand why I left it go on for so long. I also am trying to heal and find out why there is no help for people in abusive relationships like the one I was in. The law seems to give him a new way to get to me, its really rediculous. I can not do much to help my kids, except help them adjust to our new life. They are happy when they are with me and I don't even have to tell them he lies ( I know I shouldn't) because they tell me he lies all the time. Ok, I am looking forward to making some new friends on here with people who are going thru the same and getting some help with the legal aspects.Thanks for reasing
