hearing scheduled: inviting 10 year old to testify
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mcdreamy
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Soccer is known for crowd/fan violence and brawling, police regularly have to use tear gas and batons to break up not only rival fans - but also groups of the same fan factions.
I've always thought many soccer supporters suffer from "short man syndrome" - angry, short men, who feel it necessary to act out in an attempt to gain respect and recognition.
OP, I hope you've read the thoughts of the other posts here, and recognize it would be inappropriate to involve a child in a disciplinary hearing between fiance/father.
Tayken
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Uttering a death threat or any threat is a criminal matter and not one to be addressed at a tribunal for at a minor hockey league.
http://www.hockeynl.ca/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/2012_13_articles_bylaws_e.pdf
It is basic training required by all people volunteering with Minor Hockey in Canada and covered under the "Respect in Sports" program.
Good Luck!
Tayken
D8 used to play community-league soccer - and I was quite relived when she said this year she didn't want to continue. It wasn't the violence of the game or the fights between parents and coaches that got me, it was the way parents behaved towards the kids, their own and other people's. Yelling, swearing, and taking it all way too seriously. What kind of father yells "what are you, a f---ing pansy?!" at his seven-year-old son when he misses a kick? Or cheers loudly when a kid on the other team falls down? Not what I want my kid to witness. I have tremendous respect for the coaches who solider on despite the adults jerks they have to deal with, but I'm happy with D8 just being involved in swimming and gymnastics, where the adults are much more civilized. (Of course, I live in sports-crazy Alberta, where attitudes towards competition and winning at all costs are pretty extreme).
Pursuinghappiness
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When my girls were smaller...we tried them out in a variety of sports to figure out what they liked. I'm very relieved to say eventually chose things I could handle. My oldest picked karate...she's got her black belt in her teens. It was fun to watch, the parents are quiet and its useful for her life. My youngest chose ballet...which I also enjoyed watching although last year she switched to yoga (beautiful to watch) and concentrates on piano.
I have to admit that I spent a few summers on softball or soccer fields and I HATED it. Hated the loud parents, hated the drama and my kids didn't enjoy it either. I used to make them finish the summer season since I signed them up and they needed to be committed to their team but about halfway through, it became a chore for all of us. But ultimately you have to let the kids try a lot of things and take figure out what they have a passion for. As a parent, I would have tolerated whatever they loved. I really dislike parents that push their kids into sports because its what the parent wants, not what the kid wants.
Agreed FB. The point is for the kid to have fun and get exercise.
Educational pursuits like language studies, piano, community service always were more important than sports for my kids.
lmao McDreamy. When I started dating, one of the things on my "hell nah" list was raving sports fans. Although my partner used to play football, he doesn't watch it. I understand why people play sports but I cannot understand why someone plants themselves in front of a TV all day to watch it and freak out when they lose. Its so meaningless and brain numbing.
FWB
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What...you mean like they do with Hockey? Must be a Canadian thing, didn't witness any of that where I came from. Oh, and don't think any of that doesn't happen in curling or cheer-leading
The same kind of parent that freaks out when their kid is body checked in Hockey, Lacrosse or basketball?
I have heard it all on the pitch and as a coach...the only difference is, I know the game inside out, and some of these <lovely people>, haven't got a faintest what a foul or a free-kick is
Yes...and Wainright is the best place to live on this planet. You've got jokes
smileandwalkaway
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A person uttering a death threat to another person is always inappropriate in my opinion. It just gets worse when a child is involved.
I believe it is wrong to involve a child into a situation like this. It is for the authorities to handle. You just need to trust that these authorities handle things well.
I know when my children were exposed to such threats the proper authorities were notified. These authorities did not feel it was appropriate or healthy to bring the children into it any more than they were already. It was not in their best interests. The only thing that mattered was that they were no longer in any physical danger... That they were safe. CAS was satisfied talking to the adults.... The individual accused of uttering threats and the person who reported it.
I believe it is wrong to involve a child into a situation like this. It is for the authorities to handle. You just need to trust that these authorities handle things well.
I know when my children were exposed to such threats the proper authorities were notified. These authorities did not feel it was appropriate or healthy to bring the children into it any more than they were already. It was not in their best interests. The only thing that mattered was that they were no longer in any physical danger... That they were safe. CAS was satisfied talking to the adults.... The individual accused of uttering threats and the person who reported it.
You are correct and I have taken the "RIS" training as a parent, coach and referee. Each are different programs btw.
My question is why are the police not involved. My guess is the police couldn't/wouldn't press charges and the league was asked to deal with this behavior. I'd be very curious to find out what league this is but I fear I may already know and may be personally linked as my employer so I better leave this one alone.