Happy Mother's Day!

[motherbear4]

LF32, I suspect Trinton's post may be the straw that broke the camel's back. His words and intent did not compliment each other. His best wishes should have been just that, but they weren't. Had it been left at HMD, I doubt he would have received these responses. But he chose to make the post about himself. You added to the responders frustrations by doing the same thing. Unfortunately, Trinton is so (rightfully/understandably) bitter right now, a simple HMD post turned into something else. There are times the bitterness needs to be turned off.

 

[trinton]

I would like to think Trinton and LF had good intentions with their Mothers Day effort

I can't speak for trinton but mine were all good...so if you'd like to think that they were good.. do it, because it's correct. Why would my intentions for loving my mother and partner as a mother ... and wanting to spoil them be bad?

I could speak for my self... how could ANYONE's intentions for encouraging and facilitating for their daughter to be with their mom for mother's day weekend be possibly bad? It doesn't matter, I won't be wishing a happy mother's day on this forum anymore now that I know how they perceive these wishes when they come from separated dad's. It's actually quite disturbing to me that they think this to be the case.

 

[Soiled]

It speaks volumes about your characters that after all of this, you both feel as though there was nothing wrong with your approach, and are acting as though a great injustice has been commited.

 

[Rioe]

If you have to brag about how you are taking the high road, you are not, in fact, taking the high road.

 

[trinton]

If you have to brag about how you are taking the high road, you are not, in fact, taking the high road.

So you are suggesting that I should have kept the entire weekend and not offered her anytime for mother's day because she is in technically in contempt of our court order and owing me a long weekend - that would have been the high road, right - to hold mother's day hostage of time being owed.

 

[LovingFather32]

My God get over yourselves....

I said happy mothers day and was proud of what I was doing. I can say more than HMD if I want ... it doesn't mean I'm bragging....and somehow "not" taking some kind of high road? Huh? I'm trying to figure out if this is just some kind of prank .. or if you're projecting Trinton recent hostility to me because I simply posted here.

I told my mom what I did for my g/f....I told my g/f what I did for my mom....hey I even told my buddy today what I did and he also told me what he did. So that's taking a low road, bragging...or whatever other rubbish posters seem to be writing today? Please? Get a hold of yourselves.

I'm allowed to be proud of treating the mothers in my life good. It's sad what some must be going through to be able to turn it around and make such a positive thing .. so negative. Makes me lose faith in humanity. Cheer up folks. I shared my mother's day with you ... that's all.

 

[trinton]

She believed that the day's sentiment was being sacrificed at the expense of greed and profit. In 1923 she filed a lawsuit to stop a Mother's Day festival, and was even arrested for disturbing the peace at a convention selling carnations for a war mother's group. Before her death in 1948, Jarvis is said to have confessed that she regretted ever starting the mother's day tradition.

Similarly I regret ever having posted this thread. This is turning into soap opera now and all about greed and profit - if you mention yourself in your mother's day thread then it's not acceptable and an insult . Mod's please close. I apologize for any inconvenience.

 

[LovingFather32]

It speaks volumes about your characters that after all of this, you both feel as though there was nothing wrong with your approach, and are acting as though a great injustice has been commited.

Can you point to anywhere in my initial post in this thread where I speak of injustice?

Also, whether my "approach" in my past relationship was or wasn't the right one (I did the best I could) isn't relevant to today's sharing's of mothers day. I personally think it's disgusting that you're digging the bottom of the barrel to attack my character for sharing my mothers day experience. Pretty grotesque stuff. (Talk about speaking volumes of charter .. yikes).

 

[LovingFather32]

Many are doing what they preach not to do on other threads. This was a total trolling fest Trinton ... they're pissed at you because you write like you're pissed at women.

This has nothing to do with mothers day...it's a revenge thing. They derailed and attacked. Just roll with it. They complain about this in other threads and come and do it themselves. This didn't deserve eye rolling and unnecessary, negative, false interpretations. It was a happy mothers day post for god sakes. You could be the biggest gentlemen in the world and they will turn you into a monster somehow. Just how these forums go sometimes.


Soiled .. I'm saying I was simply proud of the mothers in my life and what I planned and did for them. Why keep stopping by and challenging that? Do you really have nothing better to do? Is that where your life is at? Furthermore, were you not the one who kept yelling for me to not "beat a dead horse" and to stop posting in other threads? Well nothing you're saying here is correct .. in fact it's quite disturbing. So take your own beautiful advice and stop beating a dead horse .. take a hike.

 

[trinton]

Many are doing what they preach not to do on other threads. This was a total trolling fest Trinton ... they're pissed at you because you write like you're pissed at women.

This has nothing to do with mothers day...it's a revenge thing. They derailed and attacked. Just roll with it. They complain about this in other threads and come and do to themselves. This didn't deserve eye rolling and unnecessary, negative, false interpretations. It was a happy mothers day post for god sakes. You could be the biggest gentlemen in the world and they will turn you into a monster somehow. Just how these forums go sometimes.

I realize that. But I have very clearly stated before that:

there are very pleasant single moms out there

I don't understand how I am referring to them when I mention my former partner. Don't we come onto this site to talk about our former partners and the difficulties that we encounter with them and the best ways to deal with them? Are we not all in this together? Did we not all have to go through and deal with a separation? Yes, a separation is indeed one of the worst things a human will experience in their life time. And seems instead of supporting one another we are all attacking one another. No where in my initial post did I liken my ex with the mother's on here - matter of fact and quite the contrary, many of them have been very helpful to me and I have wished them ALL a happy mother's day. I'm starting to think it's because I talked about my former spouse in this happy mother's day thread, however, I simply don't understand why they like to or would want to liken themselves with my former spouse - especially if they are nothing like her.

 

[Soiled]

Can you point to anywhere in my initial post in this thread where I speak of injustice?

Also, whether my "approach" in my past relationship was or wasn't the right one (I did the best I could) isn't relevant to today's sharing's of mothers day. I personally think it's disgusting that you're digging the bottom of the barrel to attack my character for sharing my mothers day experience. Pretty grotesque stuff. (Talk about speaking volumes of charter .. yikes).

Reread what I wrote. I wrote that you act as though an injustice has been done to you.

What you think of my actions towards you is frankly meaningless to me.

Reread post 6 to get a reminder of the issue people had with your post. To add to It, that you think doing household chores to make a day special is ridiculous. You should be doing those things on a regular basis anyhow.

You called me out in your initial post here, wondering I would show my appreciation for the post. Well I did, it's your own fault.

I've taken a liking to this, and in fact didn't have anything better to do this weekend. I've seen how you and Trinton attack anyone who doesn't agree with you, playing with and twisting words, and playing the victim. Calling you out on it has been entertaining.

 

[LovingFather32]

Trinton,

I agree you may be bitter right now and sometimes it comes out on your keyboard. Been there, done that .. burned the t-shirt.

You went out of your way to get a Happy Mothers Day card and beautiful slogan and start a thread about mothers day. I guess merely mentioning your ex or your situation was the catalyst for a full blown attack .. like you'er not allowed to discuss mothers day .. I personally find that ridiculous.

I might have avoided from some of your threads because it hurt me to see your pain and I know it's hard to keep the emotions in. I know what you're going through and it's hard for me to watch. Your anger comes out in your words .. because .. you're angry. People who tell you not to be angry or to turn your bitterness off like it's a switch have never been through this.

Some posters here like to kick people when they're down. It's the net .. and it's their problem. Let it roll of your shoulders. It's very clear throughout this thread that your intentions were NOT bad. Shame on other posters in my opinion.

 

[LovingFather32]

To add to It, that you think doing household chores to make a day special is ridiculous. You should be doing those things on a regular basis anyhow.

I went above and beyond. I went to IKEA and bought all new bathroom stuff (shower curtains, accessories, etc) and redid the bathroom. She's been talking about making a change to it for months and I surprised her with it. I also cleaned the house top to bottom within half a day to see her smile ... These things arn't daily expectations and I think most mothers would agree that having all that done while they have their feet kicked up is pretty nice.

In Soiled's world these things are ridiculous .... but my partner definitely disagrees with you and can't really believe her eyes in these posts. She's asking where you guys come from? I didn't mention the breakfast in bed with heart shaped pancakes (yep..some here have my facebook and can even verify all I say is correct...lol) .. the poems, necklaces, flowers, etc.

Anyways ... taking her out to see a movie now. Have a wonderful mothers day all. Stay smiling!

 

[Soiled]

I went above and beyond. I went to IKEA and bought all new bathroom stuff (shower curtains, accessories, etc) and redid the bathroom. She's been talking about making a change to it for months and I surprised her with it. I also cleaned the house top to bottom within half a day to see her smile ... Yes ladies hate that huh?

In Soiled's world these things are ridiculous .... but my partner definitely disagrees with you and can't really believe her eyes in these posts. She's asking where you guys come from?

Anyways ... taking her out to see a movie now. Have a wonderful mothers day all. Stay smiling!

Like I stated, playing with words and twisting them. It's like talking to a child throwing a tantrum.

 

[LovingFather32]

Like I stated, playing with words and twisting them. It's like talking to a child throwing a tantrum.

Enlighten me. What words have I played with? I did nice things for my g/f on mothers day...get off my back man.

I said happy mothers day and shared my experiences of the day. You want to argue about that for some reason. Very odd indeed. Readers are seriously okay with this?

 

[Soiled]

You add more to the story than was originally outlined and state that I'm against that. Feel free to reread the thread closely if you fail to understand, I have no desire to spell things out for you.

I have no issue with how you spent your day or what you did. I've simply poked at you for how you've presented It, seeing as you decided to call me out.

 

[motherbear4]

Trinton, do you wish your own family members HMD by beginning with the same tirade you did here? Or do you simply say HMD? One way is extremely disrespectful, the other is not. If you want to give someone best wishes, do that.

LF32, hate to say it but yes, your reading comprehension of even some of your own posts is quite lacking. Trinton was incredibly disrespectful and you backed him up. Then the both of you had hissy fits when called out.

Neither of you will even entertain the possibility that you may have been rude. That in itself speaks volumes.

 

[Rioe]

So you are suggesting that I should have kept the entire weekend and not offered her anytime for mother's day because she is in technically in contempt of our court order and owing me a long weekend - that would have been the high road, right - to hold mother's day hostage of time being owed.

No, I'm suggesting that you boasting about taking the high road here means that you are doing it not because it's the right thing to do, but because of the validation you would receive.

I've always thought Mother's Day was a bit made-up for commercialism, sort of like Valentine's Day. If my ex helped the kids in any way to buy me something or tell them what they had to do for me, I would enjoy it less. I want it to come from their little hearts.

I find LF treating his girlfriend as though it was her birthday or Valentine's Day a bit creepy, but I confess I do get melancholy on Mother's Day as I don't have my kids so my judgment is probably skewed.

 

[Beachnana]

Phew! I think the whole discussion got off track. LF what you did for your girlfriend and your own Mother although overwhealming and ott it's your deal. But what you did and said about your ex is just a little ott. I think it weird that you would make a fuss for your ex. And I agree with Rio a gift chosen by you would not be appreciated by an ex. It's just a bit too "look at me the perfect " Dad

Trinton. Well you seem to hate your ex so it seemed out of character to make such a fuss for your ex. And then seemly seem smug about your efforts

I think posters were a little shell shocked and expressed that sentiment and you both took offence to opinions not in line with yours.

 

[LovingFather32]

Trinton, do you wish your own family members HMD by beginning with the same tirade you did here? Or do you simply say HMD? One way is extremely disrespectful, the other is not. If you want to give someone best wishes, do that.

LF32, hate to say it but yes, your reading comprehension of even some of your own posts is quite lacking. Trinton was incredibly disrespectful and you backed him up. Then the both of you had hissy fits when called out.

Neither of you will even entertain the possibility that you may have been rude. That in itself speaks volumes.

Here's what Triton wrote:

Despite my former spouse recently denying me access on my scheduled weekend (Easter) sending me a text message that she asked our 7 year old daughter who she wanted to spend Easter weekend with (burdening a 7 year old child to pick sides) and refusing to allow me a make-up weekend , I reached out to her and offered to give her the mother’s day weekend (in full) even though it was my regular weekend. I was initially going to be offering her the Sunday only (especially in lite of her very recent unilateral decision to reduce the status quo in face of an order appointing the OCL) but figured it would make more sense to give her the entire weekend. I simply told our daughter I would not be with her this coming weekend - that it was mother's day weekend and that I wanted her to enjoy it with mom - that I would see her on the following Wednesday.

There has been years where I did not get to see our daughter on father’s day (or receive any phone call ) but no matter what happens and what goes on between us dads and mothers, at the end of the day, the children love both of us.

Happy mother’s day to all of the mom’s out there.

Welcome to the forums by the way. So Trinton starts a thread saying Happy Mother's Day and may have discussed his situation a bit. Read the above .. there's nothing rude. He just discussed a few of her actions like many of us do about our ex's on the forums. You're all hypersensitive to his posts by now and are hopping all over him. I see posters talking about their ex's actions all the time and deicating full threads to them .. guess they get carte blanche?

In this thread, Trinton said a few things she did, but in the end gave her the mothers day weekend and wished everybody here a Happy Mothers Day with a nice card. BIG DEAL? Nobody was here to bash mothers.

Apparently I'm guilty by association. I'm used to it....forums did that with Mr T also .. but I'll stand up for what's right even if I'm the only one. Trinton's going through a rough time .. so he includes his ex's actions to try and get some validation from us regarding his pain. He;s learning the hard way on this site that talking hurt feelings come off differently when typed on a keyboard.

I know for a fact I wasn't being rude by describing my mothers day. If you want to call me rude because I didn't feel like Trinton deserved to get jumped then that's your prerogative I suppose. But it was just plain wrong. If you all hate him so much why even stop by here and argue all night?