Finally, After a Nasty 4 Year Battle I Have 50/50 Custody and Equal Shared Parenting

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DadWhoDidntGiveUp

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Hi Everyone,

I would like to thank the dedicated people on this site who have shared their invaluable knowledge, wisdom, and resources with the community.

After an almost 4 year battle with a mother with no morals whatsoever, I finally have 50/50 Custody and Equal Shared Parenting of my, now, 5 year old son. :)

Without this site and its contributors, I would have given up on this system, and its sometimes very questionable processes, years ago.

A website has been dedicated to a factual accounting of my hell-on-earth experience over the past 4 years.

https://custody.wtf
HTTPS://fnckyou.com

Journalling about the 7 False Allegations of the most egregious kind of Child Abuse, the 5 Childrens Aid Investigations, and the 4 Police investigations has been very cathartic for both myself and my family.


Thanks again to everyone!

DadWhoDidntGiveUp
 
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First off, congratulations!

Really sorry you had to go through that. I hope it goes better for you in the future and that the antics stop. That's quite a diary. I didn't chronicle mine, but it reads similar.
 
Congratulations. Hope your ex doesn’t give you any grief moving forward because unfortunately in family court she can keep taking you back. Over and over. Here’s to hoping this is really the end for you.
 
I read somewhere it is bad to brag about your win I. such way but keeping you out for such long time I don't blame you at all.

patience is my virtue.. lmao.. what a great way to end it.


how did you persuade OCL to give you 5050 with joint.. who did you have? I had some one who frm the very start stated wouldn't grant 5050 or joint custody from the very start.. before ven having spoke with 3rd parties.. and did not end up recommending them..

My story differs from yours as the OCL report is in her favour...

OCL report plays big role...
 
Congratulations.... I read your bio, and wept, its so similar to mine. I think we were married to the same person!!

I am in my fifth year and to date have all 4 of my children. Like you their mother has been egregiously dishonest. The children barely speak to her now.

The OCL and CAS have come squarely down on my side. This despite having made a terrible mistake at the onset which the STBX has blown out of proportion exponentially. STBX now calls them liars.

I have been self rep'ed and am now headed to trial.

At this point she's looking for $$$. The kind of $$$ I don't have. likely a tactic to have me settle. I have no choice but to stand up to this too. Headed to trial in May.

Lastly

I to feel the same way about this online community in my debt of gratitude for its assistance. I hope to return the favor.

COMMUNITY - there are not many forums like this, and I am appealing to the more tech savvy members (like myself) to set up similar forum resources. If this site disappears, many many people are screwed.

Last request: OP, please out the POS lawyer by name. The one that supported your X in this dishonest conduct. Post their name here. Report them to the LSUC.

Most respectfully
PND
 
Congratulations and good work. Terrible that you had to go through this.

I agree - "out" the POS lawyer by name.

Love your closing comments... quite appropriate considering what you had to go through.

Best wishes for a drama-free future. Of course you will always have to watch your back with the mother.
 
Update

Update

Me again,

:)

(btw, I've gone from seeing my amazing 6 year-old son for only 4 hours each week over a 4 year period to Joint Custody and Equal Shared Parenting! I couldn't have done it without this site and it's members)

Over the past 18 months, I have received dozens and dozens of questions regarding the custody and access case that is journaled at the https://our.bio website. I've received many questions regarding the unscrupulous mother, my attempts at gaining custody and access, and also questions regarding the cryptic password protected transcription of the mother's confession that was on the 2017 version of the website.

Now that the case really is over, the https://our.bio (also known as https://custody.wtf) site has been updated. It details the deeply disturbing audio-recorded “pedophile” statements the mother had made to the father. It was the mother’s attempted defense of her disturbing statements in the audio recording that put me in custody and access hell for 4 years.

The updates are worth the read -- believe me!

For those who have already read the main page at https://our.bio, I have also placed the updates themselves on a separate page so that you don’t have to read the main page’s contents all over again.


Thanks again to this site’s creators and moderators.
Thanks to everyone else for their support.

Happy Reading!

DadWhoDidntGiveUp

DadWhoDidntGiveUp said:
Hi Everyone,

I would like to thank the dedicated people on this site who have shared their invaluable knowledge, wisdom, and resources with the community.

After an almost 4 year battle with a mother with no morals whatsoever, I finally have 50/50 Custody and Equal Shared Parenting of my, now, 5 year old son. :)

Without this site and its contributors, I would have given up on this system, and it’s sometimes very questionable processes, years ago.
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!

It was a very good reading and thank you for sharing your story. Your case is very much similar with mine, these child abusers needs to stay behind the bars for as long as their children are old enough so they can't be harmed anymore.

People should know the name of the child abuser's lawyer.
 
What an amazing story. I admire everything you did to stick up for your rights and the truth. You are a hero. Thank you for sharing.
 
Key point that I am sure Janus would point out from the website. Never ever leave a matter in the hands of the other parents for more than 60 days where you have no access to a child. Had this matter gone to the court on an emergency motion sooner it would have possibly not been as intense. This is a strong warning to all parents that if you don't see your kids for 2-3 weeks you need to bring an emergency motion immediately.
 
I just took the time to read your blog, that's a brutal story and feel for you. This system isn't fair and these actions should never go unpunished. Hopefully you can have a good relationship with your son and that things settle down for you.
 
Completely agree Tayken!

Regardless of what the other parent says/promises, or in my case, she stalled with promises of mediation:mad:, etc., take action immediately!


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Key point that I am sure Janus would point out from the website. Never ever leave a matter in the hands of the other parents for more than 60 days where you have no access to a child. Had this matter gone to the court on an emergency motion sooner it would have possibly not been as intense. This is a strong warning to all parents that if you don't see your kids for 2-3 weeks you need to bring an emergency motion immediately.
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Let’s just say that in this case, I’m not letting this go unpunished. :D ;) :D

I’ll update everyone when the time is right.

As for my son, he is amazing and we love each other very much.

Thanks for asking !

Gilligan said:
I just took the time to read your blog, that's a brutal story and feel for you. This system isn't fair and these actions should never go unpunished. Hopefully you can have a good relationship with your son and that things settle down for you.
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DadWhoDidntGiveUp said:
Completely agree Tayken!

Regardless of what the other parent says/promises, or in my case, she stalled with promises of mediation:mad:, etc., take action immediately!
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Exactly! To quote Justice Pazaratz:

The first is that “status quo” is important. Perhaps the first piece of legal advice separated parents get is that temporary arrangements often come to be self-perpetuating. That’s why parties work so hard to stake out their turf; create patterns; and obtain favourable temporary (or even temporary-temporary) orders.
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http://canlii.ca/t/fnr57

Clearly in your matter this *IS* the advice the other parent got from their negative advocate lawyer.
 
Sigh...

Hi Everyone,

(10 years of this sh!t and the madness continues)

Well, I am back -- again...

Back in 2018, I shared my excitement with everyone here about my ruthless EX, who would stop at nothing to get 100% custody and 100% access to our son. I had shared my story with you on my site https://CUSTODY.WTF

Briefly, over a 4-year period, she had made 7 false allegations of child sexual abuse against me and my family. I was finally given 50/50 access and custody of our son in 2017.

The problem now is, she hasn't stopped with her madness.

We will skip the ridiculousness that occurred between 2018 to 2019.
  1. In 2020, she kept our son away from me for 30 days stating that our son should stay with her for the entire pandemic. That was resolved in my favour
  2. In mid-2020, she pretended to have COVID-19 and kept our son for another 30 days until she was forced to return him to me​.
  3. In 2021, she started legal proceedings and stated that she should have 100% custody and access of our son. Turns out that after a Voice of the Child assessment, my son told the authorities that his mother was regularly beating him up. The Ex admitted to the abuse. The Children's Aid Society​ confirmed the abuse after an investigation. My Ex had been abusing our son for years -- and you guessed it, the Ex suffered no consequences.​
  4. In 2022, she started legal proceedings again.
  5. And now, in 2023, the Ex has started legal proceedings with the same yearly goal.
I've been putting up with this crap for 10 years!

My question is this: Is there a way to stop this crazy person from starting the Arbitration process every frikken year? She's always asking for the same thing - 100% custody and 100% access time for her.

Thanks for your time!

DadWhoDidntGiveUp
http://CUSTODY.WTF - My Custody and Access Nightmare Diary

DadWhoDidntGiveUp said:
Hi Everyone,

I would like to thank the dedicated people on this site who have shared their invaluable knowledge, wisdom, and resources with the community.
....
Journalling about the 7 False Allegations of the most egregious kind of Child Abuse, the 5 Childrens Aid Investigations, and the 4 Police investigations has been very cathartic for both myself and my family.

Thanks again to everyone!

DadWhoDidntGiveUp
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