Fight Club

[cbarker78]

@blinkandimgone

.....In the future I'll thank you not to address me in any thread I post in, to email me through this forum, or to otherwise stalk me and try to force an interaction with me when I have no desire whatsoever to engage you.

LMAO!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry Resourceful, I know you're pretty heated up.... but this statement really comes across pretty high and mighty..... do you really think so grand of yourself that you think other members are stalking you in this forum?! Seriously now?!?!?!

Best wishes

 

[Tayken]

"Tayken" could have said "trying to look at things from the point of view of the other party can be helpful in reducing conflict, especially if you're encountering difficulty". Instead Tayken said "it doesn't take much to guess as to why you are in the situation you are in" ... thereby pulling an assumption out of thin air that "slughead10" was losing in court and using that assumption to attack slughead10 on a deeply sensitive topic at at emotionally raw time.

Slughead10 doesn't seem to be the "emotionally raw" kind of person. In fact, quite the opposite. Also, you are working on an assumption yourself and "reading into" what I write. Typical pattern of behaviour you generally demonstrate. I asked for the case file for a better perspective. I don't take people for "face value" of what they state in a public forum as "the truth".

Really? An "attack"? I requested disclosure...

Slughead10 has already stated that he is doing exceptionally well ... as far as anyone can be doing well in family court ...

Feel free to post the links to the direct messages where this is outlined. I would be more than willing to address each and every thread.

Tayken was just grasping at straws for a way to be hurtful. But even giving Tayken the benefit of the doubt how could Tayken POSSIBLY be seen as somehow making such a rude and out of context statement out of kindness for slughead10?

Thank you for demonstrating your exceptional ability to "label" people. The responses from other people just pile on concerns already raised. Clearly, I am the target of blame in your world. Which I am more than happy to be as you tend to make it the other parent and the system.

The very suggestion is either absolutely idiotic or completely dishonest.

I am "idiotic and dishonest". Labels. Yet, no evidence to the fact has been presented and only "emotional reasoning" based on your fears/anxieties/worries.

If this were a one-off comment Tayken made that would be one thing. But Tayken makes this kind of thing a habit. For Tayken to casually use such aggressive language to abuse people on this forum who might be in a difficult situation ...

Again, address the "aggressive" language directly. In your world I am "idiotic and dishonest". That is prime examples of your "aggressive" language which falls into the proper classifications for "verbal abuse" by the way...

just to try to "win" a personal argument (which in this case Tayken lost anyways) ...

Are you suggesting I am demonstrating "all or nothing" thinking? What am I winning by the way? What am I losing? What impact emotionally has this had on me as a person... None. Not even your verbally abusive labelling, false allegations you continually make.

there's no way Tayken made such comments out of anything but pure mean spiritedness and the desire to bully and humiliate someone they saw as having opposing views.

I don't think slughead10 is "humiliated". That is a very strong statement to make. You clearly are very angry at me which is unfortunate. All I can recommend is that you bring more than emotional reasoning and your personal "feelings" to the argument.

Anyone who says definitively without proof that Tayken HASN'T made a number of venomously aggressive comments on this board should ask themselves if it's reasonable not to at least reserve their opinions until until they HAVE seen more of Tayken's offensive posts.

List them all... You seem to have read them all. Feel free to cite them all versus making a blanket "emotional statement".

There's no room for this in a support forum. If Tayken is not going to be banned this conduct of Tayken's MUST at least be publicly criticized by the moderators.

Just like you want the court system to justify your problems... You are looking for people to validate your "feelings"... To validate your "emotional reasoning". Not sure what benefit that is going to get you as a whole.

What possible justification can there be for allowing such attacks? Tayken has made such attacks DOZENS of times and I've only read a small fraction of Tayken's posts. ONE SUCH ATTACK SHOULD BE ENOUGH! The time to end such behavior has LONG passed.

So disagreeing with you is punishable by being banned. Interesting logic supported by no cogent or relevant evidence.

The justification that "the victim deserved it because he or she did it too" is extremely weak. We're all adults and should be able to stick to the points when we disagree and to avoid personal attacks. I have said this repeatedly to those who attack me personally rather than addressing my arguments. Rise higher. Expect more of yourselves.

Now you are blaming everyone on this site for not supporting your argument. Re-read your messages a few times. You want to present your argument and everyone to agree with you? What a wonderful world you must live in where your opinion controls everything.

Good Luck!
Tayken

 

[Mess]

Fight Club

Let's keep it here where it's all on topic.

 

[blinkandimgone]

Well this looks interesting....

 

[Mess]

There. Whataya think?

 

[cbarker78]

There. Whataya think?

LMAO! I was looking at this in the New Posts list, wondering how a thread got to three pages already.... Bravo Mods!! LOL!!

**ding** bring in the next round ;-) We've got our popcorn ready

 

[blinkandimgone]

Fantastic! Mess, you are one helluva mod

 

[Tayken]

There. Whataya think?

I think it is quite funny. The use of "Fight Club" was a good one. Another good title would have been "Thunderdome":

We don't need another hero, hero
We don't need to know the way home
All we want is life beyond the thunderdome

 

[Tayken]

Karpman drama triangle - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[Rioe]

Karpman drama triangle - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Thanks Tayken, that helped me figure something out! Now I know why people around here are so offended at new partners getting involved in separations - they perceive the new partner as playing the role of the Rescuer.

 

[slughead10]

I don't have any interest in banning anyone at the present time.

I will delete posts or threads that become abusive. However we are all either in, or have come out of, really toxic, high conflict situations and of course we are going to lose it sometimes. As well, if you can't handle someone taking your arguments apart on the message board, you will collapse on the witness stand when your ex's lawyer gets ahold of you.

This board can be very supportive at times, and other times very tough. That's the way it should be.

I will ban someone that is consistantly giving incorrect information and misleading people (this has happened in the past.) I will ban someone who ONLY posts abusive comments and has no legitimate questions or anything positive to contribute. I will ban someone for posting nothing but commercial spam.

I won't ban someone for an opinion, although it is always nice if they can give legitimate reasons in support of an opinion, rather than just repeating the same thing ad nauseum.

why ban when you can censor......

 

[slughead10]

Slughead10 doesn't seem to be the "emotionally raw" kind of person. In fact, quite the opposite. Also, you are working on an assumption yourself and "reading into" what I write. Typical pattern of behaviour you generally demonstrate. I asked for the case file for a better perspective. I don't take people for "face value" of what they state in a public forum as "the truth".

Really? An "attack"? I requested disclosure...



Feel free to post the links to the direct messages where this is outlined. I would be more than willing to address each and every thread.



Thank you for demonstrating your exceptional ability to "label" people. The responses from other people just pile on concerns already raised. Clearly, I am the target of blame in your world. Which I am more than happy to be as you tend to make it the other parent and the system.



I am "idiotic and dishonest". Labels. Yet, no evidence to the fact has been presented and only "emotional reasoning" based on your fears/anxieties/worries.



Again, address the "aggressive" language directly. In your world I am "idiotic and dishonest". That is prime examples of your "aggressive" language which falls into the proper classifications for "verbal abuse" by the way...



Are you suggesting I am demonstrating "all or nothing" thinking? What am I winning by the way? What am I losing? What impact emotionally has this had on me as a person... None. Not even your verbally abusive labelling, false allegations you continually make.



I don't think slughead10 is "humiliated". That is a very strong statement to make. You clearly are very angry at me which is unfortunate. All I can recommend is that you bring more than emotional reasoning and your personal "feelings" to the argument.



List them all... You seem to have read them all. Feel free to cite them all versus making a blanket "emotional statement".



Just like you want the court system to justify your problems... You are looking for people to validate your "feelings"... To validate your "emotional reasoning". Not sure what benefit that is going to get you as a whole.



So disagreeing with you is punishable by being banned. Interesting logic supported by no cogent or relevant evidence.



Now you are blaming everyone on this site for not supporting your argument. Re-read your messages a few times. You want to present your argument and everyone to agree with you? What a wonderful world you must live in where your opinion controls everything.

Good Luck!
Tayken

can we ask discloser of your credentials and background too or do we take your word on it that you are qualified to be giving all this advice?

 

[blinkandimgone]

Sure, we'll make a madatory part of the registration process that before anyone can post, they must disclose their credentials and experience. Why just single out Tayken?

 

[slughead10]

Sure, we'll make a madatory part of the registration process that before anyone can post, they must disclose their credentials and experience. Why just single out Tayken?

gotta start somewhere...and he is the only one asking for court file numbers.....

 

[Tayken]

can we ask discloser of your credentials and background too or do we take your word on it that you are qualified to be giving all this advice?

Sure.

I have no credentials. Already outlined in other threads. Same credentials you have. Same credentials everyone on this site has.

 

[Tayken]

gotta start somewhere...and he is the only one asking for court file numbers.....

Others have asked. Go through the posting in more detail.

 

[Tayken]

gotta start somewhere...and he is the only one asking for court file numbers.....

Yet, no one (well one has) produced them to date... Which makes their story just that... A story on a message board with no concrete evidence to reality.

I always find it interesting when someone comes, claims to have won something in court, but doesn't know if they got it on summary judgement or uncontested or they don't even know their court file number. Especially when they claim to have won something significant regarding custody and access and then continue to project blame at the system.

 

[Tayken]

*removed personal info*

 

[slughead10]

Yet, no one (well one has) produced them to date... Which makes their story just that... A story on a message board with no concrete evidence to reality.

I always find it interesting when someone comes, claims to have won something in court, but doesn't know if they got it on summary judgement or uncontested or they don't even know their court file number. Especially when they claim to have won something significant regarding custody and access and then continue to project blame at the system.

unlike you some of us do not live and breath this forum i leave legal maters unto my lawyer. i am a professional in my field and he is a professional in his.

its curious though that winning custody is something significant...is this because i am a man?


the way you present it it almost sounds like you believe there is bias in the system.....

 

[Tayken]

unlike you some of us do not live and breath this forum i leave legal maters unto my lawyer. i am a professional in my field and he is a professional in his.

Yet, you continually respond to messages, come here and post things... Odd.

its curious though that winning custody is something significant...is this because i am a man?

1. There are no "winners" in custody and access disputes.
2. There few if any "summary judgements" for custody and access and it would be a very well reported case if you were to present there were no "genuine issues" to bring to trial.
3. Not because you are a man... Because the case law does not support your statement of belief that your custody and access order is based on a summary judgement.

the way you present it it almost sounds like you believe there is bias in the system.....

Nope. My only concern is that you are putting forward information about "summary judgement" that is miss leading and/or incorrect. Custody and Access is rarely made on a "summary judgement". That is all... If it has been I am sure Carswell and other professional reporting services would report on it and it would be talked about in the legal community...

Good Luck!
Tayken