Billiechic.
Yes I was out of line. I was angry with a few comments, and I retaliated. I was not trying to stir things up between you and HD. Sorry.
I know that divorce is such a terrible emotional rollercoaster, and non of us are able to get off the ride, regardless of how much we try to.
I feel for the OP, as I feel for anyone who has been the victim of assault. I personally don't know how some men can do that kind of thing. I personally could never do it, nor live with myself if I knew my partner was not into it, or atleast a willing partner.
But as I said earlier, I have also been a victim of an allegation of this kind of assault, (and many others) and I went through some very difficult emotional moments wondering what would happen. It is a very difficult thing to defend against if the other side is very convincing, and you worry about going to jail and loosing your children for ever, not to mention your career, and all your friends. I lost many nights sleep, and it was very hard on everyone around me. I can also tell you that sitting in a jail cell waiting to find out if they will let you out is a very emotional thing, and some of the police are very quick to judge you.
Luck for me, I had enough other proof of her lies, that the judge saw the accusation for what it was, and I never had to face that kind of allegation again, as her focus was other allegations such as stocking and vandalization, but again all false.
Our courts are completely disfunctional. Both men and women are capable of abusing the system, and from what I have seen, I have witnessed bias, and I therefore have strong opinions on that. However I do look at each issue as a one by one problem, and I do try to give suggestions as to what you can do to help in that situation. I have studied much of the law, and am currently starting to study for an LLB.(may as well put to use what I have learned).
