Defacto custody and relocation
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Zhoozhelitsa
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LOL, sorry I misunderstood your previous post. I thought you meant some two local 'dads' not my kids' dads. The dads and I had a nice dinner last night and a discussion on how things will be handled in the long run. No one wants to fight, no one feels like court hassles will be necessary. 3 years down the road, the kids will have a say in what they want to do. My daughter's dad feels like respecting her wishes (she'll be 15) is what we need to go by, and I agree. My son's dad doesn't mind relocating wherever we go if there is a need. It's easy for him to find a job or even start a business anywhere in Ontario. I may have so support him for a while until he becomes financially established but that's quite alright, we've been helping each other out for years now. We split on good terms, getting along better now than we used to as a couple, actually.
LostFather
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lol...so noted..
LostFather
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Now there I am sorry to say I agree with you...and its coming sooner rather than later.
LostFather
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Funny you have no humours remarks about icebergs's postings......but that's all you really have in your bag of tricks...lol.
LostFather
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LF.... you must consider the possibility that you are suffering from a severe and chronic case of Vagina Envy...
Ohh and that "fudge packing" comment was ridiculous...
You should be ashamed of yourself.
And Zoo... you should stop pretending that you are a psychotherapist and that this thread is "textbook" and sooo "entertaining"...
If you were so superior, you wouldn't be here arguing with a bunch of strangers on an anonymous internet forum... you would be speaking with a Family Law Lawyer...
If you qualify for tax-payor funded public housing, then you will probably also qualify for tax-payor funded Legal Aid.... (which you will obtain while you are enjoying your tax-payor funded education)...
BTW... welcome to Canada!!!
You know I've asked you before about being stupid...and I'll ask again....do you know how the quotation thingy works....how many people do i have to say this to...if you're gonna quote me...quote me....don't put something in quotations and try and pass it off as mine....that is really yours or someone else's miss quote...you really make yourself look like an idiot..not hard to do i know when you look at whom you're supporting lol....they're good at the miss quote thing too.
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iceberg
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That's great. If the dads agree and u all work along, super. But this post I'm quoting contradicts your previous ones and I doubt anything has changed. But that's just my oopinion
iceberg
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LF.... you must consider the possibility that you are suffering from a severe and chronic case of Vagina Envy...!
What in the blue hell would make you think something like that?
mama2bee
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Guys you realize it's now the better part of 4 days a lot of us have spent bickering back and forth only to continuously go in circles. The only thing it is accomplishing is to make us all look like utter fools. For the most part none of us know each other outside of this forum, I think it is time we put the ego's down and move on. Not siding with anyone, not taking back any comments of which I have made,nor expecting anyone else to. Only suggesting this needs to stop. Possibly devote the time on other users posts whom need the advice, not spend the time negatively attacking one another. Would you not tell your kids to walk away from something like this, not give the others the satisfaction... let's take our own advice for once. 
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blinkandimgone
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I agree entirely with iceburg's postings, I think iceburg sees exactly what the OP is trying to do and the self-centred ulterior motives of the OP.
Not to mention iceburg doesn't make entirely non-sensical posts AND uses whole words which is appreciated by all those above teeny-bopper status.
Funny how you can manage the quote function but not a single period. Why don't you put your big boy pants on and find something better to do then continuing to hijack threads with your nonsense.
Its obvious to me, being a man, that the respondents to this request for help are men. I can see where she's coming from. She wants what is best for her children first, not what's best for her.
Seeing as there is no custody arrangement, only a verbal consensus, I'd say, continue on the way things are for now, say nothing to the two father's. They obviously are not interested or are unable to take on even a small responsible part of their child's future. One has a disability the other may not be able to find work to change his housing status. All speculation on my part. Sorry for the situation you are in.
Ideally, I'd say move, with your kids, to where your internship take you. Apply for a childcare subsidy in your new local, continue with your education.
When my ex left her spouse, the Welfare wanted her to quit her 13 year nursing job and stay home and look after her three kids. She said NO! I'll stay working full time and you pay for my childcare. She worked 12 hour shifts at a hospital and the sitter got the kids on and off the bus and she picked them up after work.
You being a student, this should be a piece of cake to start up.
When settled in apply for sole custody and try to eke out a small support amount from the two fathers. It probably won't be much, if anything, but it'll be something. Try to work with them instead of going by the court rules. Those rule are made to work in a perfect world, which we don't live in. What I mean is, use the rules like the dotted lines on the road. Their there to suggest a course of action, their not law.
Work out living expenses without their input. When and if you get something, put it towards the children's RESP's or into a tax free savings account.
Being a student, you might have more option for legal counsel.
As you mentioned from the outset, visit a family lawyer for their 30 minute free advice and see what your options might be.
I just finished a year long self represented custody/criminal battle with my ex common law spouse. I made some mistakes but I learned that a lack of counsel can impair outcomes. Try to find the best counsel you can and good luck.
Seeing as there is no custody arrangement, only a verbal consensus, I'd say, continue on the way things are for now, say nothing to the two father's. They obviously are not interested or are unable to take on even a small responsible part of their child's future. One has a disability the other may not be able to find work to change his housing status. All speculation on my part. Sorry for the situation you are in.
Ideally, I'd say move, with your kids, to where your internship take you. Apply for a childcare subsidy in your new local, continue with your education.
When my ex left her spouse, the Welfare wanted her to quit her 13 year nursing job and stay home and look after her three kids. She said NO! I'll stay working full time and you pay for my childcare. She worked 12 hour shifts at a hospital and the sitter got the kids on and off the bus and she picked them up after work.
You being a student, this should be a piece of cake to start up.
When settled in apply for sole custody and try to eke out a small support amount from the two fathers. It probably won't be much, if anything, but it'll be something. Try to work with them instead of going by the court rules. Those rule are made to work in a perfect world, which we don't live in. What I mean is, use the rules like the dotted lines on the road. Their there to suggest a course of action, their not law.
Work out living expenses without their input. When and if you get something, put it towards the children's RESP's or into a tax free savings account.
Being a student, you might have more option for legal counsel.
As you mentioned from the outset, visit a family lawyer for their 30 minute free advice and see what your options might be.
I just finished a year long self represented custody/criminal battle with my ex common law spouse. I made some mistakes but I learned that a lack of counsel can impair outcomes. Try to find the best counsel you can and good luck.
blinkandimgone
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I believe it's now obvious to everyone here, you didn't actually read the thread.
Its obvious to me, being a man, that the respondents to this request for help are men. I can see where she's coming from. She wants what is best for her children first, not what's best for her.
Seeing as there is no custody arrangement, only a verbal consensus, I'd say, continue on the way things are for now, say nothing to the two father's. They obviously are not interested or are unable to take on even a small responsible part of their child's future. One has a disability the other may not be able to find work to change his housing status. All speculation on my part. Sorry for the situation you are in.
Ideally, I'd say move, with your kids, to where your internship take you. Apply for a childcare subsidy in your new local, continue with your education.
When my ex left her spouse, the Welfare wanted her to quit her 13 year nursing job and stay home and look after her three kids. She said NO! I'll stay working full time and you pay for my childcare. She worked 12 hour shifts at a hospital and the sitter got the kids on and off the bus and she picked them up after work.
You being a student, this should be a piece of cake to start up.
When settled in apply for sole custody and try to eke out a small support amount from the two fathers. It probably won't be much, if anything, but it'll be something. Try to work with them instead of going by the court rules. Those rule are made to work in a perfect world, which we don't live in. What I mean is, use the rules like the dotted lines on the road. Their there to suggest a course of action, their not law.
Work out living expenses without their input. When and if you get something, put it towards the children's RESP's or into a tax free savings account.
Being a student, you might have more option for legal counsel.
As you mentioned from the outset, visit a family lawyer for their 30 minute free advice and see what your options might be.
I just finished a year long self represented custody/criminal battle with my ex common law spouse. I made some mistakes but I learned that a lack of counsel can impair outcomes. Try to find the best counsel you can and good luck.
So effectively don't bother with the other parent, and do your own thing....great co-parenting skills and sage advice for those that want to breed acrimony. Also, great way to get setup to have the courts order you to move back if you move without consent of the other parent.
Doing her own thing is great, until the other parents decide that they don't agree with her decisions. A move like this, which would effectively cut out the other parent from any chance of parenting time, is a material change of circumstances and reason to reopen custody.
If the other parents are unlikely to cause a challenge, chances are they are the best parents to begin with and more power to her. But if I were her ex, chances of her moving would be good. Chances of her moving with the child would be slim.
Well Lost Father if you Trust DTTE then you are a Lost Person. DTTE has a total lack of any sense in his head. Why do you think DTTE is single? Perhaps because he has some real issues and is not so well recieved by women. DTTE is arrogant and for the most part is idiotic. I have No use for him, nor his comments. Since I believe he uses this forum to hide his face on, perhaps he should try being a man? But I know many who have a great deal more courage than he ever could have.
I can see why his wife left and why she would take the children. I would take my child from him as well until he got the mental help that DTTE needs so desperatly.
I am well educated and in the areas of health care and make this as a statement of a well Educated Woman. I find this forum to be sickening and would like now to see it boycotted by all of the very decent people that came for help and got rudly dumped on. So you are similar to DTTE so you can also well I am a lady and will keep those remarks to myself. I have some pride and wish to only let people see why us women leave terrible men such as you are.
I can see why his wife left and why she would take the children. I would take my child from him as well until he got the mental help that DTTE needs so desperatly.
I am well educated and in the areas of health care and make this as a statement of a well Educated Woman. I find this forum to be sickening and would like now to see it boycotted by all of the very decent people that came for help and got rudly dumped on. So you are similar to DTTE so you can also well I am a lady and will keep those remarks to myself. I have some pride and wish to only let people see why us women leave terrible men such as you are.
blinkandimgone
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And yet, you're still here with the same tired schtick, spouting stories you just make up. Save us all some time and posts and go look up the identical responses you got every other time you've posted your poorly written diatribes against DTTE that are based on 'facts' you pull out of your ass.
If you're so unhappy here, why keep coming back?
If you're so unhappy here, why keep coming back?
billm
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I can't believe you posted that in a DIVORCE forum, that's just a stupid thing to say here.
blinkandimgone
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lmao!
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LostFather
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Rotflmao. .trust him?!.you must have me.mixed up with another person lol..Dicktte and myself are not seeing eye to eye at all! Just ask his side kick; blink without a penis.
There was a poll by him and blinky they were all excited about. My assumption about this poll was to do what they did to another poster in here that didn't agree with them and decided to let them know it....through this poll apparently there was some landslide of votes that didn't like the guy or something who knows. Anywho Dicktte and blinky decided to start another poll....something about me needing release...anyway...it didn't work out for them quite as planned and i started one of my own polls lol...not even sure if they are still open...look in the general chat section...who does it feel...and bullies...guess which one was my poll..Lmao.
In my humble opinion dicktte is a bully and an arrogant jerk. He's okay until you disagree with him or give him or blinky a taste of their own medicine. They're work like bunch of pack wolves hunting and stalking their prey.
I have to say Dicktte went further than even i had expected. So when his bullying tactics wouldn't work in the public forum for everyone to see. He decided to start stalking me in the pm's.
So I finally did what i should of a long time ago...put him to ignore list..what a breath of fresh air...I recommend to many others...to do the same...blink without a penis is next...but for now she's been staying away from me.
I do not trust him...but in my opinion be had something to offer people in here. Unfortunately others praise has gone right straight to their arrogant heads and they believe it gives them the right to treat people in here like shit. Blink, without a penis (I say this of the many posts where Dicktte and blinky love to play a game where she cuts down other woman apparently they do not know blinky is a woman and Dicktte sets up the puchline by letting the poster know.somewhere into the thread that blinky is a woman, and this is to apparently allow blinky to treat other woman or say things about other woman and treat them like shit) well she commented one day during one of their shows that she is a woman and that somehow her not having a penis is some kind of licence to verbally assault others mainly woman, that it somehow fives her credibility and validity...not!; They try to make others feel like a low life because they didn't win custody/access of their children,...well if his behavior in here is any indication of how h treated his ex I am certain she probably just needed to have it stop..I dunno just saying and only my opinion of course.
Oh and btw it was blinky that she trusted him....not me lol...go back a couple of pages.
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LostFather
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I will reframe from using the word stupid...but it was funny considering our company in here...yes, funny!
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mama2bee
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Hi there, my name is _____ and I have insecurity issues that I try to cover up by acting tough online. Please show me attention and argue with me so when I go to bed at night I can feel less alone. Thank you
No one needs to fill in this blank as the responses I am expecting shall be writing their own names in it.
Stop tearing people down on a damn forum and get over yourselves, it only makes you look like a fool and well who wants advice from a narcissist?
No one needs to fill in this blank as the responses I am expecting shall be writing their own names in it.
Stop tearing people down on a damn forum and get over yourselves, it only makes you look like a fool and well who wants advice from a narcissist?
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