daycare is GONE! - need advice for future

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youngdad91

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after a long 3 year battle and my refusal to pay a dime for the unilaterally chosen daycare by the mother (without any consultation with me ) the mother finally gave up. I think the daycare canned her given she could not afford it and kept promising to pay and my lawyer kept devastating their requests for over 3 years! The best part about it that the OCL confirmed the daycare's alignment with the mother. For all parent's reading this - be aware of biased daycare ligning up with the other parent!

now what is the best way to protect against mother doing this again in the future ? Just say no and that I am available to look after the kid when she is at work ? and fight the living crap out of it again ? I think it was cheaper to pay than fight but in the end I don't have to worry about any ongoing payments and my child isn't being looked after by that pipsqueak anymore.
 
Wow, you didnt have to pay a portion of the daycare for 3 years?. Count your lucky stars. So your ex paid 100% of the costs?

My ex got told by a Judge he had to contribute. Daycare is a HUGE expense, I am really surprised it wasn't ordered.

I feel for your child, yet another disruption in her little life. Kids strive for consistency in troubled times, it maybe a WIN for you, but what about the child loosing another caregiver? Sounds like you are in a high conflict, chances the ex is giving you that extra parenting time isnt going to happen, so now who will care for the child on your ex's parenting time?
 
kate331 said:
Wow, you didnt have to pay a portion of the daycare for 3 years?. Count your lucky stars. So your ex paid 100% of the costs?

My ex got told by a Judge he had to contribute. Daycare is a HUGE expense, I am really surprised it wasn't ordered.

I feel for your child, yet another disruption in her little life. Kids strive for consistency in troubled times, it maybe a WIN for you, but what about the child loosing another caregiver? Sounds like you are in a high conflict, chances the ex is giving you that extra parenting time isnt going to happen, so now who will care for the child on your ex's parenting time?
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Yes, She paid all of it. I never had to pay a penny. The court never ordered it.. Paid my lawyer instead. :D It was a HUGE win for our child. She was being alienated by the daycare too! I never considered her to be a care giver. More like a child molester who even called CAS on me! I don't believe in daycare to be honest when the other parent is available. Just another mechanism to control the father and his time with the children.

I have expanded my access to midweek overnight and sunday overnights, and got half of the holidays. more to come! I'm only one overnight away from shared parenting, i'll make it happen.

This whole kids strive for consistently in troubled times arguments are just excuses to create conflict and control the father and their time with the children by divorced mothers who get difficult, string and oppose any expansion of access when requested by the father.

Anyway, I also don't have to deal with no more of that I need the child back by 6pm to get her ready for school, and because of this, and because of that, and just blah blah blah.

All we ever hear from you is
BLAH BLAH BLAH BALH
All we ever do is go
JA JA JA JA
And we don't even care about what they say because
it's JA JA JA JA BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFbOHqCpeFs&feature=youtu.be&t=2887 (in celebration)
 
'Yes, She paid all of it. I never had to pay a penny. The court never ordered it.. Paid my lawyer instead.:D'

Good lord.

You need to re-read that. Insane.
 
youngdad91 said:
Yes, She paid all of it. I never had to pay a penny. The court never ordered it.. Paid my lawyer instead. :D It was a HUGE win for our child. She was being alienated by the daycare too! I never considered her to be a care giver. More like a child molester who even called CAS on me! I don't believe in daycare to be honest when the other parent is available. Just another mechanism to control the father and his time with the children.



I have expanded my access to midweek overnight and sunday overnights, and got half of the holidays. more to come! I'm only one overnight away from shared parenting, i'll make it happen.



This whole kids strive for consistently in troubled times arguments are just excuses to create conflict and control the father and their time with the children by divorced mothers who get difficult, string and oppose any expansion of access when requested by the father.



Anyway, I also don't have to deal with no more of that I need the child back by 6pm to get her ready for school, and because of this, and because of that, and just blah blah blah.



All we ever hear from you is

BLAH BLAH BLAH BALH

All we ever do is go

JA JA JA JA

And we don't even care about what they say because

it's JA JA JA JA BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFbOHqCpeFs&feature=youtu.be&t=2887 (in celebration)
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Child molester? Seriously? I assume this person has been charged and jailed since they are a child molester. You’re sick to even speak that way


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Hey, I wouldn't pay a daycare that wasn't needed because I was available to care for the children, that I didn't have any say in choosing, and who was assisting the mother to alienate me from my children either.


The best way to prevent it from happening again is to jump in right now, while there is no daycare, and start looking after the kids yourself. Set that precedent as soon as you can and establish it as status quo. Be very cooperative with the mother any time she takes a day off, leave work early, etc.


But honestly, if she tries to pick a daycare again, I'd fight it again. With this kind of person, you can never stop resisting anything unreasonable. As soon as they take an inch, they'll be looking for the mile in all other areas. Give in on this, and you'll find her pushing you in unrelated matters. You have to get it into her thick head that you will fight anything unreasonable until she gives up.
 
Rioe said:
But honestly, if she tries to pick a daycare again, I'd fight it again. With this kind of person, you can never stop resisting anything unreasonable. As soon as they take an inch, they'll be looking for the mile in all other areas. Give in on this, and you'll find her pushing you in unrelated matters. You have to get it into her thick head that you will fight anything unreasonable until she gives up.
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It's daycare. It's not unreasonable. In fact, attempting to circumvent your proportionate share of required daycare would seem to be an unreasonable stance.
 
mcdreamy said:
It's daycare. It's not unreasonable. In fact, attempting to circumvent your proportionate share of required daycare would seem to be an unreasonable stance.
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But he's said that this is unrequired daycare. And on top of that, she made the choice unilaterally to do it anyway, and chose someone who wasn't impartial.
 
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