talked to some more mediators in my area, maybe it depends on where you live? can't find anything cheaper than $150 an hour, but that is to be split between the two of you. One mediator is $200 an hour, but she has a semi retired lawyer friend who charges a flat fee of $250 to do his part, which is the best I've heard so far. Good luck to you too, all this stuff is bad enough wihtout having to spend a fortune to get what you need!!!!!