strange_brew
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Thanks. Sounds like you understand the frustration first hand.@strange_brew - don't try to understand the system... I think it's slightly flawed for the person with the higher income (but I could be bias) and those who don't want to take advantage of the system... It probably works well for the deadbeat dads who don't want to pay.
My ex left me, took half my pension, I pay almost $900 (the offset based on my salary and her salary) a month in child support and 70% of all their extra-ordinary expenses (like daycare). Which I still don't quite get since I thought that child support was meant to even out our household incomes? I struggle to break even each month (with average household expenses) and she can afford gym memberships, new car and a new wardrobe. I'm sure there is another 100 members on here that can write the same sob story.
So regardless of the number of zeros you each have in your salaries, it all comes down to entitlement... "the system" forces you (as the larger income) to provide child support... if she wants it, you have to pay ...however she can also agree not to take it. You can probably judge which action she will take from your situation.
There is no point in trying to understand it... I still struggle with this... you just have to go with it and pay it if she is requesting. I assume with your salaries you have lawyers looking after your interest... that's a must.
Good luck - it's in your best interest to try and keep the peace... that's my philosophyfor the kids, if nothing else
BTW: POF is an online dating site "Plenty of Fish" .. not necessarily a classy one.. Think one of the posters is more interested in your ex-spouses income verses trying to give some words of support.
What worries me the most is that she now has a clear incentive to reduce her income. She has talked in the past of "taking a package" and retiring early. Now she can use CS to fund her early retirement.
It's just fundamentally wrong.
