I agree, it is taking up so much of our attention because we want something done in our favor because we believe in it so much. I know it is stressing us out, we try and keep it as much away from the children as possible for a home normalcy sake. I am torn because for a child of 8 yrs, a year of this dysfunction and torment on them is probably equivalent to 3-4 years of our adult lives. A child at 8 yrs goes through so much development changes so very quickly, we blink as adults and they are already grown up. To have them develop with this sort of childhood as memories and parental teachings, what is it doing to them when they become adults.
These are the things that concern me and anger me about our current Court System. For a Judge not to look at all the submitted affidavit evidence to determine things like "it is apparent that mediation cannot work in this case" "There needs intervention immediately to stabilize this child" "It is clear that the applicant is trying to salvage habitual residence for these two children and shall grant Status Quo for their stability and normalcy". None of this happened for me because the Judge did NOT want to deviate no matter what was in front of his face. He appeared to be afraid to make change, even when change was made temporarily he averted back again.
I hear stories like this often and understand I'm not alone, so why does it happen? And, how can we put things down and how can we make it more clear to a Judge. Lawyers love to prolong, it puts them in a new $90,000 car every year and allows them to give their family a wonderful life at our children's expense. The system is messed up, but we as the parents fighting for our children need to combine what "has" worked and share it with each other to fight the dysfunctional family court system.
