Hello, Hoping someone can offer some advice or have been there. Will make it short. Live with my 3 children in more of a demo site then house (husband is a carpenter and ripped everything apart and left it like that for the last 10 years). Lets put it this way his lawyer tried to go after me for occupational rent...I sent him photos...he dropped it! LOL. Husband has a brand new condo. Not contributing towards costs, debts, child support, etc. I have been trying to get him to sign the listing agreement since February and have had him served last week with an application that I would not have to even have his sign off on the selling of the home. I just found out Friday that my home is full of asbestos. My middle son has autism and an auto-immune disorder and I dont want to keep him in that space a minute longer, but I can't afford to move and continue paying the mortgage and bills. He wont agree to any repairs on the house, but wont let me sell it. Don't know what to do, other then wait to get the courts ruling but what I have read here makes me think that could still be a lengthy process and a battle. I am debating purchasing the home off of him (doubt he will ever agree to that) just to do the repairs asap and maybe even stay there as I have a good school for my ASD son. I just feel like a prisoner. Has anyone been there, done that or any advice on how to nudge someone who is very happy with the position he is in? Thanks so much.
Buyout, Force Sale...Husband won't agree to anything. HELP!
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Janus
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Whose name is the mortgage in?
Perhaps you can get a before/after valuation of the house and just do the repairs.
Motion for child support and ridiculously high "interim" spousal support. The courts will agree, and then he will want things resolved ASAP. Ethically, you shouldn't be able to do that, but the courts love to help recipients play that game, so you'll probably be able to get away with it.
The legal system sucks, but it is good at one thing: Getting people to do things they don't want to do. You don't need to do a full divorce/separation thing, just motion to get this house stuff settled.
Rioe
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Asbestos in a half-torn apart home? Move out ASAP! This is a serious health issue. Don't waste any time.
Not to mention that the value of your home just plummeted. Stop paying anything towards it if you have to.
This might even qualify as an emergency to get you in court quickly for interim support from your ex so that both the mortgage and your new rent can be paid, or the house be sold promptly.
Not to mention that the value of your home just plummeted. Stop paying anything towards it if you have to.
This might even qualify as an emergency to get you in court quickly for interim support from your ex so that both the mortgage and your new rent can be paid, or the house be sold promptly.
Thank you everyone! Just the advice needed...ball is rolling. The mortgage and title is in both our names. Two accredited asbestos removals companies coming tonight for quotes. His lawyer has been notified. My lawyer is prepared to do an urgent motion on June 6th to have remove the need for his consent on the listing and offer. I am actually the bread winner in the family and initially when this all started I did offer him support, car, 50/50 access, buyout of the home in installments...I was told I better be "nicer then that"...Here we are today. Anywhoo, smile it will all work out...right? You are all brilliant. Thanks so much for your help.
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