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I don't want to tell my ex where I live. Where the child lives when with me. It is in same area but I want to hide it from her. Exchange can be done near by. If she needs to serve something she can find me at school every day or at hospital.

My question is can I do this, is it legal? If not then I will provide her address.

Also, my kid told me this "Dad, why do you want money from mom, mom said you want money from her and she cried" re: child support

Yesterday at hosp. she told me the kid is going to school in her area next year :-)
 
Not smart to keep your address from her. She has every right to know where her child is staying. Would you be alright if she moved and didn't provide you an address? In court, you would be ordered to provide
 
There is no good reason to NOT give your ex your address. Shake your head. Repeat. Then give her your address.
 
Each parent has the right to know where their child resides (for emergency purposes if no other reason). A judge will not be pleased with you should you go this route.
 
Why do you keep trying to create conflict?
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Bingo!

Its hard to understand but there are people that live for drama. I also think that some people are obsessed with their ex's and try to keep whatever kind of connection they can with them....even if its unhealthy and damaging to their children.
 
iceberg said:
I don't want to tell my ex where I live. Where the child lives when with me. It is in same area but I want to hide it from her. Exchange can be done near by. If she needs to serve something she can find me at school every day or at hospital.

My question is can I do this, is it legal? If not then I will provide her address.

Also, my kid told me this "Dad, why do you want money from mom, mom said you want money from her and she cried" re: child support

Yesterday at hosp. she told me the kid is going to school in her area next year :-)
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Most retail outlets request an address when doing a simple return. Why on earth should the mother of your child not have this info? Even if you were to get a restraining order, she'd need to know where to stay away from.

Besides, doesn't the child know their own address? I thought that was basics for the early years?

What a way to stick the kid in the middle - where revealing their address to their other parent is wrong.
 
HammerDad said:
Each parent has the right to know where their child resides (for emergency purposes if no other reason). A judge will not be pleased with you should you go this route.
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Agreed. To quote the Honourable Mr. Justice Czutrin whom is often heard stating this in his court rooms:

Every parent has the right to know where their children are sleeping every night.​

I would advise STRONGLY that you do not engage in this kind of nonsense Iceberg... EVER...

Good Luck!
Tayken
 
FB_ said:
Why do you keep trying to create conflict?
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Further to this question and PH's comments...

Often HCPs who exit an intimate relationship believe that the other person may still be in love with them or that the other person may want to cause them harm. These are delusions.

The HCP often believes that the other person whom they are creating conflict with may be the only person who can satisfy their desires and sees the other person as an ideal partner or ideal enemy - even if they don't admit to this openly. (They either idealize the other person or demonize them. Black to white... They don't see grey.)

The HCP may interpret any kind of response from the other person, even negative responses, as encouragement and may believe the other person owes them something because of all they have invested in their past relationship with them.

This type of HCP is very resistant to changing their beliefs about the other person they are in conflict with. They are often motivated by an inability to self regulate their emotional state and anxiety.

Good Luck!
Tayken
 
My ex stays most of the time with her sis and I have no their address. When I drop the kid off she meets me at a near-by place.

This is not revenge. I forgot to put the word "temporary". The reason why I wanted to hide this address is because I had horrible luck with rent lately and too many moves are not gonna look good on me. But when I think about it, no move was done without a good reason and if she really wanted to trace down my address' she can.

Btw, I love how some of you jump right to HCP....makes this forum more interesting :-)
 
If you truly believed it was the right thing to do, you would just do that instead of posting here and then trying to justify it when people disagree with your intentions.

If you behave in a conflct seeking or HC manner here, why would there be the assumption you don't with your Ex?
 
My ex stays most of the time with her sis and I have no their address. When I drop the kid off she meets me at a near-by place.
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So what? If you have a drama-laden, HC ex...you don't engage at her level and try to beat her in a jackass contest. In fact, just the opposite. Every time she acts like an idiot, you're on this board strategizing to one up her. It creates more conflict and is really bad for your kid. The real question is what is your motive? You seem obsessed with your ex, her family and everything she does. Its pretty creepy.

The reason why I wanted to hide this address is because I had horrible luck with rent lately and too many moves are not gonna look good on me. But when I think about it, no move was done without a good reason
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Another thing you do constantly. You think every time you pick your nose the wrong way, your ex is going to engage you in litigation. She has no grounds to vary the custody order based on the fact you changed apartments unless it seriously affects school, etc. Again, why do you constantly obsess over what your ex might think of where you live, etc. I think you really want to believe that she thinks about you and what you're doing all the time. The reality is that it sounds like she's moved on with her life.

Personally, I think you have an unnatural weird attachment to your ex and will try to create problems with her in any method so that you can feel that you're still connected to her in some way.
 
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If you truly believed it was the right thing to do, you would just do that instead of posting here and then trying to justify it when people disagree with your intentions.

If you behave in a conflct seeking or HC manner here, why would there be the assumption you don't with your Ex?
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It may be the right thing to do. I asked if it was legal such as if the cas would get involved over it etc. would a Judge be mad.

For you everything looks HC.

I give no rats ass who agrees or disagrees with me. I make no excuses. And quit deleting my posts.

PH you made a point there I will reply to you later.
 
Nobody has deleted your posts.

And if you don't care who does or doesn't agree with you, why not just make your own decisions rather than posting here asking for opinions?
 
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Pursuinghappiness said:
If you have a drama-laden, HC ex...you don't engage at her level and try to beat her in a jackass contest. In fact, just the opposite. Every time she acts like an idiot, you're on this board strategizing to one up her. It creates more conflict and is really bad for your kid. The real question is what is your motive? You seem obsessed with your ex, her family and everything she does. Its pretty creepy.
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Winner!

You have to be over the top reasonable, being the best example you can of how you WISH your ex would behave. Tell your ex you are moving, and provide the new address, just as you are supposed to. When she doesn't do something similar, who is the one who looks bad? It's that old 'two wrongs don't make a right' thing. You can't counter her bad behaviour by misbehaviour of your own. Then you both look bad.

As far as your own concern about your frequent moves looking bad, you can't do anything about bad luck. When you do find the good place, stay put. And as far as money, if your CS was handled properly, I believe you would have more funds and flexibility for housing, wouldn't you? So you can't be held responsible for being at a disadvantage.
 
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