above table support amount can that be stopped

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hi i pay 200.00 extra a month in child support for vitamins that my ex say my autistic son needs , well lately she is not buying them and wasting tons of money on nsf fees and overdrafts on a joint account she hasn't closed so i stil get the statements. she hasn't taken my son to a dentist or got his glasses fixed or taken to his therapist in over a year , yet she still getting the extra money , i got his glasses fixed I took him to the dentist and and the therapist ,
can I take her back to court and have the 200 extra payment stopped ?
I am sick of my kids going with out while I have to pay twice for these so called vitamins he's not getting .
cause i see it this way the 200 she is wasting on back fees and the 200 more i am putting out = 400 that could benefit the kids more.
any thoughts
 
Were you ordered to pay for the vitamins. I want to say I recall this and you were. I'd look at the agreement to see if it requires proof of the expenditure. If it does, only pay the amounts upon receiving receipts proving the ex has purchased them.

If you are not ordered to pay it, I'd simply stop and state that you will gladly reimburse her for the costs of the vitamins upon receipt of the expense, just like any other s7 expense.
 
well the fighting over money got so bad that we went to court and the judge lumped it with support . I was giving a hundred a month she was broke so she said that his expeses were 400 a month
she never provided proof i showed the judge my benefit info and that i had taken him to the dentist and got him his glasses etc. she was trying to say i wasn't cheating her on support but i had receipts and bank records so he said to let fro deal with it to lessen the fighting , but lately she hasn't bought these so called vitamins or sent him with them i just sick of seeing the money wasted and he is going without .
 
Send her an email asking about them why they aren't being sent with the child. That if the child still needs them, it is in their best interests that they be administered at both houses to ensure regularity. That if they are no longer needed and she is no longer purchasing them, that she agrees to reduce c/s by the amount she was purportedly spending on them.

Get her response and go from there. If she says she is still buying them, ask for them to be sent with the child for your parenting time. If she refuses (maybe states she doesn't trust you to administer them properly or whatever BS) reply that you are equally capable of parenting as she is, and that you wish to ensure the child receives the best care possible in both homes. That her playing gatekeeper with these vitamins, which you contribute to, is not in the child's best interests.

If, when it is all said and done, she still refuses to send the pills, I'd file a motion to reduce c/s. State you have no evidence that she is continuing to incur the expense, either in the form of receipts or vitamins being provided. That you are willing to continue, but only if receipts are provided and the vitamins travel with the child.
 
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