I guess my ex and I have a sort of different relationship. Our daughter has a mom and dad at both houses now, and none of us have a problem with it. He and I make the decisions about what goes on, but if the other "parent" were to pick her up from school, or sign her into soccer, we don't have a problem with it. We know legally the step can't make final decisions and everyone is cool with that. It took a lot of discussing and alot of boundaries set at the beginning, but now we're all fine. We all know our roles, and we're comfortable with them
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Thank you. She does benefit from it and its wonderful. She knows that at both places she is incredibly loved and she's comfortable with it. Generally speaking, we have 50/50 custody, but if one family is doing something special then its never an issue where she is, or if she's at dad's house and she misses mom, she just calls and comes over, its as simple as that. I guess its kind of an odd situation...even the brothers and sisters from the "other" family play together. We believe that we are all her family, and we all of us should know and feel comfortable with eachother. Its really a wonderful situation for all of us, and it sure beats being hateful and negative all the time. We sit together at soccer games and take turns bringing the other set of parents coffee lol. Took a while to get here, but it sure made the trip worth it.