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Old 12-14-2005, 02:50 PM
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Default Are you a carrot, egg or coffee bean?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and
how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was
going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting
and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with
water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil.
In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs,
and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit
and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the
carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed
it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what
you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.
She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the
daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell,
she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the
daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its
rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity - boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot
went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being
subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The
egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its
liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its
inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique,
however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed
the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on
your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a
coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but
with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with
the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup,
a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened
and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I
bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot
water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water
gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like
the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and
change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you
elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Old 12-14-2005, 06:14 PM
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this is great! It is definately food for thought........ thanks

Old 12-14-2005, 08:22 PM
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That's EGGxelent. it's BEAN awhile since I heard a good joke. Sorry carrot think of a play on words for carrott.ha. I think I'm basically the egg, trying to turn into the bean. I KNOW what I have to do logically, but emotionally I've learned that I will be soft and sweet with my family, other than that I view people at a distance, if you know what I mean. I know it's not going to resolve anything but it will fend off certrain types of people--I just seem to attract people who aren't good for me so my solution is to keep them all at bay. Sounds negative but I've never really let myself get too connected to anyone for quite awhile now--keeps things SAFE AND UNCOMPLICATED.
Old 02-15-2006, 07:04 AM
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Hello Hubby,

Jeesh, you are everywhere, eh? Every time I read your post, I somehow feel close to you. Haha I know that doesn't really make sense but I guess it's because I always see your username where-ever I go.

Anyhows, Just wanted to say thank you again for posting such wonderful story. It really warms my heart up whenever I read your cute lil' stories.

Old 02-18-2006, 10:47 AM
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thanks for sharing that hubby..very thought provoking..and I'm happy to report I'm a bean!!lol

Actually when I really think about it, when all the madness started I thought I was a carrot..and then felt a little eggy for a while..but now that time has passed I can see that I'm very bean-like..
Old 02-20-2006, 12:56 AM
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Beautiful story!

Im with Julie, I feel like I really know you thanks to your contribution on this forum.

Keep it up Hubby
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