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Old 02-05-2018, 04:41 PM
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I need a lawyer in the Ottawa area(preferably towards the east end) to help me with my divorce.


I have been separated 3.5 years. separation agreement signed 1.5 years ago, and the division of property a few weeks later.


Three weeks ago I filed for divorce. Last week My ex filed a motion to gain sole custody of our two children(currently 50/50). she is after full child support, as well as full spousal support. As well as retroactive support going back two years.


I am a mechanic not a psychiatrist, but all the research I have done over the past few years says the same; Narcissistic personality disorder.


The other issue I have is that my ex is a lawyer. So she is incredibly intelligent as well as knowing the law. I need a lawyer Who knows how to deal with this type of personality?
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Old 02-05-2018, 09:39 PM
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Interview three lawyers. Ideally:

- Who do family law exclusively, or >85% of their files;
- At least 5 years of experience; and
- Who you have a good gut feeling about

All lawyers have deal with more than their share of people with cluster B personality disorders. It comes with the territory.
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Old 02-05-2018, 10:02 PM
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you have a signed separation agreement that should of dealt with the child custody and SS.

Your ex is a lawyer and you are an automotive tech so I figure she makes more then you do so why does she think she is entitled to support? Unless she isnt working as a lawyer?

Dont try to analyze yours exs mental state. You are not qualified to do that no matter how much reading you may have done. You are emotionally involved so cannot form an unbiased opinion.

From what I have read here she is barking up the wrong tree as I cannot see where she would be entitled to change the agreement. What are her reasons to go for sole now?
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Old 02-06-2018, 10:56 AM
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Talk to a lawyer.

But relax a bit.

I assume that you have had the kids 50-50 for several years now. Read status quo. That should deal with full table CS issue.

She has to prove needed support and as a lawyer, practicing or not, a salary should be inputted to her. Plus she has not received SS to date? That should also help.

A lot of women are horrible about their ex's money....they really feel entitled to all of it. Lawyer up, it will be cheaper in the long run.

Just because she wants it, doesn't mean she will get it.
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Old 02-06-2018, 12:49 PM
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Your ex doesn't have a personality disorder. 1-2% of the population has a personality disorder.

Read this and stop the nonsense: http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/s...ad.php?t=19845
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That last post by Tayken is awful advice....It is real simple in my opinion. If your ex is consistently accusing you of things they are in fact guilty of themselves and you are the only with concrete proof - they have a personality disorder. PERIOD.
Follow your own instincts - if your ex does indeed have a narcissistic or Borderline personality disorder then they will likely eventually provide you with the proof you need. Over time and with organization you can collect the proof and they will have a hard time in court with any decent lawyer.
You have to be honest with yourself though - if she has proof of her allegations then Tayken is correct. There is no defence in simply stating she is narcissistic.
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Old 03-30-2018, 02:17 PM
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I lived with her for 16 years. I have seen her friends come and go. She has used people her whole life, to get what she needs. Just to watch her throw them away like they mean nothing. I have done my research as well. If you say that 1-2% of the population has a personality disorder? Well I at least know 50-100 people. No one else I know is like my ex. Our old marriage Counceller told me privately to take heed. She also said that in 24 years of couples therapy she has never met someone like my ex. She said to prepare for the worst.
So with a great deal of certainty, I believe she is a textbook example of a narcissist!
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I am a mechanic not a psychiatrist, but all the research I have done over the past few years says the same; Narcissistic personality disorder.
And it is highly unlikely your research is worth a pot of piss and the other parent in the situation is NOT personality disordered. She is not a textbook example of a narcissist.

Read this: https://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/...ad.php?t=19845

We have all seen your BS on this forum a hundred times. Hence the reason we simply post the same thing over and over.
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