Hoping someone can clarify this process for me. I know I need to go to the court house and speak to someone about filing papers, do I need an appointment to have someone help me fill them out? I'm looking for sole custody with reasonable visitation, as my ex lives on the other side of the country now.
Can I send these papers by registered mail to him? What happens if he refuses to send the forms back at all?
If he doesn't agree, does he need to come back to my province to fight it in court, or can he fight it from his new province?
Will the person at the court house put all of the terms I'd like in proper legal language on the forms? I spoke to a lawyer on the phone, who told me I definitely want to have it stated that while our daughter visits him this summer he cannot access family court services with her in his province, and that if he does not return her, the authorities are to locate her and return her to me. The lawyer I spoke to told me I definitely needed a lawyer to fill these out, but I assume all lawyers would say that, and he wanted $400 an hour with a $3500 retainer. So I'm trying to do this without a lawyer if at all possible.
My ex wants our daughter to visit for the entire summer, but she only wants to visit him for half, and spend the other half here with us. I would really like to do what she wants, but I know he's going to have a complete fit about it. I had told him previously that he could have her for the great majority of the summer, but now that our daughter is saying she doesn't want to be there all summer, I'd like to find someway that everyone can mostly get what they want. Unfortunately, when she's in his care, she "changes" her mind to whatever it is he wants to do, I don't know if she's actually being pressured into it, or if she just doesn't want to disappoint her father so she says whatever she thinks he wants to hear. I'd like to avoid this sort of thing, as it happened over the Christmas holidays and caused her A LOT of stress. I don't believe she's capable of making these decisions. In fact she told me the other day that she wanted me to make the plans, but that she wanted to spend half the summer here. How do I do this? Do I just tell him, this is how it's going to be, she'll fly out on this date, and you return her on this date or else? I'd like to word it in a much nicer way than that if possible, but leave no room for her "changing" her mind once she's with him, to keep the stress off her.
Last, if he refuses to sign the papers and agree to the custody arrangement, what am I supposed to do? The lawyer told me it would be a VERY bad idea to allow her out of the province without an enforcable custody order. Will it come back to bite me later if he refuses to sign and I tell him I just can't send her unless there's an order in place? I don't want to keep her from him, but I REALLY don't want this to turn into a nightmare where she's being held out of province and not being returned to me.
Thank you to anyone who made it this far!
Can I send these papers by registered mail to him? What happens if he refuses to send the forms back at all?
If he doesn't agree, does he need to come back to my province to fight it in court, or can he fight it from his new province?
Will the person at the court house put all of the terms I'd like in proper legal language on the forms? I spoke to a lawyer on the phone, who told me I definitely want to have it stated that while our daughter visits him this summer he cannot access family court services with her in his province, and that if he does not return her, the authorities are to locate her and return her to me. The lawyer I spoke to told me I definitely needed a lawyer to fill these out, but I assume all lawyers would say that, and he wanted $400 an hour with a $3500 retainer. So I'm trying to do this without a lawyer if at all possible.
My ex wants our daughter to visit for the entire summer, but she only wants to visit him for half, and spend the other half here with us. I would really like to do what she wants, but I know he's going to have a complete fit about it. I had told him previously that he could have her for the great majority of the summer, but now that our daughter is saying she doesn't want to be there all summer, I'd like to find someway that everyone can mostly get what they want. Unfortunately, when she's in his care, she "changes" her mind to whatever it is he wants to do, I don't know if she's actually being pressured into it, or if she just doesn't want to disappoint her father so she says whatever she thinks he wants to hear. I'd like to avoid this sort of thing, as it happened over the Christmas holidays and caused her A LOT of stress. I don't believe she's capable of making these decisions. In fact she told me the other day that she wanted me to make the plans, but that she wanted to spend half the summer here. How do I do this? Do I just tell him, this is how it's going to be, she'll fly out on this date, and you return her on this date or else? I'd like to word it in a much nicer way than that if possible, but leave no room for her "changing" her mind once she's with him, to keep the stress off her.
Last, if he refuses to sign the papers and agree to the custody arrangement, what am I supposed to do? The lawyer told me it would be a VERY bad idea to allow her out of the province without an enforcable custody order. Will it come back to bite me later if he refuses to sign and I tell him I just can't send her unless there's an order in place? I don't want to keep her from him, but I REALLY don't want this to turn into a nightmare where she's being held out of province and not being returned to me.
Thank you to anyone who made it this far!
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