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Originally posted by iona6656 View PostDisagree. It's not ridiculous.
I didn't say the child needed time to adjust...I agree that you could theoretically just drop the kid off and leave- I mean- that's what daycare is...
I said it could be a process of both parties adjusting.
No wait, that didn't happen. It turns out that it is completly unreasonable to keep a child away from its parents until the parent has figured out what they are doing.
There's a reason that the courts- and many PCs (and I'd bet money child psychologists would be on board)- recommend short gradual visits that increase.
If we went through Canlii, I would be willing to bet my entire life savings that if we looked at the gender of the parent that needed gradual visits that increase over time, over 80% would be fathers. I would not bet as much, but strongly suspect, that the actual figure would be over 98%.
"Getting used to a parent" is sexist bullshit.
many daycares and Montessori's recommend (if possible) that you do a two week adjustment period where the kid goes for a couple hours each morning to get used to the childcare providers.
The kids did not care. In my years at the camps, I can count on one hand the number of kids that were still crying ten minutes after their parents were out of sight.
In this case- it doesn't sound like the father has spent much time with the child. This dude sounds like HE needs some adjusting time.
I fail to see the drawback of a graduated parenting plan where one parent has not been the child's primary parent. As long as you get to a reasonable percentage of shared access quickly- who does this hurt?
If quickly is "within a month", then I'm game. That said, the proper amount is "whatever length of time hospitals give new parents to get used to their kid before discharging them".
Hint: That time is measured in hours to days, not weeks or months.
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