Originally posted by Nadia
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Judging from what I read in your threads it appears as though you are dealing with a highly conflicted individual. For whatever reason the issues have evolved in the situation and often, they are temporary, the one thing that I think you have done consistently is sought out better advice than the other party.
Often, people leave it all up to their lawyer to resolve the conflict when in fact, the lawyer is just there to advise on the Rules and Acts. A very good lawyer will have additional training in conflict management and resolution but, often the vast majority of them do not.
Investing the time you have and considering other alternatives to resolving conflict will hopefully pay off. Containing the conflict is an incredibly difficult challenge. Based on what you write on this site, it is clear that you are doing your very best on not creating unnecessary conflict.
Conflict will always be involved in a "family law dispute" as it is the nature of the process. But, how you deal with conflict is often what leads to settlement in a matter. Your position on conflict resolution is quite remarkable and although you may be frustrated at the situation it appears (based on what I read) that you are always looking for alternatives to reduce conflict rather than create it or - add fuel to the fire.
The best defence to conflict is understanding the resolution strategies on how to not escalate a situation. OFW is a great way to contain the conflict at minimum and provides tools to better communicate with the other parent. When communications get outrageous (allegations of parental alienation, stalking, blah blah blah) it is all logged and tracked. Hopefully you never need to use the messages as evidence in defence of being an equal parent but, should you be forced to (by motion / trial) it is there, easily accessible and does tell a better and more coherent story than email and more importantly SMS.
General advice to everyone: Quit it with the SMS. It is crap, instant communications and the expectation from anyone using SMS is an instant response. It is probably the worst communication tool two parents in conflict could be using in my honest opinion.
I think your rationalization of matters Nadia will be something that the children involved in your matter will respect most about you as a parent in the future if they already don't know it.
Good Luck!
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